Are you honest to your boyfriend/girlfriend?

@chej18 (915)
United States
June 7, 2008 4:41pm CST
How honest you are in your gf/bf.Can you tell him/her about your feelings?Can you tell everything that happen to you?
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@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
2 Jul 08
My fiance and I are always honest with one another. We never lie to one another because our relationship is based on honesty, and when we jokingly try to lie to one another to be funny, the other person can tell! We know each other so well that we can tell when there's something on the other person's mind too. I'll ask my fiance what's wrong, and if he says nothing with a painful look on his face, then I know to question him further. He doesn't like to complain about things, so I just have to question him. He wants to protect me and hates when things go wrong, so it's hard for him to tell me certain things only because he's concerned for how they'll affect me. Does that make sense? (LOL) I hope so! But yes, we're extremely honest with one another. I believe that's the best way to be in a relationship because then you don't even have to worry about your significant other doing things behind your back or cheating on you or anything like that. I'm sure glad I don't have to worry about that aside from the fact that I know my fiance is committed to me and would never do any of that.
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@chej18 (915)
• United States
5 Jul 08
Hi jj, Back in the beginning we can be the best couple that you can see, or one of them.But since he hurt me so badly emotionally everything change but atleast i want try to make it work but since he broke a promise and go to the boundary of becoming dishonest it is hard for me to believe him already.I give him a chance so i want to give him also a chance to trust him.But evrytime i keep telling myself or convincing my self.That he is honest w/ me but i dont trust him.He broke the very important thing in relationship and that is honesty, and being faithful. That right if you know the person well you can even tell if he is lieying or not or if he is just making a joke.And thats my partner doesnt know.When the first time it happened i know exactly what is it.So i asked him if he can just get that courage to say and tell me honestly what was going on.But then he lied, so i waited for how many days so he can tell it to me even i know it already.I just want that it came from his own.BUt he dont have that courage so i started it to tell him what i know.I never though he is going to do things like that to hurt me so badly.But sh*t things happen to life.Trying to move on and forget the fast or atleast if cant forget it just put it behind me. I am so glad JJ that you and you fiancee honest to each other.I know exactly what you mean about he just take it because his concerned for how it affect you. I been so very proud at him in many ways.I just hope i can do the say and learn how to do that again. I am happy for you that you got that 100% feelings of trust.Your lucky to have that feelings..have a nice day my friend..keep on smiling...Smile make the world better..Hehehehe Greetings from Che!
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@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
7 Jul 08
Thanks for sharing, Che. Dishonesty is my biggest pet peeve and annoyance in the world! Now you see why, and of course, you understand why I feel this way. I'm sorry for you to have to have such hard times and experiences. However, your partner has done things that cause you not to trust, so those feelings you have are completely normal. Good for you for sticking up for what you feel in your heart is the right and wrong to do. Keep up the good work and all with work out for you.
@yullar (129)
• China
29 Jun 08
Hi friend I am very honest in my girlfriend,I often tell her I am a crystal person with her.Some poeple do not tell sometings or feelings to his girlfriend or boyfriend,but we are not.Maybe because we are in the same school.But sometimes I have the unhappy things,and I do not want her know it ,but I am a bad actor,or she is good at observation,she can find that,and let me tell her.But she is not good at comfort,badly,her words is often funny and no point.But I am happy,and I am accustomed to do this,and she is also.Have a good day.
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@chej18 (915)
• United States
5 Jul 08
Hi Yullar, That is so sweet of you to say that.I hope that my partner can be like a crystal to me.Yes i think that can help that you are in the same school and same age then you have no fear and not shy to each other to share each other words.I am so glad that you can talk your gf like that.Well most of the woman have instinct,we can feel it there is something wrong , or something happen..And some people is not very good in words just like my partner he cant never be serious.If i tried to talk to him about my feelings he changed the topic. He know he cannot give any good advice or comments on what i am going to say. But i know he undestand me and that is good enough for me. have a nice day my friend and enjoy posting.. Greetings from Che!
• Bangladesh
27 Jun 08
i've not gf yet. but i'll honest to my gf. i tell her my all feelings
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@chej18 (915)
• United States
5 Jul 08
Hi agladiator, NIce to have you here..You will find a very special gf soon.Just give it some time.That very good if you can tell her everything..Take care my friend.. Greetings from Che!
@Daffodil20 (1754)
• India
18 Jun 08
Most of the times I am.But sometimes I hold back for no other reason than his disinterest.There are some ares where he doesn't show any interest,likeart,etc.and so I don't usually share my opinion knowing fully well ,he won't be interested.LOL
@chej18 (915)
• United States
22 Jun 08
Yes i understand i got the same feelings sometimes.That i cant tell him everything but that doesnt mean that i dont trust him.
@quawertz (781)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
I tried to be honest with my bf but every time I will tell my feelings to him he will just change the topic. I don't know what's wrong with him. It's either he is not interested in me or he just don't like some serious talk.
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@chej18 (915)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Some other guy doesn't wanna talk about feelings.But i think these kind of kind is so cold.He cannot understand you as long as you cant tell him your feelings.i know somebody is like that.Everytime her gf tried to open some serious conversations he tried to avoid it ,or he said we will talked later!
@Antianara (608)
• Australia
8 Jun 08
I tell him everything.
@chej18 (915)
• United States
17 Jun 08
That would be a relief if you can do that.if you can tell him everything that happened to you.
@bestie (1458)
• Philippines
8 Jun 08
yes I am honest to my boyfriend.I tell him everthing.I hate dishonest people so I myself is very honest,coz if I don't like people who are dishonest I should first be honest to myself.
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@chej18 (915)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I remembered what my grandma said to me"Che The things that you dont like,dont do it to other people" I hate dishonest people too but i have onething i cannot say to my bf, coz i dont want to hurt him, and i want to protect him in anyharm.
@Libra67 (11)
• United States
8 Jun 08
I feel that honesty is the only way to go. You can get through anything if you have honesty and trust in a relationship. The reason my marriage broke up was a lack of trust because my husband lied constantly. So, if you are in a relationship you need to be honest and up front about everything.
@chej18 (915)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I can imagine how you feel.If somebody constatly lied to you you will feel betrayed, and dont trust anything that he said i been there.So even he keep telling the truth sometimes it is hard to believe.But i can understand also sometimes people have to lie for them to keep thier loveone not to be hurt that lie called whitelies.But that makes him not right to be constanly lying.Mybe he is afraid w/ you.
@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
8 Jun 08
Yes, I am honest to my boyfriend. As much as possible, we don't keep secrets from one another. We are very vocal to one another so that we can understand more of each other. It is really nice to have a relationship like that so that we can really get to know each other more and more.
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@chej18 (915)
• United States
17 Jun 08
yes it is very nice to have that relationship.I agree,relationship have to be a bothways and trust.But sometimes things happened in life that you have to do things that you dont want to do.And then becouse of it you have to be dishonest to your loveone.I know it sounds cruel but its really happened i just wish not w/ us..jesbellaine..I am happy that you can tell everything to your bf.
@successlog (3172)
• China
5 Jul 08
hi my friend, i am so happy to discuss this here.I am very honest with my girlfriendand the same to her.We all trust,understand and care each other more a lot in life.Of course,we also have different opinions on something.But every time we all can deal it well with our special ways.Wonderful. Good luck to you.