Have you ever just felt throwing in the towel?????????????
By sudalunts
@sudalunts (5523)
United States
June 6, 2008 3:03pm CST
I've been married for 9 years, actually yesterday was my anniversary.
When I met my husband I was not working because of a downsizing from my place of employment.
I had a nice severance package, and had continued my education.
Well, my husband does not like to work, before we got married he got a job as an assistant manager at a store in the mall, after we got married he left that job and started selling cemetary property, he was actually home more than he was selling. Afterwards, he wanted to start his own business, I was very supportive, it was okay, it kept us above H2O along with my salary.
Now, he is making hardly any money, I go to work, at a job that I HATE, but can not quit, because I need that income and he is home all day, proclaiming to be working but no money is coming in. After rent and bills are paid, I have nothing left to even buy a newspaper.
I know I am frustrated
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
6 Jun 08
you sound it. i was frustrated wtih my marriage and i left my hubby for about 6 months and the gamble was worth it, he did change for the better, but of course that is not always the case!
i really dont know what to tell you, do you feel like he is freeloading?
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@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
6 Jun 08
He just do not want to work for anyone. He wants to be his own boss, and the funny thing about it is he really think he is working, even though there is no money coming in.
He tells me to pray about my job situation, and God will take care of it.
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
6 Jun 08
yes that is true, but as a true believer in God, he gives you the tools and abilities to go after what you want - my take anyways!
i know how you feel about throwin in the towel though, i am this close to doing this at work due to health issues, but we need the money!
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Well, you didn't say what he does all day so I am assuming that he doesn't do much. There is plenty of work to be found if he is willing to do it. I would set an ultimatum and tell him that you would like to be your own boss too,but that you can't and that you are not willing to do all of the work and pay all of the bills anymore. Make him get a job or get out!!
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
1 Jul 08
Yippee, I husband landed a job today 7/01/08. Starts work tomorrow.
@thebeaddoodler (4262)
• Lubbock, Texas
6 Jun 08
I'm sorry I don't have anything positive to say about this situation. Nobody is so blind that they can't see when their efforts at running their own business are futile and the bills are barely getting paid by the other partner in the marriage.
Yes you can pray about the situation, but in the long run, is something going to just fall in his lap? Pray for him to open his mind to the truth. . .that it's not working!
I'm sorry. I don't mean to make you feel even more down because I know this is a hard situation for you. It just infuriates me when one partner expects the other one to bear all the financial burden so they can do what they want to, or avoid doing something they don't want to do. Does he thing you WANT to go to a job that you hate?
