Children before parents?
By webeishere
@webeishere (36313)
United States
June 10, 2008 11:52am CST
Okay as I was reading one of my daughters discussion I ran across a commenr she had made that inspired this discussion. My wife and I have lived all but the last 5 years of our lives together in apartments. We raised our two children in apartment life. My daughter got married and they had bought a house then. Now my wife and I did not buy a house until 5 years ago. So our daughter bought a house before we did. This is odd as most parents have the house then the kids move out and maybe buy one. Did you own your home before your children did? Or did your children get a house before you did? Did it make you feel any different at all if they bought first? As far as me, it makes no difference really that she owned a house before we did. Except for the fact she keeps rubbing it in. Thanks Minnie. 
This is a shot of opur house from the curb of our street. The deck we added on 2 years ago.
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This is a shot of opur house from the curb of our street. The deck we added on 2 years ago.
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27 responses
@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
10 Jun 08
The way things are going i know at least one of my kids will be a home owner before i was.
I'm now a homeowner, but all my kids were born in rentals.
Your home reminds me of the home's here on my island, although most home's are now being built differently, i have a love for wooden houses,it just make's me remember when life was slow and island life was easy.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
10 Jun 08
very nice. Thanks. We love the house as well. it is a fixer upper though and the work has not stopped since we moved in. hahaha!!
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@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
10 Jun 08
I'm sure it's a labor of love!
Plus the advantages of a fixer upper is, you can fix it just the way you want it.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I bought mine first. Right after my divorce. When it came time for the divorce my ex husband said....if I can keep the house you can have the kids! There was not question about what I wanted ......and I told him.....you can't ever replace the kids....but I on the other hand can have another house. I was lucky and rented for about a year from a landlord that had this house I live in now.....so I moved from the apartment to my house with the option to buy...and so I did and have lived here about 27 years.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Great deal. Personally I think he is/was a jerk asking for the house over the kids. the way it came out it sounded like he was playing Let's Make A Deal. Unreal but that's life i guess. You got it all together either way. GRATS!
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
10 Jun 08
My parents got a house before I had mine Grandpa, but for me it doesn't matter really as long as the family is complete,healthy and happy! Thanks for sharing this picture, neat house and nice environment!
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I try to keep it neat and pretty looking. Especially
the lawn, flowers, and gardens etc. Thanks also.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
10 Jun 08
That's what I observed, great hobby and attitude Grandpa!
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@ElicBxn (63233)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Well... I don't have kids, but I've lived in a house for the last 24 years, and the 4 years before that a different house. That was preceeded by 5 years in apartments, actually closer to 8 years if you count the time my parents lived in an apartment before buying the house they retired to.
Now... I don't actually OWN this house, my folk's bought it for me to live in.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
10 Jun 08
We owned out home before out children did. Infeact our chidren do not have their own home. OUr daughter is helping to pay for their mother in-laws home and our son is getting out of dept before buying a home.
We love our home but it is sure expensive for use.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Our son is getting into debt first then maybe he will.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Lets hope he does not get in to too much debt before trying a home.
@Elixiress (3878)
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10 Jun 08
I still live at home with my parents, so I don't have a house, while they do. Their parents also had a house before my parents did. I think it is an unusual thing for parents not to have a house before their children as the market gets more expensive through the generations, so if anything you would expect younger people to be living in flats rather than houses, while the older generations are living in houses rather than flats.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Yes it is odd but I am comfortable with it and just happy my daughter has a nice home for her and the grandsons and future grand daughter as well.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
10 Jun 08
My parents had houses all of my life. I never lived in a rental until I married the first time. One of my kids has a house, that I wish they had not bought, and one wishes she had a house, just so that she could decorate as she wants. It does not make any difference to me when or how soon my kids get houses.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
10 Jun 08
My son is going to be the rental type as he is irresponsible. He could never keep a house clean
and what not either.
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@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Oh I dont rub it in that often lol. I brag more that you got a house but you just dont hear that. Ask chelsea ask kelly ask vanessa all of them i told about you finally leaving anoka and getting a house. So just remeber i brag for you also. Im not that mean of a daughter.
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@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Thats too bad. I did not know that i wondered why she wasnt returning my calls.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
11 Jun 08
My husband and I have had our home now for ten years. We lived from this apartment to that apartment and rented homes, etc. We got so tired of fixing up everyone elses place and wanted a home of our own so badly. I only have a 16 year old daughter so she still lives at home with us. I will see the picture of your house after tagging this discussion. I bet it is really pretty with all of the flowers you have.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
11 Jun 08
You have a very nice house Grandpa Bob. Your deck looks similar to ours. We put one on the front of the house and just finished the one in the back. We put a roof on the one in the back yard. It is so much nicer now that we do not have to sit in the boiling sun.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
My parents already owned their own house since I was small and I manage to buy a house about 3 years ago but I decided to give it up since my marriage broke down. My parents and I have never actually thought about it the way your daughter and you thought. It's just there and its happened but its not an issue and certainly not something that we talk about.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Well that's a shame. Did you give the house up due to not being able to make the payments or what? I just think it's funny that she bought hers before ours is all. No big deal either way. Thanks.
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@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I have to start off by saying that I love your house. Something I love on homes are the decks or a big porch, that is what I have always wanted.
We bought a house once then got rid of it when we moved back to our hometown. We have not bought again since then but have lived in houses, only time to live in an apartment was when our oldest was a baby. Our oldest when she got married her husband already had a place. Then when your youngest found the love of her live they bought a home then a few years later after they married they bought a brand new one. It would be nice to have our own home again but then again it is nice when something breaks down or goes wrong the landlord has to have it fixed.
If I could find a place like yours I would be in hog heaven, as the saying goes.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Thanks bunches. The cement steps that were there were trashed and falling apart badly. the cost of replacing them and the cost of adding a deck were close to the same amount so I said why not a deck. Yeah I miss the owners fixing things. I have to rely on myself, friends, or family members to fix things here when they break down.
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@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I did purchase my home while I still had my daughters at home. Though I have to admit, I am about ready to move into a studio sized apartment so they can't come back. I'm not talking so much about my oldest daughter but my youngest acts as if she owns the home and does what she wants when she wants. Sorry I'm ranting, but this hit a raw nerve with me today!
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Hey rant all you wish. I'll listen and even give you " + "
There's been times years ago I wanted to move and not let the kids know. Hahaha!!
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@olivebranch56 (910)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Well, Our situation is kind of funky, I bought a house with ex, then me and hubby bought, then went back to renting, meantime, kids bought, now we bought again. Are ya dizzy yet LOL. To me there are advantages, and disadvantages to buying, taxes, upkeep, etc. UGH! Knowing no one can tell me what color to paint a room, YEAH!
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I still have yet to paint any room at all.
It needs it badly also.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jun 08
We went from owning our own home to making a very
foolish mistake of selling our home before the values
of houses had really gone up, so we ended up on the'
apartment cycle and now I have been a widow for many
years, and still miss not owning a home again. We pay
dearly for rent here in southern california but its
a really lovely apartmentcomplex compared to the ones in
downtown Tustin. I love it that we have grass lawns, and
zillions trees and flowering shrubs, and even perieenial
flowers here. also its really quiet with no crimes happening
in our complex. It is also a gated community which helps
a bit. I doubt we will ever be able to buy a house now, the housing here is sky high. lol.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Sounds like a good community.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
11 Jun 08
My hubby and I rented forever too. He always promised me my own home. We bought this house, was so happy with it. Sadly he only got to enjoy it for 4 1/2 months before he passed away. I truly believe it was Gods grace that helped us get this house. God knew what was going to happen and worked everything out.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
10 Jun 08
I don't think it's that big a deal as long as you raised your children the best you can and you did put a roof over their head. I can tell by the way Minnie gets into your discussions she loves daddy very much so you did something right, so what if you had to let her buy her house first, Whatever works yeah? hehehe. I raised my daughter in an appartment for the first couple years of her life but I thought that really sucked. I went out one day to use our jeep we had a 47 willys and someone stole the sterring wheel out of it. I then rented a house till I was able to buy one. Our house is very much the same as yours, nice and very homey. We have a large back deck and one day I'd like one like yours on the front. Happy Postings Grandpa Bob.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
11 Jun 08
well, i am still single parenting....got a 14 year old at home....my oldest who is 31 is so much more successful than I will ever be. She and her husband have a beautiful home and two vehicles better than anything I could ever imagine owning....my grandchildren are dressed better than I ever could dress her. her marriage is solid and they are all so happy.....so much more successful in every way than I ever thought of being. I did my job....i'm still doing it. I would hope for my girls to be more successful than I am and so far so good...........not a hard act to follow really.
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@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
4 Jul 08
i don't want to happen it to me because in our country most of the kids even they are married still they live with their parents house. how could they live if a couple don't have own house. that is why i am preparing to acquire our own home. my girl friend and I agreed to buy our house before our wedding. i hope our fund will be enough for that purpose.
@qtfrog99 (279)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I have a 2 year old son and we live in an apartment, it just happens to be more cost efficient for us to be able to send him to a good school and take him on fun vacations. My folks had always owned a home before my sister and I came along.
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@ashnigam (96)
• India
11 Jun 08
I think all the parents wish that their children should fare better than them. It will hold true for us also. My parents could not afford to buy a car as they had to raise four of their children. When I started earning I bought a car and handed over the keys of it to them, they were so happy that I can not describe it in words. It was a life time moment for me to see them so happy and delighted.
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