I Just dont think I can do this!

@neelygal (1022)
Bahamas
June 9, 2008 1:04pm CST
My new boss wants me to work on my moms one year death anniversary.I jut dont think I will be able to handle that.I am still grieving deeply and deep down inside I know that I wont be able to be stable on that day around customers.its going to be a really hard day for me.Do you think I am wrong for not wanting to work that day when I just started my new job?I need some encouragement here guys.Please pray for me on June 19th everyone.
4 responses
@cjgrooms (4457)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I think that that is a personal choice. Try to make him understand or call out sick, which ever you feel that you can do.
@cjgrooms (4457)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I am so sorry about your mom.
• India
9 Jun 08
Duty is duty! Did your mother fulfilled her responsibilities in life(I mean upto a certain extent.)? If your answer is yes then you should be happy for your mom. She is now in an eternal rest. Everybody has to die one day, this is world's biggest truth. You should move ahead in life. Grieving for you mother for such a long time would be painful to your mom's soul. Even if you don't get a day off, don't worry. Just keep the feelings for your mother intact. She should be in your heart everyday not like a painful thorn but like incense of flowers. Never ever mix your feelings with your job! Its fatal. Distribute sweets in your office in memory of your mother. This would ease you off!!
@jashley1 (746)
• United States
9 Jun 08
That is definately tough - I can relate somewhat to what you are saying having a mother who also passed away. Everyone's grieving periods are different, and I'm sorry if your boss is being insensitive to your emotional needs. I don't think its "wrong" for you to not want to work that day, but a job is a job, and so the boss gets the final say. It may be really hard, but since it's a new job it's time to get time off - especially in this economy, and the fact that you have a job is a blessing. My husband was laid off last year and after 90 days found another job, praise God. I hope that your boss will reconsider, but if you end up having to work, I will be praying you are comforted.
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
9 Jun 08
so you cant get the day off? did you explain the situation to the person? i am sure if they have a heart, they will let you have the day off! hopefully they will understand!