kids

United States
June 5, 2008 5:16pm CST
What do you guys think - Is it good to have kids immediately after marriage or do you guys think we have wait few years after marriage?
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10 responses
• Canada
9 Jun 08
Oh, I would say wait a bit. We had our first right away, but it was an accident. I would never change having her, but we found so many things the first few years that we had never done before as an independant couple. You lose so much spontanaiety with children, and everything is more complicated and a heck of a lot less about you and more about protecting and entertaining your little ones. I think that 2 years is a nice round figure - enough time to have some fun together but not so much that you get too settled in your independant ways. Blessings!
@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
9 Jun 08
I'd probably go with waiting personally - i think that when you get married it might be nice to spend a little while with your spouse as a couple before you throw children in to the mix. Also, there's no guarantee you'll conceive immediately anyway so it might take a little time - remember, you kind of need pretty good timing to fall pregnanct! When you get married too, everything is kind of a little hectic & moving together (if you don't already live together), the cost of the wedding itself & the things that go with that. It might be nice to make sure you can afford to be having children before you just start having them. It really is a personal decision, whether you want to have alone time with your partner before starting a family or if you want to start as soon as possible. If i was getting married i'd probably wait a little bit but it would also depend on how long we'd been together, how old i was & what our financial situation was before i jumped in to anything!
@kezabelle (2985)
7 Jun 08
I think it depends on the couple, having children straight after marriage isnt for everyone neither is waiting so it just depends when each certain couple wants to have children.
@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
6 Jun 08
I think having kids immediately after marriage is just an OLD preconception and should NOT be applied anymore. How can you have kids as a married couple, if you just became a married couple - you don't even know what a married couple is until a couple of years have passed since you married - i am not attacking or anything, but in my country some people still have this preconception - including the young generation - that people have children immediately after marriage and it gets me annoyed. Have a nice day !
@mayka123 (10546)
• India
6 Jun 08
I think it is good to wait for couple of years for the husband and wife to know each other better and settle down nicely. Coz once the kids come life just changes.
• United States
6 Jun 08
I think it is important for people to be sure their marriage is steady before they have children. It takes a while to learn about each other and get used to one another. Once you feel comfortable then I would think about children. I do have to agree with the other poster about taking age into consideration. I would not want to be 70 when my child would graduate. Each couple is different, though.
@jyjnl_jia (430)
• China
6 Jun 08
In my opinion,it is a personal question and it may be dirrerent for people.If you want to have a baby after marriage immediately,just do it.If you dont want ,then dont.Do following you mind and you will be happy.
@snakequeen (1300)
• India
6 Jun 08
Hi! A couple of points have to be taken into account before deciding about having kids, after marriage. If you get married at a very young age, you can postpone having kids for some years. If you get married late, it is advisable to go for kids immediately or within two years of marriage! The most important point one has to consider here is age of your spouse also!
@anawar (2406)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Hi. A general rule of thumb is to wait at least two years before having a baby. The two years gives a couple time to strengthen their relationship and learn about each other. Bringing a baby into a marriage is exciting and challenging. If you're solid as a couple, then whenever you feel ready, go make babies!
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
5 Jun 08
I think it's more important for every couple to figure out what will work best for them. Some couple are perfectly happy starting their family immediately, other couples prefer to have a few years without children to adjust to married life. There is no right or wrong way to do it, all that matters is that each couple feels they are doing what is right for them.