Whats important in a relationship to you?

United States
June 12, 2008 9:09pm CST
Ive been in a relationship for 8 years now and sometimes i find myself wondering if its worth the time i have invested into it i find myself asking the same question, How do I know if this is the right one I feel like he is but i dont want to be wrong. What makes a healthy long lasting relationship? or What do you look for as far as qualities in boyfriend or husband?
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11 responses
• United States
13 Jun 08
I'm single right now, because I have no interest in a relationship right now. I just got out of a relationship that lasted a few years and I have decided to get my ducks in a row before I even consider another relationship. When looking at traits I like somebody who has the same interests as me, is kind, honest and funny. Being humorous is important to me because I like to laugh. I wants someone who has some of the same interests as me so we can do things together without one of us being dragged along. Kindness and honesty are self-explanatory. I also look for someone who knows how to fight right. To debate things and talk things out rather than yelling, screaming and calling names. It's not easy to find...lol.
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@julyteen (13265)
• Davao, Philippines
13 Jun 08
we newly get back to our second time relationship that happen yesterday, my girlfriend and i was a good lover but when the time that i am addicted to internet i lost track with it, we lack of communication after that, the result was i am so bored with her, i prefer to get into internet than my girlfriend, we broke our relationship then but lately we realize that we must build good communication between us so that our love will grow more and more everyday. we are happy now.
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@profitsg (90)
• Singapore
13 Jun 08
A healthy relationship requires alot of effort and energy to keep it strong and going. You will need good commmunication with your spouse/partner and if he/she isnt not very willing to talk about how they feel about certain things, the relationship can turn out quite bad because there will be misunderstandings. Do not assume that the other party knows because we are cannot read others mind. A healthy relationship will need trust and allow the other to have their own free time and leisure.
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• United States
14 Jun 08
Stability. Sanity. Caring. Kindness. Same faith beliefs. (That one is very important, especially if you are planning to have children, there will be fewer arguments over how to raise them.) I look for many things in a partner. Lucky for me, I found them all in one man. In your heart you'll know when he or she is right. Be well. Best wishes on finding your one true love. Have a nice day.
• Philippines
14 Jun 08
for me it's trust. If you don't have trust in your partner also with yourself how will you make your relationship long lasting.
@shamsta19 (3232)
• United States
13 Jun 08
Mutual understanding on everything that matters in the both of your lives and RESPECT!!!!! My last girlfriend didn't respect me and wasn't giving me the respect I gave her. So now I am single!
• India
13 Jun 08
Hi! I have been married for five long years.I feel the most important aspect in healthy relationship is LOVE. I feel the extent of love you have towards your partner makes you do anything and everything for him/her. But by extent i don't mean infatuation which you have in early age or just blabbering i'd die without you,if you are not mine. Love is not something which you can force on anyone you know. Its a mutual feeling. Having mutual concern towards eachother, mutual respect and mutual understanding is very very important. Love or relationship is never one way traffic. A couple should give space for eachother. Both should give space to eachothers feelings and action they'd like to perform. As for me i feel freedom is the journey towards love, bliss and a successful relationship. By supressing the feelings of the person one love's i don't think one would ever be happy. Regards, Ramya.
@Elixiress (3893)
13 Jun 08
I don't believe in "the one" so I don't have a your dilemma. I believe that there will most likely be a few significant men in your life and just enjoy the time that I have with theme. Things that are important to me in a relationship is trust, I broke up with a boyfriend after 2 years, because he thought I was constantly cheating on him when I wasn't. Another thing is faithfulness, because without it there is no trust. I also think that I have to be able to learn something from my partner, otherwise I will get frustrated and feel that they are stupid and end up disliking them for it. Finally fun, I have to be able to have fun with the person that I am with, either alone or in a group as well as being able to have fun without them.
@scapula (760)
• Jordan
13 Jun 08
What is important to me is the honesty , there is no relationship to me without honesty, I don't care about beauty, the only thing is to be honest with me.
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
13 Jun 08
I've been in a relationship for 3 years and 6 months now. Sometimes I am also asking if he is really the one that I am looking for and if he is the one that I will spend my life through... When I was asking that question, I am thinking all of our happy memories that we have been through then that is the time that I would know my answer... If that person is not worthy to be with, did you ask your self why you were still together? Why you are still being with each other? If you will know that answer maybe you will be able to answer the other questions... Spending with someone for 8 years means that you love him, that you don't want to lose him in your life...Do you think when he is gone can you still continue your life like the way he is still there? The only reasons why people get married because they love each other (except those who are parental and selfish)... But sad to say that when that love fades away, the marriage will also fades... Here in the Philippines, you cannot marry twice or more (unless you are rich) because there is no divorce here... Sometimes when two couple separate with each other, they cannot marry other people because they are still married with their first wife or husband. Here in the Philippines, only annulment exist but it is in the long process and those couple should have a big money to undergo this annulment...
• Canada
13 Jun 08
My husband and I made sure we found ourselves long before we found eacother. All we wanted in a partner was someone who would accept the other as they were, and in return we would do the same. That has worked quite well for us.