Do you find it rude??

United States
June 9, 2008 3:24pm CST
Hello I was wondering if you feel that it is rude when someone starts a discusion and then does not respond to the comments that are left? OR are you on the other point of view and find it annoying when the person comments on every comment that they recieve? Just curious what do you feel is proper ettiquete that everyone should know as MyLot members???
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@risris24 (712)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I think it is a matter of what was originally posted. If someone was asking for advice or some sort of question because they needed an answer, then yes they should definitley respond, but if it is a general topic started basically out of curiousity, like just something random, then I don't necessarily think a response is needed,but it is polite.
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@ZephyrSun (7385)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I try to respond to everyone but sometimes I either can't figure out what the person was trying to say or I didn't know what to say. I don't think of it being rude when I respond to discussions and the poster doesn't say anything. Most of the time I response to so many that I don't even remember LOL. I think it's funny when the poster response like a week or so later, it always makes me laugh.
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• United States
9 Jun 08
I have the same problem with my discussions, too. Sometimes, the response is so short that I really don't know what to say about it. Other times, I don't know what to say back unless I think about it.
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@ZephyrSun (7385)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Sometimes even when I think about it I can't even respond LOL. Just this week someone called me a racist...what would my response be WTF? lol
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@rrdj71 (696)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Well, I am sure that everyone can't always get to ALL their comments or responses. I believe proper etiquette is to respond but also for the other person not to get upset if they don't. After all, let's be honest the only reason some people respond is for money. ;)
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@danoluma (817)
• Kenya
10 Jun 08
I actually don't mind Because I only value a honest comment or rather sincere not just for money
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@tdemex (3547)
• United States
10 Jun 08
That's why it's called a DISCUSSION, or it takes two to tango! If I give a good response(and I do this for fun not $$$)I'd like some type of response from the poster. I can see not giving a response to some one liners or nutcases, but It's the right thing to do. You accually get credit for the response! Thanks !!! tdemex
• United States
9 Jun 08
If someone doesn't respond to any of the comments that are left, yes, I sort of think that's a bit rude. I understand you can't respond to every single one, hey, I definitely don't, but when you don't respond to any at all, it makes it seem as though you just started a discussion arbitrarily without caring about the opinions of others on the topic. That's pretty rude to me, lol.
• United States
10 Jun 08
That is kinda how I saw it, I just feel bad sometimes when I post for one response but not another, Because every response is helpfull. I see know that that is not possible now, cause I am stocked to see that I have recieved 43 responses, the most I have ever got!!
• United States
9 Jun 08
I kinda find it rude when the person who starts a discussion doesn't respond to ANY of their responses. But, I know I get paid either way, so it doesn't really bother me all that much. But, I think it's worse when the person responds to pretty much everyone else except me. I know there are people who I have responded to many of their discussions and they always seem to acknowledge everyone else but me each time. I quit answering their discussions because they obviously aren't interested in anything I have to say. But, someone who responds with real interest to every response is kinda fun to respond to. I know if I respond to their discussions, I'm going to get acknowledged and perhaps get an interesting comment to boot.
• United States
9 Jun 08
Yep, that is how I feel too desertdarlene! Some comments are not completely clear all the time (mine either), but I am interested in what others have to say! My reply may come late, because I am in and out of here, but I do read them. Have a Great Day desertdarlene!
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
9 Jun 08
Hello there, there is no obligation that someone has to answer all the posts; especially there are at least hundreds of the new posts available daily. Therefore, there is no reason to say or judge it is rude or no. However, it will be pleasure when the person comments on every comment that they receive as some people don’t even bother to comment. For me, I like to see the positive view rather than the negative one.
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• United States
9 Jun 08
I don't find either one rude. I respond if I have something to add but I don't if I have nothing to say.
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@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
10 Jun 08
I love to receive comments on my responses. I feel thankful to the member, who come out with her/his comments, irrespective of its lenghty, to my responses and I make it a point to post my counter-comments on his/her comments. However, if any of the member does not post his/her comments on my response, I do not take it very seriously, thinking that he/she would not have liked my response and she/he was too busy to comment. But I always feel that posting comments makes a discussion very interesting and lively. When I start my own discussions, I try to post my comments on each and every response I receive.
• United States
10 Jun 08
I like to recieve comments as well but now that I see how many responses one post can receive(like this one) I realize this would take a while. SO to everyone thank you for your responses I feel better knowing that I am not being rude because I can't post to everyone!
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
11 Jun 08
I agree with you. One more thing, if any response is intesting, you will automatically go for your comments on that. Therefore, the contents of any response are very imporant. Thanks for your comments.
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
11 Jun 08
Please read 'important' in place of misspelled word.
@intermy (153)
• China
10 Jun 08
Hi there wakerkdj! Well, I think it is rude if someone do not response any comments. It means he do not pay any attention to his friends, I am afraid. Howerver, there is not need to respond all of the comments. Respond is not a work. Who gives a good comment, who will get response! Hm, could you give me a response?
• United States
10 Jun 08
Sure can, I must also compliment your avatar, I like it! I was suprised at how many responses I got for this question beats my old record of ten, LOL.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
10 Jun 08
Personally I try to respond to every comment and like to see people respond to mine. I think that it shows courtesy. If you go to the trouble of responding the very least that i can do is acknowledge it. myLot Guidelines are that you don't need to do it however. But this is based on the fact that you don't get paid for responding. However, I think that this is a discussion forum and therefore if there are no responses there are no discussions. I have a rule. If I respond to the same person three times and they don't reply, I don't bother again. Happy myLotting.
• United States
10 Jun 08
I didn't know that you did not recieve money for responding, I thought that some people were just responding for the money when I first started a few days ago, because in one of the posts I read the discussion starter post the exact same response to every comment the post recieved. It kind of makes it that more meaningful knowing that they are responding out of pure gratitude and not greed.
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
Well, I don't find it rude. But it makes me wonder, why did the member started a discussion if he/she isn't willing to even bother to go back to that discussion? A comment or two is harmless. At least the members who responded would be happy that their responses are being read and commented by the discussion starter. I don't know you guys, but that's how i think. hehehe
• United States
10 Jun 08
That is a great point it is nice to see that the discussion was not just started for the money.
9 Jun 08
Hi, I dont think it is rude if somebody does not respond, you can't force somebody to write something. It also depends on the topic, and lets face it we might enjoy having these discussions with one another, but some just want to make a few extra bucks
• United States
10 Jun 08
WOW Thanks for all of the responses, I am new here so I wanted to be sure that I had proper ettiquette and that if I did post thank you response or comment back that it was ok. I am glad for everyones opinion, The MyLot family is awesome!!
@mentalward (14697)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Honestly, I don't give it much thought. I try to respond to everyone who makes a comment if I have something to add. But just to say "Thanks for responding" doesn't make much sense. I think it is generally understood that it is appreciated when you respond to a discussion. If someone asks me a question in their response, I'll do my best to answer it. If they leave an especially nice comment, I will let them know how thoughtful it was. But I do miss some. My husband and I are currently starting up a new business (we've just incorporated and there is so much to do!) and I have a dog who has been sick for almost a week now, so my time is limited. Responses to my discussions can get backlogged sometimes. Also, the longer you've been here, the more responses you are going to be getting and it can get quite daunting. You just can't know all the reasons why some go unanswered. I wouldn't call anyone rude unless I know their story and it is undeniable that they are being rude. Take care!
@Barbietre (1440)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Yes I agree, the thanks for the comment gets old really fast. And what if they have nothing to say about the comment left? I would rather have no response then just thanks or something to that effect.
@jcj_111776 (3221)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
I don't find it rude, but sometimes I can't help but be irritated. A discussion should be kept going by back and forth comments, even at least once. Especially when the respondents have given a valuable answer. But I really don't expect for someone to comment on answers that are unclear and sometimes way out of the topic. It will be difficult on the poster what words to say. And I only find it a little annoying when someone does make a comment on every responses, but those comments have little contribution to help the discussion going. This happened on some of the discussions I've responded to. The poster did comment back but it seemed as if they want to end the discussion by the words they have used.
@Elixiress (3893)
10 Jun 08
I think that people should only reply to the people that have posted in their discussion if they have something to say rather than just saying "thanks for posting" because that is pointless and just spams my inbox.
• United States
10 Jun 08
I try to respond to as many as I can,but sometimes there are too many.Also sometimes the response doesn't leave much for you to say in return.I read each one and if I am inspired and come up with a response in return then I respond right then.Because I know if I don't then I will lose track.Lets face it we all do a lot on our computers and have many emails to sort through it is not possible to keep track and respond all the time. Jas
@schulzie (4064)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I am new here too. I didn't know that we were supposed to respond to every comment. I just noticed that a lot of people do so I started to do it. I don't want to be rude to people either. I do know that you can get on here and before you know it you have been on for hours at a time. I have 4 kids and I try to sneak on here between cooking, cleaning, diapers, etc. Sometimes it is hard to get to every comment and it will just get lost in it all. Especially if you have many discussions going on at once. Happy mylotting and welcome aboard! :D
@metschica25 (5407)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Hello, Each time I will post I like to check up on my comments and respond, grated I only do maybe one post a week if that. Also, I will try to go back to the comments I have left . I don't find it rude , because I think most people do . Just sometimes with all the cooments a person has left it can be confusing ( well for me who will do about 50 a day lol) Happy posting !!
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
10 Jun 08
i havent started too many conversations i usually just add comments. sometimes they respond sometimes not. I do not like it if a person just say "thanks". It's like they dont give much thought to the response. Just trying to earn.
@SwtJenlove (1090)
• United States
10 Jun 08
i respond out of respect for actually having the heart to comment on my bulletin.