Mother left when I was 2 and wants back in now

United States
June 9, 2008 1:06pm CST
My mother left me and my brother when I was around 2 with my maternal grandparents. I am not 27 and my grandmother just died 2 months ago and my grandfather had died 5 years ago. They were my parents. They raised me and I loved them very much. My mom through the years would promise things, show up, try to take us away again and tell us things and never do them. My child is 8 and she has not been to one birthday party. She is a drug user and I don't want this around me or my children. I always promised my grandmother I would continue to talk to her, but as soon as she passed that I would not longer need to. Well the day came my grandmother passed away and my mother showed her butt at the funeral. Needless to say I have not spoken to her since the funeral. She called several times even contacted my father. It's been a month and she has quit. Do you think this is wrong of me to want nothing to do with her? The way I see it if she really wanted to be a mother now then why did she stop calling and writing and coming to see me? She only tried a month and gave up? If it was my daughter I wouldnt stop she would have to call the law for harrassment? I don't know tell me if you think I am being to ugly. I just have no feelings for her and really don't want her in our lives. There is more that happened I just don't want to tell everything.
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6 responses
@craz4coy (23)
20 Jun 08
Try to talk to her and tell her your problems with her. I wouldn't let her in completely but let her try to be a friend first. I know your mother and her psychotic ways. It's hard for me to know what to say to you because I'm glad that she isn't my mother. ( No offense) But she is your mother and as long as she is trying, there has got to be something in her mind and heart that tells her to do the right thing by you and your daughter.
• United States
20 Jun 08
Ha.. Then since you know my mother this should be an easy answer for you.
20 Jun 08
I know you say that you don't care but I know you too and you do care. I don't want you to regret anything. If nothing else you can say that you tried to reconcile.
@andyliuzn (991)
• China
10 Jun 08
Hi Baileycows , Sorry to hear that you don't talk with your Mum. But whateve, everything happens for a reason, just try to see if some way to forgive your mother, since she is your mother, the one who gave your birth. Hope to hear from your good news soon
@Samanthavv (1395)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I don't think there is any way that anyone else could know what you should or shouldn't do. You're the only one who knows the entirety of your situation and you're the only one who can make that decision. Go with your gut feeling and live with no regrets.
• China
10 Jun 08
Maybe you should stand her place to think .she is your mother whatsoever.she gave your life.we know life is great.nothing can match with it. you are a mother ,too.Think about your daughter.If you are the mother ,how will you feel when your daughter can not understand you . Yeah ,all the things are up to you.the most important thing is you are be happy.But i think we should forgive others .whatever bad things they did,we should give them chances to make up.We are not perfect.She is your mother.maybe you should give her a chance to make up for it.I think your mother is not very young now .Life is changable.We do not know when there are an accident,such as the earthquake in wenchuan.We are not value until we lose it. At last, i want to say only know to forgive ,you will lead a happy life.SO open your heart ,and welcome your mother.
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
Well I can sense in you a deep resentment by abandoning you as a child with your grandparents. I cannot blame you to be like that but maybe its time for you to maybe give a chance for your mother to catch up with you. I don't think she is doing it for any wrong reasons. i think she may have realized the mistakes she had in the past and I think as humans as we are we have the right to amend it while we are still alive. As for you try when the time she gets to call you back and hear her side of the story and maybe you'll learn something from it.
• Canada
9 Jun 08
I don't think that you are being ugly at all. I do not understand how people can do those types of things to their children. My father was also in and out of my life and wanted back in after my son was born. I let him in and made him promise that he wouldn't do to my son what he did to me. Well needless to say my father did. Thank goodness my son was too young to remeber him. If he were to show back up in our lives I would tell him where to go. You don't need the hurt and the stress that your mother is causing you and your family.