Commenting on friends' discussions....do you always or only when...

@jerzgirl (8013)
Gloucester City, New Jersey
June 15, 2008 3:21pm CST
you have an opinion on the topic? I want to tell those on my friends list what they may already know. I don't answer, respond to, comment on each and every discussion I see started. I do look to see what you've put out there, but they don't all grab my attention or cover an area on which I have an opinion. I hope you understand. I'm pretty sure my discussions, few though they may be, haven't lit everyone's idea light either, and that's OK. We aren't always on the same wavelength or have identical areas of interest. Heck - if we did, how boring would that be? What would we learn, right? I'll admit to commenting to more than one discussion by the same person, but it's because they happened to hit several areas I had thoughts about - not because I favored them over others. And, sometimes, I'm just more in a mood to be contrary, so I look for something I can challenge (usually found in Politics or Debate). But, do some of you actually try to contribute to all discussions started by friends? I'm curious.
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@maspapang (142)
• Indonesia
16 Jun 08
Mostly I've just send a comment to discussion subject that I understand or I like it. I think if we send more respond to some discussion, we can be paid faster than if only read the discussion :)
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• India
16 Jun 08
Hi ! I try to respond to discussions started only by my friends usually. I respond to only few dissussions in the list of top discussions. Mylot is very good to know new things or different things from different people. Have a great day!
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@marababe (2513)
• Philippines
16 Jun 08
I don't ALWAYS respond to my friends' discussions unless I have an opinion or I experienced the topic already and would like to share point of views and advices. I also am guilty of responding to more than one discussion by the same person and like you, it's because I have something to share about it.
@Hatley (164640)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Jun 08
jerzgirl I tried when I first started but just too much to do'and not enough time to do it in for me.So I just do' the best I can. I only hope my friends realize that. Right now I am ill with shingles so am slow getting things done but I am mylotting like crazy so will get there eventually.
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@Elixiress (3893)
15 Jun 08
I rarely check my friends discussions, I check the top discussions first then I check the discussions with no responses and then I go to the discussions that my friends started, but as I usually get my daily 25-35 posts before I get to my friend's discussions I do not usually check them. I am not that close to any of my mylot friends.
@jerzgirl (8013)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
16 Jun 08
I think I use a similar method, although they might not be in exactly the same order. I'll go back to the Home page more than once in a day because things change all the time.
@Elixiress (3893)
16 Jun 08
I usually just mylot once / twice a day. Usually I check my emails on the morning and reply to those that have replied to my discussions / responses. But on the night I go through my routine of replying to new discussions or making new discussions myself. I tend not to come here in the middle of the day as I am usually doing other things.
• Indonesia
16 Jun 08
I think most of us would think and do like you jerzgirl. I have some on notifications for some friends of mine in the list. I don't always response to their discussions because sometimes the topic is really out of my knowledge whatsoever. I think they would understand. It is better than to still try to response the discussion with meaningless responses.
@jerzgirl (8013)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
16 Jun 08
Precisely. I have given a short answer or two, but it's mainly on discussions where it's almost a "yes or no" type of question and I feel strongly enough to say one way or the other, but don't elaborate. Otherwise, I say too much (I've been told - not by people here, though). I tend to be wordy.
@Adelida2233 (1008)
• United States
16 Jun 08
I tend to only answer the ones where I feel I have something to add to the conversation. I don't post just to say "yeah, I agree" or the like. But on most things, I can find something to say, so I do respond to a fair amount of discussions anyway.
@jerzgirl (8013)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
16 Jun 08
I have done the "yeah, I agree", but rarely and only on discussions that were more polls than discussions. But, I think I still add a word or two because I hate being thought as only answering to get credit. I don't answer anything if I don't feel connected in some way to the question. Just sometimes I don't have much to say about it. Love your Siamese!! I'd love to have another Sealpoint.
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
15 Jun 08
I'm with you there. There are quite a number of discussions my friends might start but I just don't reply to all of them if I can't relate to them...such as someone talking about a favorite TV show ....how can I respond to that if I never even watch it? To be honest too, once I'm here at MyLot I tend to concentrate on replying to responders on my own discussions first, then if I have time start making responses to my friends discussions...lately it's been hard juggling things as I've been writing a lot of articles...in fact just finished one and submitted to AC...then I make time to write in my novel. So lots of times by the time I get to MyLot..I'm kind of brain fart from all that writing..
@SheliaLee (2738)
• United States
15 Jun 08
I always look at the discussions started by my friends to see what they are talking about, but no, I don't always respond to each discussion. I'm like you, I look for the subjects that I'm interested in. I'm thankful for all my friends and when they start a topic I'm really interested in I'll definitely respond. Have a great day!!!
@jerzgirl (8013)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
16 Jun 08
It's funny, because I really thought there would be some who said that they try to say something on all their friends' discussions, but that hasn't been the case. This has been interesting to see.
@kel1483 (986)
• United States
15 Jun 08
I only respond to friends' discussions if they interest me. I don't think it'd be good to comment to all of them, because there are a lot of topics I don't know a lot about or I don't have an opinion of. So why waste my time writing something lame and my friends' time reading a non-useful or non-interesting response, I think it'd be better to just not respond. I prefer to give quality responses to discussions and if I don't know the subject, well it's harder to do so. I also, wouldn't expect all of my friends to respond to all of my discussions.
@jerzgirl (8013)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
16 Jun 08
That's me, too. I need to be able to say something. If I can't, then I'm not going to pretend.
@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
15 Jun 08
I try to cover most of the discussions with answers as well, but some of them do only make me read them but not respond. I'm not into the politics of other countries for example - so i couldn't possibly answer to those topics i guess. At times, i try to take every friend in the list and visit their discussions with the less responses or no responses to help them earn, because i think it's only natural for friend to do that here on mylot. Take care friend - good topic.
@jerzgirl (8013)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
16 Jun 08
Sometimes the topic will be of no interest to me, but I'll read their response and they'll say something I just HAVE to comment on. I do like that they have short blurbs of what was written so we can get an idea before changing screens. But, I will check to see who's writing what and see what attracts me. Then, I'll go to my favorite interests and see what's there. I'll also check "zero" responses, new discussions, recent discussions, hot topics and such to see what will grab my attention. Some days, it isn't much. Other days, it seems like one thing after another.
• Canada
15 Jun 08
No, I look at the discussions that interest me and I have something to contribute to the discussion. I don't respond just because they are on my list of friends. You could miss out on a lot of interesting discussions going that route.
@jerzgirl (8013)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
16 Jun 08
I always go to the home page to see who's done what and where. If it calls me, I contribute. If it doesn't, I don't. Like - if someone were discussing knitting, I wouldn't be there. Have never knitted and never will. Things like that.
@Tianna2 (1274)
• United States
15 Jun 08
I dont respond to anyones discussions(friend or not) if I dont have anything inteligent to contribute. I do make sure my friends discussions are one of the first things I look at when I log into mylot and respond to all that I can. Cheers, Tianna
@jerzgirl (8013)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
16 Jun 08
I agree - 99% of the time, I want to have something to say. But, there are a rare few that just seem to be more poll than discussion. Those can be fun, depending on what they're polling.
• United States
15 Jun 08
I try to comment on my friends topics, but there are reasons that I may not. 1 if it is a topic I have no interest in, or cant add anything useful to it I wont answer. 2- if the topic already has 30 or more responses, i dont really see any sense in responding to it.
@jerzgirl (8013)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
16 Jun 08
I know what you mean - and the ones with so many responses, yeah - sometimes that stops me, but not always. It depends on how strongly I feel about the topic or how much the person writing needs support, if it's something that calls for it.
• United States
16 Jun 08
I usually only respond to a post if I have an opinion on the subject. I just don't post to post things. I try to tell my opinion.
@jhartana (1085)
• Australia
16 Jun 08
I can only comment on my friends' discussions if the topic attracted so much interest on me. Well that is also depends on the topic because sometimes I think if I comment negatively it would disappoint my friends' so I better look on the discussions first and decide whether to post comment or not.
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
16 Jun 08
Hello jerzgirl, I do contribute to myfriend discussions. I make a point contribute to my friends started discussion. I also make a point to post to myfriends discussion with zero response. I am trying to make my friend feel important by contributing to their discussions. I mostly post on today's top discussions. It pays more and sometimes I see some on my friends discussion on this and I just concentrate on posting to my friends discussion. I am not pond of challenging someone opinion but I do give comments once I see something that I agree with and need to expound on it. Besides giving comments to a friend discussion or you discussion will make your friend/ or your discussion be visible to more mylotters longer and the chances of getting more response is better.