Do you get along with your Mother in Law?

@Nana530 (286)
United States
June 7, 2008 1:09pm CST
I have always heard horror stories from people who didn't get along with their Mother-in-law, but I never, ever had that problem. I loved her so much. She was a wonderful person who worked so hard to raise her children. Her husband died in his early thirties leaving her alone to raise four kids. She sharecropped and provided them with a home and food. They had it really hard. But I will always be greateful to her for raising such a wonderful son who became my wonderful husband. That alone would have made me love her.
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• United States
7 Jun 08
Me and the In-Laws, get along great. I met most of them while my husband and I were still just dating. We would all go out to dinners together and just have a great time. It could be possible that the reason I get along with the In-Laws so well is I told each of them that as long as they stay out of my business, I'll stay out of yours, and thus far they have held to their word and I've held to mine. Or it could be just that I'm one of the lucky few who actually gets along with the other half's family. However, it's not always sunshine and roses, there have been times where viewpoints have clashed and we've been angry with each other, but in the end even those differences were worked out to where when Thanksgiving or Christmas rolled around none of us were dreading seeing one another.
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@Nana530 (286)
• United States
7 Jun 08
Well, that's good. It's always so nice for everyone to be getting along well through the holidays. Makes it a lot better for everyone doesn't it.
• United States
8 Jun 08
Yes, it surely does. Much more pleasurable and everyone is able to enjoy the holidays and family get togethers as they should be, instead of being tense all the time and wishing they would just go home.
@ushaqwer (95)
• India
22 Aug 08
u are very luky to have good husband and mother in law.now adays we are not getting good husbands but u are luky, u have got a good mother in law too.be hapy.your mother in law is realy gret,she is a good mother.hapy my lotting.
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@Nana530 (286)
• United States
25 Aug 08
Thank you very much ushaqwer, what a sweet thing to say. I hope only good things come your way. Happy my lotting to you also. Nana
• United States
8 Jun 08
I guess I got along well with my mother in law. She didn't say much to me and I never said much to her. But she was a very nice lady
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@Nana530 (286)
• United States
25 Aug 08
Well Kanesha1028, I guess that's one way to get along. :o) Just don't say too much to each other. Hey, whatever works, right? Thanks so much for reading and taking time to comment. Nana
@teena22 (422)
• Italy
8 Jun 08
when i was still not married to my husband, my mom-in-law never ever say a word to me. maybe she thinks i'm not good enough for his son. but when my husband and i got married...she loves and looks at me im fit for her son (hope so hahaha)...
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@Nana530 (286)
• United States
25 Aug 08
Well teena, thank goodness she changed after you were married. It's so much better when we can get along with our in-laws isn't it? Thanks for reading and commenting. Nana
@ryzach (1546)
• United States
8 Jun 08
I get along great with my mother-in-law. She is a great person. She is a very caring person and is not into our business as I hear some mother-in-laws can be. She is like a friend to me and since my mother is no longer with us I can turn to her as a mother figure if I need too. She has a big heart and is always there to help out if needed. She lives out of state but we get to see her a couple times a year. Once we visit her and once a year she and my father-in-law will visit us. In fact they will be here this summer. Looking forward to their visit.
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@Nana530 (286)
• United States
25 Aug 08
Isn't it nice that you can look forward to a visit from your in-laws? I think that is wonderful. So many people don't have this experience. Thanks for reading and commenting. Nana
@jeanena (1858)
• Bucklin, Kansas
8 Jun 08
I have very wonderful In laws . My husband was adopted, him and his sister were taken away from an abusive parent. Mom and dad ringwald gave him a good life. The accepted my son from a previous marriage as their own grandchild and have never treated him any different than they have Our kids we had together. I was blessed by wonderful In Laws in both of my marriages.
@Nana530 (286)
• United States
25 Aug 08
That's wonderful jeanena. They must really be special people. I'm happy to hear that they gave him a good life and he was removed from an abusive situation. So much of that happening; it's sad. Thanks for reading and commenting. Nana
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
8 Jun 08
My kids adn I absolutley ADORE my husbands mum...she is a wonderful sweet woman who has been nothing but loving and accepting of us....MY mother however doesnt care for my husband (because he's been a good thing in the lives of the kids and I which throws a wrench in her desire to have my life suck LOL) and my husband doesnt care for her because she is and has always been so abusive to me...
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@Nana530 (286)
• United States
8 Jun 08
Awww that is really sad. But I am so happy that you have found a great mom with your hubby's Mom. You deserve it.
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
7 Jun 08
I think we have more a love-hate relationship, lol. She never really got over it that her son chose to marry a non-American girl. For the longest time she pretended that she doesn't understand me until one of her sisters told her in not so nice words to finally give it a rest, lol. She still sometimes does it. So we didn't get off to a good start and somehow the rift never completely healed. And sometimes she'll intentionally do something to upset me but over the years I have learned not to let her do that. Funny though, my BIL married a nice all-American kind of girl who ended up divorcing him after five years of marriage. She was my MILs darling and couldn't do anything wrong. She is still on a pedestal, even though communication between them is starting to break down after the divorce. Oh well, I love my husband but I don't have to love her, just occasionally tolerate her;) Luckily enough we live far away from my in-laws and hubby doesn't get along with her either....(and that was true long before he met me;))
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@Nana530 (286)
• United States
7 Jun 08
Well that's awesome that one of her sisters said something about her bad treatment of you. It probable is a good thing that ya'll live far away, at least you don't have to see her every day. You know what they say, "What goes around, comes around" so the day may come when she will need family; and no one will be there. Really sad in a way.
@phoenix25 (1543)
• United States
7 Jun 08
I am thankful to my MIL for giving birth to my husband. If it wasn't for her, he wouldn't be here, but that's about where my appreciation for my MIL ends. I wouldn't have had a problem with her if she would have adhered to my son's strict feeding schedule when he was a baby so that he would start sleeping through the night. When she would watch him, she would feed him and hold him constantly. He would come home and want to be constantly fed and held all night while he slept. I couldn't do this. I was already suffering from sleep deprivation for 3 months. I asked her to stop doing it and give him a 6 ounce bottle only every 3 hours. She still wouldn't do and I was at my wit's end, so I told her that she wasn't allowed to babysit him anymore. She was mad, but my kid started to sleep through the night almost immediately! That passed and we started talking again, but then she had the audacity to tell me last year that I was a bad mother and that I should give my son up for adoption (everyone who knows me can't believe that she said this to me and it is not true that I am a bad mother). After that, I can't forgive. I don't really speak to her anymore if I can avoid it.
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
7 Jun 08
Well, of course in her eyes you are a bad mother, lol, you didn't follow her parenting model and didn't let her babysit your son;) Wow, she is a handful. And I thought my MIL is weird.
@phoenix25 (1543)
• United States
7 Jun 08
Yeah, she certainly is a handful. Luckily, my husband can't stand her either and he stands up for me whenever there is a dispute.
@Nana530 (286)
• United States
7 Jun 08
That's really sad, but I'm so happy to hear that your hubby stands up for you. I'm sure that means a lot to you.
• United States
8 Jun 08
I always tell people I have the best mother-in-law in the world! What gives her that title? Simply the fact that we have no contact with her at all! When my husband and I were dating (for 6 years) I was really close with his mother. Although I knew very well her tendency to talk bad about everyone she knew, including family. Well after we were married she turned on ME and tried to turn her sons and daughter-in-laws against me. (stupidly they believed her nonsense-I had been hearing and ignoring stuff about them for years!) So, because of some stupid jealousy thing or something, she has single handedly messed up her whole family. I have three beautiful children that she doesn't even know or give a sh*^ about! Her loss!
@Nana530 (286)
• United States
8 Jun 08
Ohhh that is so sad. You are right, it's her loss because there's no greater joy than being a grandparent. I feel sorry for anyone who messes things up like this. Jealousy is a really bad thing isn't it?
@stjmen (86)
• Australia
8 Jun 08
I get on extremely well with my mother in law (and my father in law). Not only are they responsible for my lovely wife, but they have been of immense assistance to my gfamily and I over the years. They don't interfere with the way my wife and I raise our son, even when we lived with them for 12 months. They don't try and tell us how to run our finances, even if we need to borrow money from them to get us out of a bind. Added to this, they are really nice people who take a genuine interest in who I am, and what I do. Many people tell me they dread spending time with their inlaws, I actually look forward to it.
@Nana530 (286)
• United States
8 Jun 08
It's wonderful when you can have a relationship like that with your inlaws isn't it? Makes things run so much smoother in life. Thanks for the comment, very interesting and good to hear.
@mizcash (686)
• Canada
8 Jun 08
My husband is one of the best husand a girl could ask for. But have mercy, i don't know where is mom came from she is like a bat out of hell. Meddling, nagging and if I could I would throw her from the train lol.
@Nana530 (286)
• United States
8 Jun 08
How funny mizcash. Well at least I am happy that her son(your hubby) is not like that. Good luck girl.