When you feel sad, do you tell anyone?

United States
June 10, 2008 10:23pm CST
When you feel sad, do you tell anyone? Or, keep it to yourself? When you're in physical pain do you tell others around you? Or, hide your pain so as not to burden others? Sometimes when I'm really sad, I don't like to talk to anyone. So, I go and lay down and it just gets worse. You'd think that keeping problems to yourself and getting some quiet time would help sort out issues. But, most times the sadness just gets worse. When I'm in pain, I'm the same way. I don't discuss my physical pain. In fact, people rarely know I'm feeling bad. When I was going through labor with my child in the hospital, my husband marveled at how well I was taking the whole process. I wasn't trying to hide the pain, but I didn't feel like burdening him. When you're feeling sad or blue do you like to share your feelings with the ones you love?
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@lilybug (21182)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Nope, I don't tell anyone. I like to keep my feelings all nice and bottled up. I keep them pushed down deep and let them fester. It is really a bad habit.
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• United States
13 Jun 08
I do the same thing.
• United States
11 Jun 08
I usually don't tell anyone right away. I'm afraid of becoming a burden, too. If my problem gets too bad then people start to notice and ask me about it. I can't lie so I tell them and the problem gets better or is completely resolved. I really should tell people sooner to avoid all the grief I cause myself, but I don't like the thought of people being bothered because of me.
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• United States
13 Jun 08
I should confide in friends more. I keep things bottled up too long.
@subha12 (18463)
• India
11 Jun 08
it depends for which I am sad. it can be that i am sad for something which is very personal. that i do not discuss with others. if its for anything not so personal, i discuss this with parents.
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@zonaly (40)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
Sometimes when I feel sad I tell to my friends I don't keep it to my self.
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• Philippines
11 Jun 08
I'd prefer not to tell it to anyone and just wonder if they'll notice if i am sad. Right then and there will i know if they are truly my friends and if they really know the real me. And besides, Not all problems are meant to be spoken out loud(^^,)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
I oftentimes don't share to other people if I'm sad. You see, that's what's wrong with me. I keep everything to myself, for two reasons. First, I don't want burden them with how I feel. We all have our own problems to face, that is why I don't want to add my problems or my sadness to their burden, because I believe it's not their problem anyway. Second reason, I just don't like opening up to other people. I'm a very secretive person and I always feel that no one understands me. But my husband talked to me about it. Since we're already one, he told me that I should also share my sadness with him. Slowly I understand and started opening up to him. And it's true, every time I share my sadness to him, I feel a little better.
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• United States
11 Jun 08
Sometimes I do. Sometimes I don't. Usually people can tell though. I get very quiet, sometimes withdrawn. It isn't always good to hold everything in though. It can be overwhelming if you don't release some of your feelings one way or another. "Joy shared is doubled. Pain shared is halved."
@mummymo (23709)
11 Jun 08
This is a weird one for me as I have suffered severe depression on and off all my adult life and I have a very good mask - most people would never believe I suffered from depression as I can cover it so well - most of the time anyway! It is only in the last few years that I have realised if you are open and honest and talk about it it helps a lot! I am the same with my physical pain - I am open about it but try not to complain constantly! xxx
• United States
13 Jun 08
You are right! Honesty and openess is best. I am the same way with pain. I don't want to burden others, but I've found that they can't make allowances for me or give me help if I don't speak! For the longest time, my spouse was in a quandry as to why I was always acting weird. Eventually I told him that I was in severe pain from headaches. i thought my pain was self evident. It was not. I am happy that I could trust him enough to share.
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@mummymo (23709)
13 Jun 08
I am so pleased that you could confide in your husband - it makes all the difference sweetheart! Thanks for the Best Response! xxx
@gemini_rose (16194)
14 Jun 08
No, I tend not to tell anyone if I am feeling sad. Sometimes I have no reason for feeling sad so it would be hard to explain it to others. If my hubby picks up on the fact that I am not myself I usually just tell him that I am in a quiet mood. As I do go very quiet when I feel down. I just do not see the point of putting everyone else on a downer just because I am feeling low.
• United States
14 Jul 08
I felt that way the other night. So sad for no reason.
@Elixiress (3893)
11 Jun 08
I sometimes tell people and I sometimes don't. It all depends on if I think that they will be able to help. If I have a headache, I will tell people, so that they will keep quiet, but if it is a stomach ache then I won't bother as there is nothing that they can do about it. If I am feeling down then I tend to tell my boyfriend, because he is great at cheering me up.
• United States
13 Jun 08
I like that! Very sweet. I'm happy that you have someone who can make you smile.
@risris24 (712)
• United States
12 Jul 08
For the most part when I am feeling sad, or mad or any other feeling it pretty much shows on my face and everyone around me knows, so there isn't much to tell. However, I also get like you and sometime when I'm really down I just like to be alone and lay down and kind of forget the day. I feel if I go to sleep, this day that wasn't so good will soon be over an dtomorrow is another day, and hopefully a good one at that!
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
when i feel sad, i draw myself closer to God all the more...He is my security...I tell to Him everything, I just pray and pray and pray... When I feel pain (physically), well I just take some medicine and take some rest and pray... if still the pain is there, I consult the doctor... :)
@angelamp (241)
• Philippines
18 Jun 08
Most of the time I keep my misery to myself...I don't want other people to worry about me or my sorry state... but sometimes I tell someone that I am not OK especially when life-threatening situations pop up.
• Philippines
14 Jun 08
I don't.i rather turn to my work or mylot
@pkc3000 (1268)
• India
13 Jun 08
hey beautyqueen26 There is a proverb in our country i.e. in India that if you spread your feelings, sorrowness, and joy etc.amongst your near & dear you will get some kind relief. But there are so many persons to whom I know that they never tell their moments to others either it is sad moments, joy moments , they are in the opinion that for them why other should be disturbed and also not to burden others. To some extent I am also in the said category. When I am feeling sad or upset I simply keep it within myself. Unless untill it is necessary to tell I do not tell my moments particularly sad moments or I am in trouble. If I am having any pain in my body first I will try to bear the pain when it is unbearable or I am not in a position to do anything then I forced to tell my family members. It is true for the benefit of health you must share your all types of feeling with others. pkc3000
@pkc3000 (1268)
• India
13 Jun 08
hey beautyqueen26 There is a proverb in our country i.e. in India that if you spread your feelings, sorrowness, and joy etc.amongst your near & dear you will get some kind relief. But there are so many persons to whom I know that they never tell their moments to others either it is sad moments, joy moments , they are in the opinion that for them why other should be disturbed and also not to burden others. To some extent I am also in the said category. When I am feeling sad or upset I simply keep it within myself. Unless untill it is necessary to tell I do not tell my moments particularly sad moments or I am in trouble. If I am having any pain in my body first I will try to bear the pain when it is unbearable or I am not in a position to do anything then I forced to tell my family members. It is true for the benefit of health you must share your all types of feeling with others. pkc3000
@Timothy31 (649)
• United States
12 Jun 08
It depends on what i'm sad about. I will usually tell a few very close friends about it other than that i really don't share my feelings very often.
@adoremay (2069)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
I have this tendency to hide what I feel when I am sad. I really don't want to add more pain or to trouble others because of what I feel. I have learned that laughter when shared is doubled, and sorrow being shared does not.
11 Jun 08
yes.i share my feelings with my friends they correctly identify me when i am sad by seeing my face whether iam in happy mood or sad .
@mikeysmom (2094)
• United States
11 Jun 08
i usually keep things to myself including physical pain. there is really no use telling anyone as they really cannot help with it. as far as being sad i tend to just work through it on my own. in the past if i could not i would go to a therapist until i felt better about the issue.