Full-time mother, or full-time employee?

Philippines
June 10, 2008 3:21am CST
Things are getting more expensive each day, but your kids also needs your attention more and more as they get older. Now I'm torn into two choices. Shall I stop working to take care of my kids? or continue work to share with my husband the family's everyday expenses? What about you? If you're in my situation? What will you do?
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
i am a single mom of four children. i have an abusive husband so i packed my bag tagged my kids along and left him. it was not easy at first there was a major adjusment. it is not easy but.... as my mom always tell me, if you like to do something then there is always a chance to do it, if you dont like there is always a reason (kung gusto may paraan, kung ayaw may dahilan). lucky you for having a husband who can help you around i dont have that. talk it out with your hubby, he can work on AM and you work at night (or vise versa) so that the children will have a parent with them when the other is at work. it is hard and your body will be tired but you will get used to it. just makes sure you fix the schedule and still have time with the children. are your children/child still young?
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• Philippines
11 Jun 08
we have a one-year-old son, and I'm also currently pregnant with our second child. The problem is, we are both working far from each other, and far from our son. He's working in Manila, I'm in Davao, and our son is at my parent's house. I'm just going home on weekends, while he's going home just occasionally. I'm looking for a home-based job so that at least, I will be with my son and our future child.
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@irishmist (3820)
• United States
13 Jun 08
We all want to stay home with our children when they are young, but that is not always possible. With a 2nd child on the way you will have your hands full. Is it possible for you to quit your job and stay home and start watching other people's children? That way you would be home with your children.
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
13 Jun 08
it depends on what is your priority. i think i would love to balance both world. i have seen many successful career women have nice gfamily. how they can do so?
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@angelface23 (2498)
• United States
31 Jul 08
Yeah I am struggling with this dilemma. I have a two year old daughter and I have to work Monday-Friday so by the time I get home I only have about 5 hours with her. I feel like I am missing out on her but the bills need to be paid. I hopefully will be getting child support from her father but until then I can't afford to not work 5 days a week.
@acmomcee (49)
22 Jul 08
That's also my problem for now. To stay at home or to work. But I decided to do both. I'll apply for a part-time job, 2-3 days a week and she'll be with the nursery in those days that I'm gone, and the rest is full family time. I'm not sure if I can find that job, but I'll pray. It's better in other countries since they are able to get a nanny and not pay that much. However, here, hubby and wife will have to take turns or pay a lot for a daycare. Talk to your hubby and decide for the best. Good luck!
@Etharon (217)
• Malaysia
25 Jun 08
I gave up my job a year ago to be with my kids but recently the government raise petrol prices by 41% and the cost of living has increased significantly so I might just have to go back to work again. I do make quite a lot of money online but we all have to save up for our kids education and a rainy day so just my husbands income and my online earnings will not be enough for us to save up. It is only enough for each month. So I might go back to work soon , perhaps by the end of the year.
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
14 Jun 08
This is a decision that you and your husband is going to have to talk out and decide on what will be best for you as a family. I worked at least two jobs for many years (as did my husband)but when our oldest son was about 7y/o ,because of some health problems that i have, we moved to an area where living expenses were less and i quit work. That was about 6years ago and no we don't always get everything we want, but we do as a rule have all that we need. Good luck! Hope whatever you decide works out for your family.