How do you get through to a friend that is with a loser?
June 9, 2008 11:15pm CST
I have this friend who has been with this guy off and on since she was 19. When they first met she didnt know he was married. After she found out they broke up and he ended up getting a divorce. Well a couple years later they end up getting back together and she finds out he's been cheating on her with 2 differnt girls. Now me and my other friend have tried and tried to tell her to not get back with him but even though he's cheated multiple times she still allows him to come over and stay at her house, sometimes even live with her without paying any of the bills. How do you get through to someone like this? I've been friends with this girl for 16 years and i hate to see this loser take advantage of someone as kind hearted as her. I've tried leaving it alone and hoping she would just get fed up and realize it on her own, but after dealing with him for 6 years she still hasn't. And i have to hear about him all the time. I just bite my tounge and listen. How would you handle a friend who can't let go of a loser boyfriend?
10 Jun 08
Your friend is still very much lost in her feelings for this guy. The reason you or your friends are not getting through is that she is unfortunately blinded by her emotions, or, that she cannot move on so she clings desperately to this on and off relationship. At this point, nothing you say can make her dump the boyfriend so be proactive, give her a copy of a book: He's Not That Into You. Just look up the author, it was written by a man in such a way as to remove the rose-colored lenses from many a woman's eyes. Also, set her up to meet new people. Maybe she's limited her options so much so free it up for her. Bring her to parties or set her up on dates so she sees beyond the loser dude. Good luck!