Uncircumsized care question for toddler?

United States
June 8, 2008 5:07pm CST
My hubby and I opted to not do the circumsision for our son, he is now 18 months old. I would like to get other opinions about how to care for the uncircumized area. My doctor said that there is nothing that should be done until he reaches the age of two. My mother in law is hounding us to start pulling the skin back to clean. She is a RN who works in a surgery center where they often perform emergency circumisions because of infection or the skin getting stuck. Has anyone dealt with this issue and if so which is the correct thing to do?
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@urbandekay (18312)
8 Jun 08
The foreskin is natural, you don't need to do anything till he is 4 or so, then he needs to be told about hygiene. Your mother in law is wrong, most men here are not circumcised, in fact most men in the world are not circumcised. Infection is highly unlikely. We were told about hygiene in the first year at school all the best urban
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• United States
11 Jun 08
Thanks I was pretty sure I was right just needed some way or proof to get the mil off our backs about this issue, she is stubburn. Unfortunately that trait passed on to my hubby.
@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
9 Jun 08
Your Mother in law is wrong, you cant force the foreskin to move as it doesn't actually retract until puberty or there abouts. Although my brother used to pull his own skin back when he was young (4 or 5) - if your son pulls it back himself then just let him go - he will stop if it hurts anyway. If your son sits in the bath - just wash around the general area & the water will get inside the foreskin itself & everything will be fine. I have never heard of an uncircumsized becoming infected or the skin getting stuck - which has then required an emergency circumsision. I'm pretty sure the body has it's own mechanisms anyway (especially since the body is born with the foreskin) so i guess that would do it's own thing when anything happens. Try not to worry too much, if the area has never been red, sore, infected so far, then it's not likely to just get like that over night. Good luck but tell your MIL that she is wrong & doesn't know what she's talking about since she chose to have her children's foreskin's removed & it's very different.
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
9 Jun 08
Speaking as a Healthy Verile 74 year old uncircumcised Father of 4 uncircumcised Boys, I'm wondering what the fuss is all about? God created men with a foreskin for good reason,and God has not made a mistake in a very Long time! Why would anyone allow a Woman (whether she be a Mother, or an R.N.) to advise on the Care and Keeping of a Male's foreskin? Let me inform you that 'the skin does not get stuck!' The correct thing to do is realize your child is Just the way he's intended to be. There is nothing stopping you from playing with your son's foreskin from time to time. For God's Sake pull it up and wash it! Tell your Mom to 'back off.' And unless you want Problems don't ask the Medical Establishment anything about Foreskins! (they get paid for cutting it off!)
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@ShealM (388)
• Canada
9 Jun 08
Absolutely do NOT pull the foreskin back in any circumstances at all. The foreskin sometimes adheres to the glans until puberty. Absolutely do not pull back to clean, do not pull back for anything. The foreskin will free itself when it is ready to do so. If you pull back you risk injuring the foreskin, causing adhesions, possible abrasions and subsequently scarring that may cause permanent damage. Wash as if it were a finger when you do wipe or wash him. I have 3 intact boys by the way. Hope this helps a bit!
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@se7enthbird (8327)
• Philippines
8 Jun 08
in our country boys are circumsize at the age of 13. some younger than that around 12 or 11 and some older than 13. we are used to this tradition i myself has a son. whos picture appears as my avatar. i will circumcise him when he thinks he is ready already. i will not force him to do it and i will not decide for him as early as now.
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@lilybug (21148)
• United States
8 Jun 08
My son had his done when he was 1 day old, but he may as well have not been. They did not cut off enough skin. My son's doctor told me that I needed to gently pull back the skin and clean it every time I gave him a bath, but not to force it back.
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
8 Jun 08
We did not have to pull it back to clean it! Regular baths seemed to be enough! At this point, all our sons are old enough to care for themselves and we never have seen signs of infections, even when they were still in diapers! http://www.medem.com/medlb/article_detaillb.cfm?article_ID=ZZZRNBDTODD&sub_cat=108 check this out and you will learn more! Never force retraction!
• United States
8 Jun 08
Thanks that is what I thought, it's been 1 1/2 years and the area has never even looked red. We recently moved back to the area and everytime we change his diaper around her we have to go through the discussion again. I wanted to be certain and thanks for the link maybe I will print the info for her as well!
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
8 Jun 08
We had three boys and did not circumcise any of them! Their dad was circumcised, based on religious belief, so he was not all for it and did not mind when the insurance company said that they no longer pay for routine circumcising!
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@jczvrse (169)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I have 3 boys all grown up now and a 2 year old grandson none were circumcised noe ever had a problem either but I did pull the skin back and clean it daily then when they were about 3 years old they started doing it themselves, my grandson does the pulling back and cleaning himself. I started pulling back the skin when they were brought home from the hospital. Just as a hygiene thing do it once daily.
@shaggin (38482)
• United States
9 Jun 08
A friend of mine was told by her doctor recently when her son was 18 days old that she needed to clean under her baby sons foreskin. He told her that her son should be circumcised and in the meantime to pull the skin back and clean under it with a cotton swab! Can you even imagine a doctor giving this type of advice it makes me sick! Luckily she didnt do what he told her to do to clean it. I can only imagine how painful that would be for the poor baby! You can tell that this doctor is outdated in his practices!
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
9 Jun 08
My 18 month old is uncircumsized. I just wipe him down. Ocassionally I kind of push it out of the way to clean under it. I was always told that they needed no special care and they shouldn't be pulled back for any reason. Baths take care of any cleaning that needs to be done in there. I've never had a problem with him.
@tammyr (5955)
• Etowah, Tennessee
9 Jun 08
My son had to have his done when he was 5. It was very traumatic for him. My doctor had us to pull back to clean, but I was very young and probably didn't do it well enough. I like you am torn as what you should do. Maybe you could agree with both by waiting 3 more months instead of 6. Three months either way shouldn't matter.
@callarse1 (4793)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Hello! Yes, I've read in the parenting books you shouldn't do that until around 2 years it will have to be retracted a tiny bit when you learn to go potty. No, you just need to give baths and that's about it. At least that's what I have read. It seems like people on here agree to what I have read so it is probably correct. Have a nice day. Pablo
@Hatley (164471)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Jun 08
listen to your doctor as he knows your son. My husband was never circumsized and he kept himself very clean. your doctor's advice should be what you listen to and not your mom in law's advice.Wait until he is two then clean like your doctor advises.
@nishdan01 (3055)
• Singapore
9 Jun 08
I have heard the same discussion from another mother who has a son. Her son had recurrent UTI problems and the doctor asked to pull the skin back and forth once everyday. Circumsicion is a religious thing and not every one needs to be circumcised eventhough science shows that it has immense benefits. I too have a 2 year old son and I think the only thing that needs to be done is to clean the area well with soap and water.