would you marry a man who has always lived at home with his parents and he is 40

United States
November 2, 2006 4:22pm CST
Do you think 40 is to old for a man to live at home??
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@missinghim (1339)
• United States
2 Nov 06
Hell NO!!!! Are u even serious? If this fool is 40 years old and still living in his mother's home, what kind of husband/provider is he going to be? He can't even take care of himself! How responsible could he be if he can't even be responsible enough to make his way in the world on his own? Then you'll have his mother all up in your business. How is he even able to get a date? I wish some grown behind man would tell me that he's always lived with his mother... I'm running for the hills in my 4" stilettos!!!!
• Canada
2 Nov 06
You go girl...
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• United States
2 Nov 06
Thanx!!! But I am so serious!!!! There is no way that I would be able to look myself in the mirror if I purposely attached myself to such a lazy bum!!!
• United States
2 Nov 06
Hell Yeah that's too old! I would marry him! Unless he has a really good reason why he still does! I know this man...an old co-worker...he was in his 40's and still lived with his mom. He is such a great person always looking after everyone and worring about everything at work! He is a little mentally challenge. I don't exactly know what he has because I never asked. He tried to tell me once but all he said was that he was a slow learner. He only had one girlfriend his whole life and his mother is ill. So he works and goes home to take care of mommy. I think a situation like that is totally fine...But if a 40yr old guy is perfectly normal and takes girls home etc...I think that's kinda wierd....This has nothing to do with this question but...my neighbors there's 3 guys that share a room....It's a 2 bedroom house and the mom and dad sleep in the hall way...their only daughter has her own room and the 3 sons sleep in a very small bedroom....one is 26...another is 20 and the other just turned 18...they have girlfriends and bring them home. I think that is just sick.....6 people that live in that house could afford a bigger house...why don't they? I wouldn't date a guy that slept with his 2 brothers! That's sick!
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• United States
2 Nov 06
WOW!!!! That is CRAZY!!!! Who in the world would want to live with their parents that long, and what woman would want a man that won't move from up underneath their mommy? Ill that's nasty!!
@srhelmer (6947)
• Beaver Dam, Wisconsin
2 Nov 06
Well, I'm not a woman, so I wouldn't marry a man anyway. But, I do find it hard to respect anyone who still lives with his parents, unless he's staying at home to take care of them.
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• Canada
2 Nov 06
I absolutely agree with you. Good answer.
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@shaggydog (648)
• Canada
2 Nov 06
you bet i would living with his mother he is able to save money so you already know that he will be able to take care of you and he probably learned how to treat a woman by living with his mother all these years
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• United States
2 Nov 06
He won't even take the initiative to take care of himself, let alone a wife. How could you even respect a man that won't move out of his parents house?
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@lucymtl (44)
• Canada
2 Nov 06
It depends in the situation. If he is living at home because his parents needs absolute care, or vice-versa then its understandable. But if he is only smooching them and can't provide at least for himself at his age; then girl... who have to wake up from this nightmare.
• United States
2 Nov 06
It really depends upon the big picture. Has he ever lived on his own? Does he have a large savings account from having lived with his parents? Does he contribute to the household expenses? Does he do his own laundry, take care of the yard? Basically, you have to determine if he is there because he never left.. in which case I would stay away from him... or if there was a plan involving his helping his parents financially while being able to put money away for his life after parents.. do they need him? If he is doing his own chores, maintaining his own life while contributing to the upkeep of his parent in BOTH financial and physical ways, (doing all his own dishes/laundry, the yard work, and paying their electric/mortgage/grocerices) then I would say he has an agreement that is helping all concerned. Many adult children are staying longer under their parents roof in order to establish a nest egg.. but 40 is kind of pushing that envelope unless there is a very sound reason for his continuing to stay under their roof. If he returned to their roof due to infirmaty of his parents, or ailing parents, or to keep them from having to go to some kind of home.. then it is a noble gesture. (at least I hope that is the case since that is what i have done.. and I am 55.. but I left here when I was 16 and was on my own until 51)
• United States
2 Nov 06
I sort of lost track of the question.. in fact, I would not marry a man anyway.. being a lesbian.. but it would be the same criteria if I was straight, or looking at a relationship with a lesbian who was doing the same thing.
@borg_queen (2535)
• Philippines
7 Jan 07
Well, in our country there's no stigma whatsoever about one still living with his/her parents. Unlike in the west where it is like compulsory. It must sad for the parents to live alone like that.
@Stiletto (4584)
2 Nov 06
Nope - he would just expect me to take over from his mother. My men need to be able to fend for themselves - and the ability (and willingness!) to do housework and cook is an essential requirement.
@rockbaby (808)
• Lebanon
2 Nov 06
i dont think i would.. i mean if he cant support himself.. how can i trust him to support me.. besides i dont wona wait till i become 40 or he does to marry ehhe.. 20s is good age to get married i guess.. like 23-24 .. i mean how can u be soo sure that he can support himself!!! i dont think so i guess!
@mdecker (123)
• Canada
2 Nov 06
NO
@shellyrios (1215)
• United States
2 Nov 06
mmm, it depends on the circumstances. Why is he still living with them? You don't want to be stuck taking care of a man who didn't have independent responsibility to take care of himself. I would question it first, then determine if you would or not.
• Canada
2 Nov 06
I dated a man who was 38 and still living at home-but so were the rest of his siblings! They all had good jobs and had graduated from college...I just didn't understand it. I learned that he was incredibly cheap too, so maybe that's why he was still at home. The worst though, was the fact that mom still did his laundry. Unless there was a good reason for a 40 year old to be still in the nest, I'd have to say "no" to marrying someone who is that old and still living at home.
• United States
2 Nov 06
If he is going to move out and live with me than sure, Im sure he probably didnt have to pay much from his pocket so he should have money saved up. But if he keep living with his parents after we get married, than hell no, Im not going to married him. Im glad my hubby is not that.
@tamra2 (259)
• United States
2 Nov 06
Like some have already said, it would depend on the reason he is living at home at that age. If he is not caring for his parents, then I would not even date him, much less mary him.