Do you believe that marriages with a huge age differnce can work?

@forfein (2508)
November 2, 2006 4:42pm CST
Just thought I would ask this question, because I would guess that a lot of you are wondering what the age differnce is between me and my lovely wife. Well it is 30 years. We met four years ago and we have been married now for three. We have loads of things in common and thoroughly enjoy each others company. Do you know anyone who is married with a big age difference?
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@shellyrios (1215)
• United States
2 Nov 06
Thank god there is someone like me out there......I'm 33 yrs old and he is 57 yrs old. We have been together for 6 yrs total, but we've bought a home together 2 1/2 yrs ago. We want to get married, but not now, the timing is not right. I often questioned that myself, but I think if you enjoy each others company and enjoy doing the same things with one another then it could work, just like any other couple who are closer in age. He is my best friend, and closest confidante. I fell in love with who he is, not his age. I have 2 children who live with us, and his children are grown and between my age. We get along great, his kids have accepted me and call my kids their little brothers, so it's really worked out for us. I think we're happy. I wish we knew more May/December couples close to our area, we can be friends with and do things together.
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@forfein (2508)
2 Nov 06
Thanks for the comment. You have it right. Best friends, we do everything together, discuss things, and have a really good time. And all my friends love her, and her friends love me, so its great. Thanks for your comments And a big + for you
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• United States
9 Nov 06
My step father is 27 years older than my mom, and they have been together 25 years now, they actually just got married 2 years ago. So yes absolutely it can and will work as long as you love each other.
@forfein (2508)
9 Nov 06
Thanks for that. Love is seems can cross every barrier. Thanks for all the responses so far.
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• Philippines
15 Dec 06
well if you going to ask me i much preffer to have relationship that older than me (but unfortunately i fall inlove wit the man same age as me) because in my case i'm a little bit childish and i love to be pampered not to pamper anyone. Good luck to your realtionship God Bless
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@forfein (2508)
15 Dec 06
I'm not sure that we pamper each other, but we do love each other!
• Portugal
9 Nov 06
I believe with any doubt about it. The key or the magic of a relationship is in love and friendship. So with your history, I have no doubt that my faith in love should stays on.
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@forfein (2508)
9 Nov 06
Thanks for that comment. It is REALLY appreciated. And you have a + for that! I love your avatar.... excellent movie!
• Netherlands
9 Nov 06
On Your Mark, Set and ....... - The Threshold of my financial freedom.
Hello, I must first congratulate you both for the huge success in your three years old marriage despite the wide age margin. Basically, I am of opinion that a man should be older than his wife but not with a very big age margin since Adam was first created before Eve according to the bible. In terms of big age margin, although we all have our individual choices, marriage is all about being compartible with your partner in all department ranging from age, marturity, intellectual, religion etc.. It might not ethical for me to marry my grand mother's age maid or my dauther's age maid, abbbbby what do you think........
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@forfein (2508)
9 Nov 06
First thank you for the comliment. second I have to agree with what you say. Compatibility is the all important factor. And of course LOVE But your response is definately worth a + so you have one! Thanks
@sweetdesign (5151)
• United States
9 Nov 06
It depends on when in the life cycle the age difference occurs and example: a friend of mine (he was 36 at the time) married a young lady who was 22. They were divorced before thier 2nd year anniversary. However I have another set of friends who married when he was in his late forties and she was in her early thirties and they are still happily married 20+ years later.
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@forfein (2508)
9 Nov 06
Yes I can agree with that.
• Indonesia
2 Nov 06
i don't belive, .
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@forfein (2508)
3 Nov 06
Hi Your nick name is "gimme a chance" Now why would you have a "handle" like that if you dont believe? I know at least 5 couples with an age difference ranging from 8 - 20 yeasrs and there is not a problem. LOVE is the key. Without this.... you will not believe!
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@birthlady (5613)
• United States
2 Nov 06
Good luck to you both, may you have many happy years together!
@forfein (2508)
2 Nov 06
Thanks, and so do I
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@suzieque (2336)
• Canada
2 Nov 06
Hmmm. I don't know. They say age is just a number! And congrats on your relationship!
@Sm00tH (2040)
• Belgium
9 Nov 06
i don't know other people that are married and have a big age difference, but i think it can work, as long as you both love eachother it will work. seems to me that u 2 love eachother so no problemo =D
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@shooie (4986)
• United States
9 Nov 06
My mom and dad were 10 years apart. Mom older. My hubby and I are 7 years apart. I'm older...lol We have a lot in common and enjoy each others company. I had a problem with the age difference not him. He made me see that age is but a number it shouldn't matter when love is involved.
@Aali311 (6127)
• United States
9 Nov 06
A marriage is not about the age but about how mature the people involved are, if your love is strong it can handle just about anything, my husband and I are not too far apart, six years but it's not even about the age it's about who we are when we are together. Good luck and I hope you have many many wonderful years together, enjoy life and each other, love is precious.
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@lilaclady (28238)
• Australia
2 Nov 06
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I believe if there is love any marriage can work but there will all alway be problems with any ages but if there is enough love and respect it will work.
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
10 Jan 07
My boyfriend is 15 years younger. We are together for 10 years. I think it does not matter.
@forfein (2508)
11 Jan 07
Hi Polachicago I did not know that! Hope you are well by the way, and thanks for the info
@shywolf (4520)
• United States
2 Jan 07
I think that it is wonderful that you have found someone to love. Age really doesn't matter - it is just a number. How we feel inside is what matters. One should always follow their heart in matters of love, and even a larger gap than 30 years to me is not a problem as long as the people involved love each other. ^_^
@forfein (2508)
4 Jan 07
Yes of course you are right, it is the feeling inside which matters.
• India
2 Jan 07
age doesn't matters as long as both of them are young at heart that is love each other
@forfein (2508)
2 Jan 07
You are right. Thanks
@jrk0624 (406)
• United States
12 Nov 06
my niece and her boyfriend is 21 yrs. apart she's 22 and he's 43 and they get along great they love each other and that is all that matters. I agree age is just a number because love can conquer all so congratulations and god bless i hope you guys enjoy each other and life as well Life is to short not to love each other and enjoy life no matter what anyone else thinks
@forfein (2508)
13 Nov 06
Thanks for this input. I can see that there is a lot who share my feelings. And a big + for your comment.
@fiasco007 (819)
• United States
12 Nov 06
of course it can work. i have dated many different age groups and the only problem i found is with inmature younger women, besides that it is ok
@forfein (2508)
13 Nov 06
Thanks for your comment.
• Singapore
12 Nov 06
Love Alwuz.. - love alwuz
It doesnt matter what others say, as long as both of you are true to each other and happily in love!!Age is just a number! Contgratulations and my Best Wishes to you for an everlasting love!
@forfein (2508)
12 Nov 06
Thank you for you lovely comment You have a nice big + for that!
@saphire539 (1641)
• United States
12 Nov 06
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yes i believe they do as me and my husband have a big age difference i am 39 and he is 28 we have been married for 3 years now and it is going great.All that matters is that your both adults.
@forfein (2508)
12 Nov 06
Thanks It is amazing how many of us there are!