does your familly drive you mad?

@dvschic (1796)
United States
June 8, 2008 10:20pm CST
i know this isn't pc to say, but does your family drive you nuts? i find i have to prepare for time with my family, they drive me nuts. id ont think that i can truly be myself when they are all around. we attempt to do family gatherings twice a year... they are so stressful and sometimes aggravating i wonder why we even bother? as time goes on, it has gotten better... but still. when all the aunts/uncles/cousins/etc all together in one room does anyone else have this problem? are you the perfect partridge family? do you organize your family or do just avoid them at all cost?
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@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
9 Jun 08
Oh I know the feeling I don't get along too well with one of my aunts and one of the uncles. They just erk me the wrong and think they are always right. For instance last Christmas I got up and ran outside from the dinner table right in the middle of dinner. I was having such bad back spasms and I started crying at the table cause they hurt so bad. I walked it off outside which took about 20 minutes to do so. Once I got back in the house I sat down and continued to eat. Both my aunt and uncle turned around and said that I was rude for leaving the table like that after my dad told them what happened they were still justified that it was rude because I didn't excuse myself. I turned around and told them to f off right infront of everyone and said when you have a back injury like I do and you get a spasm like I did come and talk to me then as you won't be singing the same toon. Needless to say I don't really attend the family gatherings on that side anymore.
@dvschic (1796)
• United States
9 Jun 08
totally know what you mean a few of my aunts are mean and ill spirited, however some are great.. as their kids get older they are realizing that family means more. i've been the oldest for a loooooonggggg time and i'm enjoying being a lil more independent and just kinda do my own thing and not pay much attention... i haven't come out to most of them, but i always bring my girlfriend with me and just dont ask dont tell most of them.. at least your parents had your back! way to go pops!
• Canada
9 Jun 08
I am lucky I have my parents taking my back on this one. If I didn't I think I would of killed them and buried them so no one can find them.
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@wabuser (114)
• China
9 Jun 08
Lol yes they do especially when my younger sister does stuff like steal my computer charger, eats the last pizza. And when my ma tells me to eat this and that even when i almost grad from hi school. but their my family so i dont mind, bettter them being there then not at all =D
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@dvschic (1796)
• United States
10 Jun 08
i have 5 lil sisters ! each one has their own attitude and shiity things they do! i'm not perfect, i'm a mean older sister, but they are all mine
@beybes08 (125)
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
I don't avoid them at all costs. But they do drive me mad ALL the time! My parents are really old fashioned (no offense), they think the worst of me all the time. My brothers are as naughty as the maximum of naughty could be and my sister is just twice the perfect person. My cousin imitates what I do making me the bad example, my aunt thinks I'm an addict and tells my parents untrue stuff behind my back whilst keeping a kind face to me and my uncle, the worst at sometimes. Brady bunch much? Well, what keeps me here, is probably because no matter how crazy they drive me, I'm also one of them, the crazy person who drives everyone crazy.
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@dvschic (1796)
• United States
10 Jun 08
true dat! i used to think that they would grow out of it and it would get better as we got older, i'm 28 and still waiting!
• United States
9 Jun 08
It all depends on which family members I'm with. I think everyone has at least one person in thier family that drives them nuts. It's a normal family dynamic, sort of like how most families have the family nutcase.
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@dvschic (1796)
• United States
10 Jun 08
if your family doesn't have a family nutcase, be careful, it may be you
• United States
9 Jun 08
Yes, is more ways than some people can imagine. My family has issues. Some of my cousins accused me of something that I never did, and because of it we did not talk for years, but I found out that one of my cousins was being abused by her mother and she called social services on her and that they had used me as a scapegoat. These people are attempting to make nice with me now, but there are just some things that cannot be forgiven.
@dvschic (1796)
• United States
10 Jun 08
that sucks!! at least u can sleep at night, knowing you were in the right...
@kellys3ps (3726)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Not my whole family, but my mom in particular. I have always had to take care of her rather than the other way around. Right now she is living with us because she can't manage to take care of herself. She is not physically sick - she just makes really bad choices.
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@dvschic (1796)
• United States
10 Jun 08
i know what you mean, all during high school and college, i did the same thing for my mom... bills/money wise at least... all my family thinks i mooched off my mom but if they only knew!
• United States
9 Jun 08
Not even close to the Partridge Family in my house...lol. I have some family I get along with fine. Then there is the other 90%...lol. I just bite the bullet and try to make it through saying as little as possible so as to keep myself out of trouble. Luckily we don't do the whole family affair too often or I would go stark raving mad. I'm a very laid back person, but my family, well...they could drive you to drink. I try not to volunteer too much information because I know they would not approve of my life. However I am quite content with my life so I try to let it slide off. Hugh Kingsmill said it best "friends are God's way of apologizing for family."
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@dvschic (1796)
• United States
10 Jun 08
sounds like my family!
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I'm sorry, forgive me..I'm laughing here. From what you're describing it sure doesn't sound like your family is the Waltons...LOL. Okay..while your family might drive you batty, thank your lucky stars you do have a large family for those pesky reunions/gatherings to go to...Me? I'm last of the mohicans here..My grandmother is gone, my mother is gone...she had no brothers or sisters, and I was an only child too...But all I can say, when my mother was alive...oh, yup..it's a wonder she drive me to drink
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• United States
9 Jun 08
My family drives me crazy. My mother especially and she can't believe she could ever do that to me. I don't like my family much. I can't stand their personalities, I can't stand how most of them think they're better than everyone else. It just really gets on my nerves. We have family reunions every year and every year I try to get out of it. I never really get too lucky. Last year I managed to go for about an hour and come back home. It was just a waste of my time.
@dvschic (1796)
• United States
9 Jun 08
my family is trying to bring back the family reunions, there aren't many of us, so they feel this obligation to create this sense of unity! i dont, if i dont like you,why shouldi want to spend extra time with you, if i like you, then i'm going to spend time with you and i dont need an excuse to do it! at least we aren't alone!
@moondancer (7434)
• United States
10 Jun 08
We do not have the perfect family, like the partridge family, or the beavers. I think our family is okay by most standards. We get along and enjoy each others company when we can get around to being with each other. We have 2 family reunions a year, one for each side of the family. I have not attended in a long while since I am so far away. My children and grandchildren get together on some of the holidays, as you do in families. The fourth of July and Christmas are the main ones we are together. My two sons and their families live in Mississippi and my daughter and her family lives here in Tennessee. The boys come here for the holidays. We visit at others times as well, but these are the main times that we do not miss. There are times we've had words but nothing serious. For the most part we are a happy family. I also go to my mothers and to see my aunts and grandmother whne I can. They live in Alabama.
@Kaeli72 (1230)
• United States
10 Jun 08
"avoid them at all cost"...*LOL* That's funny...but so TRUE! My main gripe has to do with my 13 year old daughter and her 11 year old brother. They fight like cats and dogs and its worse because the girl doesn't take nothing from no one. She's even gotten to where she'll yell at me. But, it's worse when I punish one child and they have to remind me of why haven't I punished the other one for the exact same crime. The fighting goes from one side of the house to the other...I just calmly go upstairs, close my door and turn on my computer.
• United States
10 Jun 08
I wouldn't say my family drives me nuts, but I don't tend a lot of family gatherings. I have all the family I need right here around me. My mom and dad live next door and I have my kids and husband here with me, and my mom-in-law lives about twenty minutes from me. Like I said, I have all the family I need close to me.