Strange question about nails

@fwidman (11515)
United States
June 13, 2008 5:09pm CST
Why do females spend so much time getting dolled up, especially these days by going to a fancy nail salon and getting their nails done only to be embarassed when a man notices these lovely nails and compliments them? I mean, isn't the point of looking pretty so that you WILL be noticed?
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@eloouuu (176)
13 Jun 08
There is definitely a lot of pressure on females in society to look good. Although I don't personally groom to the extent of having my nails done, I know a lot of people who do. They do this for many reasons - perhaps to be noticed, as you pointed out, or maybe it is a treat? It could be that it is something they like to indulge in to give themselves a bit of confidence. The second response in this discussion outlines something interesting - he always remembers her nails. This outlines that even the most trivial appearance of a female, right down to her fingernails, are taken note of and maybe that is why they feel it is important to look their best. For some people, they enjoy looking smart and attractive, and for others, it can be the result of an underlying complex regarding the way they look. After all, who wouldn't have one when every fine line or blemish is blown up to look like a face crater? I think the embarrassment you speak of is due to the fact that many people have difficulty accepting compliments; I know I do! Although I have found that this is not gender-specific and a lot of people have the same difficulty. I believe this is because it is often instilled in our brains from an early age to be modest and not to act big-headed or conceited, but many people also have trust issues that mean they don't really believe somebody when they are complimented. You may also be confusing embarrassment for attraction, it is a well known fact that women tend to blush when they find somebody attractive due to blood circulation, and this also causes a deepening of colour in the lips and the appearance of being flushed. (Well, you've learnt something new to look out for today...!) In short, I don't believe that the whole point of looking pretty is to be noticed, sometimes it can simply be to make yourself look better or to give yourself confidence that you otherwise lack. It's a shame that we have to resort to this but the world is still a very discriminatory place.
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
13 Jun 08
You bring up some valid points. Many people are not totally comfortable with being complimented. I hadn't considered the attraction point only perhaps because I am older and married and have raised five kids. Not much to be attracted to LOL. When people compliment me, I always say thanks, because that is what my mother taught me to do. I have seen lots of folks who crave attention and get big-headed, but those people rarely get honest compliments. I like the thought that it could be a treat for themselves. Many females don't treat themselves enough :)
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@eloouuu (176)
13 Jun 08
I think it is important that women are able to see themselves as attractive at least sometimes. I know I'm not close to being a supermodel, I know I'm not the prettiest or the skinniest person, but I see no harm in saying my hair looks good ... if it does. This doesn't mean that every day I tell myself I look fantastic, but it does help a lot with self-esteem. If you can't ever see yourself as attractive, how is anybody else ever going to? Older, married, five kids - it doesn't matter. That doesn't change who you are nor does it make you less beautiful. It's terribly cliché but everybody is beautiful in their own way and you shouldn't think the way you do. My own mother is older, married and has two children but she is still pretty in my eyes as I am sure you are to your children. I try to say thank you if I agree with a compliment, but I can often tell when people are lying. I am just honest with them - if I know something looks awful, I thank them for their kindness but I'd rather they were just honest. And hey, who doesn't like a bit of pampering now and again! I know given the chance and the appropriate funding, you'd never get me out of a salon for getting my hair and make-up done! I rated you positively - I really like this discussion.
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
14 Jun 08
Thanks for all the insight, as well as the positive rating:) Not quite sure how the rating system here works, but I'm certain a plus is much better than a negative :) I am beautiful on the inside, but the outside has too much roughness. I've been that way since my 20's, I'm used to it. My wife thinks I'm handsome, that's good enough for me! I rated yours as the best answer. Have a great weekend!!
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@Tianna2 (1274)
• United States
14 Jun 08
When I get my nails done, its more for me then anyone else, however I love getting compliments on any aspect of my appearance(nails included). One of my favorite things is to spend a day at the salon(manacure, pedacure, massage, facial), Pure Heaven! I'm sure a lot of the problem is that people just dont know how to accept a compliment. The usual reaction when you compliment a lot of people is embarassment. Please, this doesnt mean you should stop complimenting these ladies, I'm sure they walked away feeling pretty good about themselves, its just they're not sure how to respond to a real and sincere compliment. Yours truly, Tianna
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
14 Jun 08
Don't worry, Tianna2, I will not stop complimenting the ladies on their nails or anything else. If they feel good about themselves then it was worthwhile to compliment them :) I wouldn't mind spending all day in the salon but I'd have to skip the facial, I have a full beard so that might get somewhat messy LOL
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@Tianna2 (1274)
• United States
14 Jun 08
Oh thats the part of the spa treatment that I forgot, They have wax treatments that can take care of that for you, if you like! lol Tianna
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• United States
13 Jun 08
I do not think it is a matter of looking pretty to me noticed. I think women do this to feel good about themselves and there appearance. I think women do this for their self esteem.
@5mayday (1054)
• Norway
13 Jun 08
There are many people that will pay attention to that and look at ur nails. atleast I do and I know a few other guys that do it too. I feel abit disgusting when I see one of mine class mate always bite her nails and you know how it will looks like after biting it so often, although her face and body is good looking. But I will always remember her nails.... I think really really dolled up nails is mostly because the female likes it and someone have said, thats same as a guy spending so much time on fixing their hair.
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
13 Jun 08
From the looks of guys these days, and what passes as fixing their hair, I wonder why so many of them have never seen a comb. I guess the just rolled out of bed look is the right look these days LOL Too bad about the classmate, chewing your nails is okay if you are a small child, but not after that. And, you never know what people will remember of you. She should take better care of her total appearance, including her nails :)
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@enbrown (282)
• United States
13 Jun 08
yea I think it's lame when girls do that. Be proud! lol
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• United States
24 Jun 08
I love it when my spouse notices the hard work that I've put into looking beautiful. I love the way he does it too. He looks me right in the eyes and compliments me. It makes my heart melt!
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
24 Jun 08
Good for him :) Nice to have a partner like that!
@hezoid (2148)
5 Jul 08
I never get embarassed when a man or even another woman compliments me on my nails or anything else. Of course we have to try and play it down a bit so that we can appear to be modest. It wouldn't do us much good if a man said 'oh you look nice' and we replied 'yes i know' as we woul seem very vain and self-obsessed.