why do people judge ? im 33 and husbands 51, yet we are frowned upon.

sorry to hear about that. But I don't think people should judge a couple just because of a very big age difference. So if you really love each other, just ignore those people and prove to them that they are wrong. What's wrong having an older husband or wife? They just don't understand you.

hmmm...in my case, i married a man of my own age, so there is no problem. but really, age does not really matter as long as you both have love and understanding in a marriage. in my country however, a lot of people frown upon these kinds of marriages, because some filipinas marry old american or british men, mainly because of money. that is why people frown on such. but we can't blame them for wanting a better life, can we? i just think that we have no right to judge others based on their decisions and actions. for all we know, there really is love, or the marriage is based on convenience. whatever the reason, we don't have the right to judge our fellowmen. if you are happy with your marriage, don't let others affect you. just live with their talks because you have made your decision. just make your husband happy. :-) God bless you!

My hubby is only about 5 years older than me, but our best friends were 13 years apart in age and had a good marriage until he passed away last year. I don't think age matters as much as knowing you have found the right person. Too bad your family simply because you married an older man. I hope they come around someday when they realize he is treating you right.

too bad our family always expect so high from us and when we don't meet their expectations they would hate us even though they're the one who set them and we had not motivated them to do so. sometimes, because they were expecting so high, they could have been bragging about you to the neighborhood that once you didn't turn out to be the darling princess they had been constantly telling the people around them, they'd feel you have just put them into a shameful situation their pride couldn't take. they would be scared of what these people would tell about you and your family and they'll blame you for it. but don't worry, even if it will take longer, you'd still gain back the kind of relationship you've had with them before because they're still your family after all. once all those feelings tone down, they'll withdraw and submit to the present. they would come to thinking that there's nothing else they can do about it, and as long as you're happy they would be fine with it. only, it will take time. i've had relationship with a 6 years younger-- i'd say boy, not a man. ahahahah... we broke up even before my family could find out about us. big age difference also meant big differences in other stuffs, priorities for example.^_^ he's just a kid. i was confused. congratulations by the way, for finding your soulmate. i don't give much a fuss about the man being older.

I am so sorry this has happened to you. One of our neighbors is a married couple that have an age difference further apart than yours. She is 30 something and he is 60 something. He has a daughter the same age as his wife. They get along great and are a very nice couple! I hope your family can eventually just see your husband as the one who makes you happy! Best wishes to you.