Don't let the past hold you back, you're missing the good stuff.

@saundyl (9698)
Canada
June 12, 2008 6:04pm CST
I heard a mom say this to her son this afternoon when in a sports store. He as waffling about some sports camp. What she said made me wonder what was in his past that was holding him back. It also made me think I wonder how much I've missed out on because I let something that happened or didnt happen before stop me from doing something. Do you ever wonder that? Do you know of anything that you've missed because you were scared of a repeat performance?
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@Timothy31 (649)
• United States
13 Jun 08
That sounds like very good advice to me. I'm sure everyone can say have missed out on something because something has stopped them doing it and have wondered what if. I can think of things i wish i had done but didn't for one reason or another.
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
13 Jun 08
It sounded like really good advice to me too. Figured i just had to share after over hearing it.
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• United States
13 Jun 08
Yep it sounds good to me too.
• United States
12 Jun 08
Wise words sometimes come in strange packages. You made me ask myself if there are times when I miss something great, because of a previous bad experience. These are words that I will add to my collection of Mom inspiring quotes to use with my own children. Thank you for sharing your experience!
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
12 Jun 08
yup. usually happens. we miss a lot of things because we're blinded by out past. sometimes, we don't anymore see the good things which are just right infront of us, waiting to be noticed. i hope we don't miss so much anymore after reading this discussion! anne
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
13 Jun 08
I was just surprised to hear it in the store and have it invoke a lot of thought. I've added it to my inspirational quotes that i like.
@spalladino (17927)
• United States
13 Jun 08
I wonder about it sometimes because a long time ago I wanted to be a reporter and write for the Washington Post but I wasn't motivated to go to college at that time because I didn't score well on the SATs and my grades were average. Looking back now I wonder if I would have given it a try had I had better self esteem and if I would have been able to reach that goal.
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
13 Jun 08
Do you ever consider trying now? Its hard to look back and think about what one missed.
@selece (2357)
• Philippines
13 Jun 08
They always say that there's no point in crying over spilled milk. We have to move on. Everything moves on, life goes on.. People grow. The world doesn't stop revolving. Everything in life is all about moving on. We shouldn't bind ourselves to the past because there is no sense in doing so. We are only making things difficult for ourselves. What matters is the present and what we have now. If we focus on what we have now, we can create a better future. We cannot change the past, but we can create a good tomorrow if we know how to deal with the present. "The present is a gift. That's why it is called "present". "
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
13 Jun 08
Those are all good philosophies to follow. I love hearing little sayings and quotes that people use to motivate.
@skydancer (1716)
• United States
13 Jun 08
I don't think the past holds me back so much as it haunts me. I still approach all things in life that I want to do the same as I otherwise would have, however, I know that sometime, somewhere an event from my past that I regret will come back to haunt me. It is quite difficult to explain as it is not the kind of thing that disables you or breaks your motivation or keeps you from moving on. It's just there... and it makes me very sad and depressed at times. It also makes me overly cautious in how I deal with new people and new situations. Sometimes I long to forget and pray that everyone involves has forgotten... and people say I let these memories haunt me but I don't - they just come to me without warning and I can't get them out of my head... believe me, if I could, I would! So I do have a sort of problem with memories of the past coming back to me, but it doesn't interfere with the quality of my life and does not affect what I do with my life. It just makes me feel bad. But I do press on in spite of that.
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
13 Jun 08
You make a lot of sense. Its great to hear you don't let it hold you back. Its ok to feel sad about things that happened sometimes.
• United States
12 Jun 08
This made me realize I do this and need to knock it off because Im missing out on what could be the next big experience. I think alot of people dont do things because of there pasts.
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
13 Jun 08
I know I do it..being bullied in highschool for several years resulted in my being afraid to actually be myself around non family members or VERY close friends. It also resulted in me not being as willing to share my interests for fear of being made fun of.
@Hatley (154558)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Jun 08
I did have a chance to move up in the library but turned it down as it involved some nights working too . however I might have been able to work out the transportation for the nights but I was afraid I couldnt handle the job so I 'never even tried. Years late I have wondered if I could have done that job and it would have meant more money too. but now I am retired so that is all in the past. I am on a new journey now of course. retirement land and mylotting.
@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
13 Jun 08
I wonder how many people have turned things down because of past or even worry they can't handle it. mylot is an awesome place to be!
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
12 Jun 08
that's a good advice for all of us (i think). most people in this world are afraid to enjoy their "today" because their past is holding them back. thing is, we all commit mistakes and we all get hurt. people say, "forget about your past and move on". however, it's not always as easy as that. maybe it's better to not force yourself to forget about the ugly things that happened in your life...better yet, learn from it and move on in life. life does not end after doing one silly mistake. it goes on and on. anne
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
13 Jun 08
That is very wise. I hope in the future to learn from my mistakes rather than let them hold me back!
@gxnfly (1148)
• China
13 Jun 08
That's quite true,we should learn to move on anytime in our life.The life needs to learn forgetting so that we can move on at ease. Learn to forget!
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