I am not able to understand some girls.

Hi! Girls are hard to understand. Maybe when the particular girl smiles at you, she may mean something. Maybe she found you worth her smile . When you tried to come closer, maybe she is irrated . It's because she didn't mean anything in just givng you a smile. Better, don't take the situation seriously unless it is really serious....how is it then? hehehe.... Krisaea

ha ha. these things are happening due to hormone changes. many girls use to act like that and guys should understand and try to pick a better girl for them.

Sometimes its a game to them Aji. There are times the avoidance is in the few seconds rule. Its just a "rule" of attraction, that it only lasts a few seconds for the assessment if you are attractive or not to them. Other times the game is just common, then there are times its a cruel game amongst friends. In some places the chase and even the approach need to be done with caution. A girl could easily call harassment on you for simply approaching proximity and saying something common.

Well,ajith,there are different kinds of people.I don't think you should limit this kind of behavior only to girls.I know guys like you've described through personal experience.Mostly if i give special attention to a guy i want his attention.Theres something satisfying in knowing that you have more than option.I think its but natural that girls tend to be nice to you first.It doesn't necessarily imply they want to be romantically involved with you.They may just be wanting to gain popularity or maybe its just harmless flirting or maybe they're looking at someone behind you!lol..just kidding.Tell you what you need to do.Don't give in so easily.And if you do just pamper her like crazy and show her you don't mind her moodswings and vanity.There are 2 types of guys that girls just love-those who play hard-to-get and those who don't mind smothering you even when you constantly push them away.But please make sure you know for sure the girl is interested because guys who just don't get that the girl is not irritating are quite nightmares!Best of luck.

maybe once the girl comes near to a person she comes to know he is not the one and hence may go away or become distant. the best thing is not to give too much attention

she leaves you at large in order to her afterwards.

I am not sure why it happens. I am a girl and I used to do the same thing sometimes. I would like a guy and want to be his friend or date him, but when he paid attention to me, I got nervous and backed away from them because I did not know how to act or what to say. That could be the case here.

LOL, you are funny ajithlal but I know that is true. Maybe that girl wanted you to exert more effort to be her friend..LOL, like testing how patient you are and how sincere you're intentions to be her friend...Some will do test really!

Hi ajit, yes they are playing around. I think all girls are not same few are good and really want to be your friend. But some boy love those playing kind of girls and dont care the girl who is truely good. You know how to deal with this kind of girls, dont pay attention to them if they are playfull but if she really want to be your then- they will come behind and stay for some time.. If she doenst come then understand she is kind of dominating and always want to win. enjoy :)

very interesting topic,in my opinion,when some girls smile to you,maybe she just want to show her polite,maybe you get them wrong and misunderstand them.of cource,maybe some girl really want to get you attention,we have one proverb in chinese,that is leave sb.at large in order to apprehend him afterwards,if so,you can ask her for her real feeling.

I think that the girl may be shy or maybe too flirtatious. Some girls will flirt for attention or just to be friendly and when the boy approaches, the girl will back away. It can either be too boost their ego like the first responder mentioned, or because that's their way of being friendly. Although, I hate to admit it but some girls will do it just to be mean. To play with a guy's mind, for whatever reason.

Sometimes girls have just been taught or socialized to be "nice" and they are just being nice and friendly. If you then respond by appearing to want something more, she may be geniunely surprised to have illicited this reaction and then "turns off" to let you know she didn't mean THAT NICE! Maybe you are coming on too strong also.

it is always a mistry to understand a girl mind,so wht u feel is not a shocking info,it happens.there may be many reasons of a smile,but it depends on u wht u r expecting from her.let them smile and u also enjoy their beeautful smile.girls look gud when they smile isn't it?

I think this is human's nature, maybe more prominent in girl, that whenever you don't have something you try to get it, and whenver you got it and you want to rid it. I think people don't do it on purpose of fooling around, but it's just our own nature

i think this problem is going on and on for years. i will not say all girls are like this and all boys are just fine. It happens reverse also. i have seen the boys taking advantage of the girls and then cheating.I am not telling your vision is not coreect, But may be boys also sometimes read it wrong.

maybe she is just as confused as you are. if you like a girl, it's better to tell her straight. girls often tend to overanalyze things especially when a guy gives her special attention. sometimes for you guys, you are just being friendly. but to us girls, it comes differently. so i think it's better if you tell her clearly of your intentions. but don't come on too strong on her or she will head for the door. good luck!

hi,bro good point i too had undergone with the same problems some time . girls some time want to show over smartness .they probably think that boys run before them . they want to go with the name fame and money. it is hard to find sincere girl friend or lover whom u can love with full dedication. ego also matters if both are working after marriage. some girls are of good nature too

Don't try to understand them as it is complicated. Just do what your heart want you to do!! Be yourself and put in your effort!!