Seven Year Anniversary And Alone!

@maddysmommy (16236)
United States
June 9, 2008 1:07pm CST
I spent our 7th wedding anniversary yesterday on my own and so did my hubby. He is currently away for work and won't be home until July 1st. My son spent the weekend at our friends place and I was all alone - poor me LOL I had a lovely day though, just enjoying the sun (even though it was very hot LOL)- bought myself a few cheap summer skirts and sat at starbucks and had a latte and a sandwich. So has anyone else spent their wedding anniversary alone? what did you do? Thanks for sharing!
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@gemini_rose (16193)
9 Jun 08
How funny, it will be my 7th wedding anniversary on the 30th June. How strange to think that 7 years ago both of us would have been excited, yours as newly wed and me looking forward to my big day. Yet both of us far far away from the other, not knowing about the other. I always think it is really weird to think of things like that. Anyway I am really sorry you spent it along, not nice. I have never spent mine alone. This year not sure what will happen as I have not reminded hubby I am just waiting to see if he remembers all by himself!
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@gemini_rose (16193)
9 Jun 08
ALONG! I meant alone, sorry it is late here now, so I am off to bed xz
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Wow fancy that huh? 7 years with you too and in the same month as well. Happy early anniversary to you both incase I forget to congratulate you. If he hasn't forgotten in previous years then i'm sure he will remember this year too. :)
@gemini_rose (16193)
22 Jun 08
Thanx for BR xx
@mummymo (23707)
9 Jun 08
Well my other half and I aren't married - yet! lol We have been together for 11 years though so I count our first date as our anniversary! When I was with my ex husband I would have loved to spend the day alone! At least you had some quality 'me' time though sweety - I sure hope hubby makes it up to you when he gets home! xxx
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
9 Jun 08
11 years, congratulations mummymo. Even though he was away I did have a lovely day and got to buy myself something. He did phone on Saturday and Sunday so that was nice.
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@mummymo (23707)
9 Jun 08
Hope he is back soon honey and then he can spoil you rotten just like you deserve! xxx
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Awwwww thanks mummymo. I hope so too haha!
@patgalca (14401)
• Orangeville, Ontario
9 Jun 08
I hope you heard from your hubby, sent you some flowers or something. I have never spent my anniversary away from my husband but it looked like that might happen this year. The girls and I don't like going to hubby's family home because it is a long drive and the airfares are outrageously high right now. They have a family reunion on the exact day of our anniversary. They always plan everything the first weekend in August. I think they even set our wedding date. So there is always somewhat of a conflict. But the plan is for us all to go down this summer no matter what the price of airfare. If we ARE apart I have the feeling hubby would be too busy to even think of me that day. Unless he thought ahead of time and ordered flowers, I probably wouldn't even get a phone call.
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I did get a phone call on Saturday and Sunday. He was actually upset that he missed our anniversary as we usually go to a movie or out for lunch. He is even more upset that he may miss our son's birthday in July as he is traveling again on the 21st, so I told him if he can't delay his trip for a week, we will bring his birthday forward a week so he is there. He promised our son he wouldn't miss it this time. I hope you enjoy the reunion and your anniversary too! You never know, he could have a lovely surprise set up for you on that day :)
@patgalca (14401)
• Orangeville, Ontario
9 Jun 08
Glad you're husband is that considerate. I am not holding my breath for my husband. Even with me there, when he is with his family he barely notices me.
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
9 Jun 08
My ex was like that and I hated it too.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
9 Jun 08
wow! That was cool maddysmommy, how about celebrating it on the phone? I know you gave each other a call for sure..ANyway, I have tried celebrating our anniversary before we were wed alone but we were chatting..So, it was just like he was around with the webcam and microphone..LOL!
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
9 Jun 08
haha he did call me on Saturday and Sunday so that was lovely. You know I never thought of the webcam lol we have one here but I know he doesn't have one with him. Hmmm maybe next time huh? thanks checapricorn.
• United States
9 Jun 08
I see, maybe he can get one so that you can set a day where you can talk and see each other! I know how hard it is, I was away from my partner for 8 years and I am glad for these technology that makes life more comfortable! Cheers!
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• United States
9 Jun 08
sorry, 8 months..LOL!
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@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
19 Jun 08
Hi !!! Congratulations on your 7 years!! Before you now it, it will be the first of July. I bet he has something real nice to give you. Maybe you both can go out for dinner, and he will give you a real nice present. On the other hand, it is probably a present all ready that he is home. When I was married, I loved to be alone every once in a while. But, not on those day's. If that were to happen, we celebrate it on an other day. By the way, like your picture. Take care, Have a nice day. Margajoe
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
22 Jun 08
Thank you Margajoe - How have you been? it's been a while since I last saw you on here, how is life treating you Sorry been away from mylot as I've been busy keeping my son busy and looking for a new place. Take care :)
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@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
22 Jun 08
Hi Maddy'sMommy! Yes I am getting together. Some days are easier than others. How are you? Keeping your son busy? Everything alright? I hope so. I have days when I can sit in my Lot for a long time. Then I have other days when I just don't get around to it. They changed my star from 9 to 8. I don't know why.??? I must of done something wrong, lol! Just 9 days!!!! Then your hubby will be back. Take care, Margajoe.
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
11 Jun 08
Hi dear First of all Belated Happy wedding Anniversary to u, well i just have 4 anniversies and luckily we were togather, but on my last birthday, i was away on business meeting , so i attend the meeting, at night have dinner at nice hotel and then icecream at beach
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
17 Jun 08
That sounds lovely cupid :) icecream on the beach!
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
17 Jun 08
Yeah it was good atleast better than nothing
• India
10 Jun 08
Its great that you had the good sense to enjoy your free day. You can always be together, all three of you, and enjoy a belated anniversary outing. Till now I have never had to spend our anniversary alone coz my hubby was not much into tours. But with his current job, he’s out a lot of days and so next year…I don’t know. However, what I wanted to share is something that sometimes I feel makes me quite selfish…or is this OK with most of us moms?! I love my days alone…yes I do. Like this Saturday I would be all alone. Rather from Friday evening onwards, I have me all to myself My hubby’s on tour right now (he returns this Sunday) and my son would be with my parents for the weekend from Friday afternoon itself. So it’s a kind of ‘liberated’ feeling. I love both of them, I would miss them, but I am so looking forward to the Saturday too! I have planned a shopping spree on Friday evening straight after office and I would bring home dinner from a takeaway. I’ll read books, watch TV, catch up on the phone, sleep when I want to and wake up just when I feel like it. Saturday will be spent lazying out with the dinner leftovers as lunch…am I sounding selfish? BTW…you have recently changed your avatar, isn’t it? Whenever I came across your discussions, I would always wonder how Maddy looked like! Now I know and he is so cute and the two of you together, just like the way my son loves clinging on to me. Happy times to all of you.
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Aaah that sounds like a lovely day you're going to have on Satruday. I like my "alone" times too and made the most of it on Sunday. He did call which was lovely and gave me the 'ok' to shop for a few things and spoil myself haha. That is indeed my son and I - he is my life. Turning 6 in July too.! Thanks for the lovely comments.
• India
11 Jun 08
What a coincidence! July!!! My son turns 9 on the 14th of July
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@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
10 Jun 08
happy anniversary there girl! i have never experienced celebrating an anniversary alone yet coz my hubby makes sure that he is saving that day for us THOUGH for 4 years i have never spent valentines day with him till this year's V-day so it was really great coz we are finally together. i think sometimes it's great to have that day just for yourself so it is more exciting when the hubby arrives LOL sounds like a great day, skirts are always wonderful to have during summer and i cant blame you coz i also had one haha. takecare and wish you both a happy and more anniversary to come. good night
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Thanks jairgirl. I did have a lovely day even though I was on my own. He did call both Saturday and Sunday so that was lovely. I'm glad I was able to buy two skirts as my wardrobe consists of pants and jeans mostly :)
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
11 Jun 08
im glad you enjoyed your lovely day and talked to your hubby for two days, im sure he have better plans when he arrives. i have many skirts and dresses as i try to look older than my age but it is not helping me at all LOL anyway, thanks for sharing your wonderful day to us. have a great evening. takecare
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Well, as for me.. Our anniversary is July 12, 2008. And I know when this day comes, we will hardly celebrate this day.. We never really do. It will also be seven years for me too. I am very sorry that you had to be alone on this day. You are not the only one, believe me, you are not.. I hate missing this day.. It is a very special day for me. I just wished that my husband could be more interested in this day..
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Wow seven years too? I hope you get to celebrate it cream :) I am happy that my hubby did call so that was nice.
• India
10 Jun 08
Hi Cream, Don’t feel depressed. Actually whenever I come across such discussions where people are sad just because their spouse/lovers don’t reciprocate openly on special days, I feel like chipping in and telling ‘does s/he love you, do you feel that love inside your heart? If so, then that’s all matters…ever’. You see, my hubby is the typical silent type. In all the 15 years that I have known him (11 years of that in marriage) he has never wished me on my birthday (but he remembers to give me money so that I can buy something of my choice), never said ‘I love you’, never held me on our anniversary…no flowers, card, gifts, chocolates or whatever. We have never celebrated any special day in our married life (except our son’s birthday) BUT everyday with him is a celebration for me, every moment I spend with him is worth its weight in gold. His love emanates and touches me continuously and that’s what matters. If there is love, do not let anything spoil it.
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@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
10 Jun 08
My husband and I are going on 4 years of marriage in February. This year was the first that we celebrated. He was deployed to the desert for the first one. The second one, he was getting ready to deploy, we were broke and not getting along. This year we actually celebrated and he made it very special. Our anniversary is on Valentine's Day. I didn't choose this day... I wish we would have gotten married on ANY other day actually. But he wanted Valentine's Day. I don't know why, we had no wedding. It was a crappy day altogether. This is the second marriage for both of us and we both had big weddings the first time. He wants to re-new our vows one day and as he says, "Marry me right." Our wedding day was so awful. And the next two anniversaries followed suit. We are on the right track now though...so things are looking up. I can't remember exactly what I did on the first anniversary that he was deployed. I know we spoke on the phone and through email. I spent time with the kids. I was also hormonal because I was 2 and a half months from delivering our daughter. So I am sure I cried a good bit too. Hopefully the 8 year anniversary will be one that you can celebrate together!!
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
10 Jun 08
That must of been tough on you both with your husband being deployed and all. I'm also sorry to hear it didn't go so well on your wedding day. I think this is the second or third time he has been away for work on our anniversary day but that's ok, I understand he working for the three of us. I'm glad I got to get out for the day too! Thanks for sharing.
@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
10 Jun 08
i'm so sorry to hear that you have to spend your wedding anniversary day by yourself... i never experience that before... i only been married for 2 and a half years and my hubby always there with me for these past 2 years... even though we don't really celebrate it as we have limited fund and both of us have to work, but at least we have dinner together and we are there for each other during that important day... i am so sorry again to hear about what is happening to your wedding anniversary day... hopefully your day will get better... take care and have a nice day...
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Thanks lingli but I did have a lovely day after all. He did call Saturday and Sunday so that was nice. He was upset that he missed it but it was ok. He's working for us so that is fine!! Thanks again!
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Awwwww maddysmommy I feel so bad for you having to spend your wedding aniversary alone. Many years ago I did spend our anniversary alone I dont even remember which one it was.LOL I felt sad and I think I did do some shopping too. Hugs
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Thanks girlfriend :) He did call which was nice and the fact that I got to spend some time doing a little bit of shopping and relaxing was nice.
@Samanthavv (1386)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I've only had one weddin anniverary, and I didn't spend it alone, so I can't really relate to that one. Oh, and by the way, I really really really HATE starbucks. I used to work there. It's a terrible place to work. I hated it.
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Aww I'm sorry you feel that way. It's a treat for me as I love the coffee.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
10 Jun 08
Happy Aniversary!!!! I am so sorry that you spent your special day alone. But look on the bright side, at least you are still happily married after seven years.
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
10 Jun 08
haha exactly Rozie. I actually enjoyed my day by myself and was allowed to treat myself too!
@agihcam (1915)
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
With in 10 years of our marriage,we have one incident,I was in other country and we just talked via phone,so sad because it was wedding anniversary ( Dec 14 ) then Christmas and new year,so I missed 3 happy days from my family.But then,since it is a need,I don't have choice but to sacrifice those happy moments to earn money for my family.
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I understand the sacrifices my husband has to make too. It's not the first time he has missed our anniversary but the fact that he remembered and called me in the weekend meant a lot.
• South Korea
10 Jun 08
Congratulation! Although you spent it alone but for the reason that he's away working for you and your son is acceptable reason. Anyway there will be many more anniversary. My husband and me don't celebrate any anniversary. He doesn't believe in practicing the celebration of any anniversary.
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
11 Jul 08
Mines is tomorrow. We may not celebrate ours either. Sorry to say.
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
23 Jun 08
I don't think I have ever been alone on our anniversary, but if I was you, I'd have done the same thing. lol I probably would have spent a bit of time on the phone that night with him though. You can always make up the celebration when he comes home and I hope he has a safe trip home. ~Icy~