Troubled mother

India
June 9, 2008 3:12am CST
My son is of five years, he is very intelligent very smart.but off late he has developed a very strange habbit, he started crying for every single thing.If he wantsomething he will ask in crying tone, he is not ready to share annything with anybody not even with his younger sister who is only eleven months old, Whenever i tried to scold him or try to teach something, he will start crying and started murmuring that if u scold me like this than i will start hating u, i will scare of everybody, i will stop talking to every body, i will not go anywhere with anybody. He is not redy to go anywhere out with us, he prefers to stay at home alone and watching TV. and to extreame one day he said iwill runaway from home and will go to some other country far away from u all. I am so depressed b'coz of this i really don't know how to handle him, what to do with him.Pleeease give me some advice on this,it would be very helpful to me.
1 person likes this
3 responses
@musicman6 (2369)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Schneiderman is right, he has turned the tables on you, and he is controlling you! And the worst thing you can do is give in to his wishes! I have raised 7 children and 2 stepkids, and I never let any of them gain control over me! I had control of them, until they were grown up, and now have their own families! At this age that he is at, it is the age at where he is discovering his boundaries, and if you let them go beyond the boundaries, as they get older they will be more trouble to handle! And they will try, and they will try, but you should never give in! There was a book that came out, and it is called "tough love", and this is what you have to do, for yourself and for the sake of both children!
• India
12 Jun 08
Thanks musicman for ur really practicle ideas, yes i shoud be tough with him. Iwill definately read this book . Even i want him to grow sensibly .Thank u so much for ur input.
• United States
10 Jun 08
If that was my kid, I would call his bluff. If he tells you he is going to start hating you then tell him go ahead. If he says he is going to run away, tell him that would suck cause there isn't any TV, food, toys etc on the streets. The only reason he does that crap is because he knows it gets to you. Kids are very smart and know how to manipulate their parents. It sounds like you feel guilty if you dont give him what he wants. Why is that?
• India
10 Jun 08
yes friend i do feel that he is just throwing tantrums but i don't know how to handle him b'coz if there something bad will happen i will not be able to excuse myself, but yes i will definately tell him the same thing. Thanx for the idea.
@nupats (3564)
• India
9 Jun 08
hi simsunil..this is really sad..i think u shud talk to him abt wt is troubling him...maybe some insecurity has crept in bcoz of the small baby..maybe he is feeling neglected and lonely while u r busy with the toddler...spk to him make him comfortable involve him in ur activities including taking care of his sister like u can let both of them play or ask him to show her picture books..tht way they will start bonding better...dont b depressed my kid is also very naughty and troublsome...since he is 5 years u can try talking to him...take care...have a nice day
• India
9 Jun 08
Thanku so much nuput for ur advice , i will definately talk to him about this.