as wife....or mom?

Philippines
June 7, 2008 9:21am CST
This two important roles that every housewife played is not easy yet it is very hard especially when some point in time you have to weigh your decisions,feelings and the consequences. In most cases,when a critical decision comes your way wherein you have to balance the demand of your husband and the feeling of you kids, these where you role as wife and as a mom become complicated.And the first thing you can do is whispher to yourself "What I have to do?".
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• Philippines
9 Jun 08
Your right, balancing between a mom and a wife is one of the major problems in every woman who has there own family. Obligation had to be grown farther than you expected when the kids grown up. You're attention will be more on your children rather your husband because you will feel that is the right thing to do. Sad to say that is the wrong move..You can't choose between your children and your husband. You have to balance our time, love and affection between them even it's become harder on your part. Every time you had that complicating situation, just remember that they are your family. Maybe you will lost your temper and patient for them and that is normal, were only human but I know in your heart your love for them is eternity. And the most important thing is don't forget to pray, Jesus will guide you every step of the way.
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
Your correct and got I point. It is important that you know how to balance your time for your kids and your husband.
@jcj_111776 (3221)
• Philippines
7 Jun 08
I've been married for almost 7 years and a mom to an almost 5 year old boy. There were times that I felt as if I'm torn between my duties as a mom and wife. There was even a period in my marriage that my husband felt a little jealous over the attention I was giving to our son. It is a balance that should be carefully and tactfully considered. It's not easy but it is our role. It's a challenging role to have but in some ways, it is humbling. I've read something a few years back saying that a wife doesn't have the excuse of taking less care of her husband because of the kids. It doesn't mean that he's the adult, he can take care of himself and not to expect much from his wife and that he should readily accept and understand that their kids need his wife's tender, loving care than him. With or without kids, a wife should still remember that she has responsibilities to fulfill. And it's up to her how she balance her dual role. But it's very important that she does both responsibilities in the best way that she can.
• Canada
9 Jun 08
Hi i can agree with you guys, im a 18 year old mother to a 10 1/2 month old boy who is VERY active, i go to school part time, and i do all the house chores around the house while my hubby is at work, and when he gets back from work im over tired and just have no energy, after putting the babe to sleep. But what we do after he gets off work is sit down watch television and cuddle, and i usually go to bed shortly after, We talk in the morning we have our free time as his brother will watch the babe for a hour or so. we try to spend as much time together as well. And i really do agree ive only been with him for about... 2 1/2 years we hit our bumps on the way but managed to go around them, its all about communication as well.
@lananh (49)
• Vietnam
7 Jun 08
Beside time which you spend for your children, you have to spend for your husband. You have to balance this. But this is difficult for you to do it everytime. Sometimes you will fell over tired.You busy social work. The work makes your mind'untidy.You will be stress.Therefore, you will take care of everyone in your familly. You need relax. It help you very much.
• Philippines
7 Jun 08
Yes your right,all we need is to be strong enough to face the challenges in life. And sometimes whe need time for ourself.
• Philippines
16 Jun 08
Most mom spend their time taking care of their little ones but we shouldnt forget our responsibility of being a wife to our husband. We should learn how to balance those two tasks and we shouldn't prioritize only we one. We should prioritize both. i love my baby and husband so much. And im willing to do everything and anything for them.
@WATARIKENJI (1534)
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
I think the first thing you should do is ask God for guidance and he will set the table for you.