Relationship with married person...
June 16, 2008 1:12pm CST
I have seen a lot of discussions on "extra marrital affiars" & "cheating"... Would you start or persue a relationship with a married person if she/he is seperated? Reason why I'm asking is because recently I found out that a fairly close friend of mine is getting ready to get involved with a married woman... Legally, she's married, but they haven't lived under a same roof for some time... She still talks to her "husband"... I'm not sure about the extent of their conversation... Without getting into a question as if it's a cheating issue or extra marrital afairs or any of that, would you start or get involved in a romantic relationship with someone who's still married?
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16 Jun 08
Having recently gone through something similar, I will put in my two cents. My husband and I were going through a rocky patch a while back. A girl that was in his math class found out. She went after him lock stock and barrel. My husband, naive as he is, believed that she was just trying to be his friend. I told him that she was after him. He totally did not believe me, but decided to find out, to make me feel better. He told the girl that we were going to get separated (which we weren't), and she told him that she was waiting for him no matter how long it took. He then ended the "friendship". People should respect marriage vows. Just because a couple is separated does not mean that the marriage is over. Only a divorce is final....
16 Jun 08
I do not feel that this is the start of a union made in heaven but I think this happens more than not. I would certainly want to know what the relationship of the husband and wife was for sure before getting involved. If there is a chance of them getting back together that would just be opening myself up for a fall. If the one I was interested in even paused when asked if she would ever get back with her husband, I would not pursue it. Also, I have heard that it really takes about 2 yrs to get over a serious relationship and that is a good rule to go by also. If they have been separated for 2 yrs, chances are they are not going to get back together and are both ready to move on.