Boys not allowed to shed tears?

Indonesia
June 5, 2008 11:05pm CST
Do you have any idea about that? My mother ask me not to cry when expressing emotion because i am a boy. Now, it is difficult for me to express my emotion. Drop a tear, oh i am afraid to do that because i am ashamed.
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7 responses
@diansinta (7554)
• Indonesia
9 Jun 08
I am the only girl at my family and i have 2 brothers. One time i see my younger brother in cry when our family ecomomic going down and we have many debt. He was very smart to enter the Unair university, all of his friends using car or Motor bike to go to school but not my brother he just used a bicycle everyt ime he go to class form Karang Menjangan Street to Kampus C Unair ant Dharma Husada street.After school he go to Ahmad Yani street to work as Internet Cafe staff at Arief Rahman Hakim Street. And this happen every day. From his tears i know and see he would help my parents condition, but he can't yet. I will always understand when a man cry, same like women. Tears are good to get out from body better than an anger. Believe me it's normal and help us to stay young.
@diansinta (7554)
• Indonesia
10 Jun 08
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• Indonesia
10 Jun 08
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@challs12 (549)
• Malaysia
11 Jun 08
To be honest, I don't shy to cry, but I just don't know how to cry. I sometimes feel sad when something bad happened to me, but I never shed a tear.
@jickyeung (201)
• Hong Kong
8 Jun 08
Don't try to hide your feeling, no matter happy or sad, boy or girl. If you want to cry, just let it happen. If you always suppress your feeling, you will end up feeling more and more depress. However, I know some people like forcing himself/herself to cry, just for enjoying the feeling of sadness. This is dangerous, and make you feel down easily. As a conclusion, try to express your emotion appropriately. Don't hide it.
• India
6 Jun 08
Im sorry ur brought up, not to cry...well i guess thats how most of the mom do 4 their boys, at least in the cases i have seen...now, i guess ur in a position, to make choices on ur own..but yeah even if ur emotional, i guess u cant get tears out? If you can, just go on ahead. And that notion of a man who never cries is masculine...its so not in 4 now. I love guys who r soft, who r emotional when needs to be, who are soft and caring, guys who can express their emotions...lovely...i love a man like that...i guess most of the women do...just try to let go and you can be relieved by it...
@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
6 Jun 08
Why would you be ashamed? Crying is the result of overwhelming emotions. It's natural to anyone to shed tears when they feel too much happiness, anger or sadness. I think you will be considered not normal if you never had shed any tear. BEsides no one will sue you or put you in jail by just shedding a tear. It's not unlawful. I even gave much respect for those man who are not afraid to show thier emotions or those who cry infront of other people. Atleast they show to anybody that they are natural human being.
@mialei23 (2386)
• Philippines
6 Jun 08
Some say you will know if a guy is really masculine if they never cry. But I know its not good to hide emotions, when your upset and need to show your feelings you don't have to be afraid to cry. People tend not to cry are a sort of bitter. Don't be afraid shedding a tears is not abnormal, it is one way of showing of what you feel inside.
• China
6 Jun 08
Do not ashamed! When you meet some terrible expressing emotion, tears are allowed!