Do you know someone that has died of cancer?

United States
June 16, 2008 3:12pm CST
I am putting up an honor post just for them. For me, it is my dad, Vallis. Grandma, Clela. And my aunt Lois. I know many more that are afflicted with this awful disease. Those of you caretaking, if you need an ear, shoot me a PM. I nursed my grandma full time her last month here and know a lot of what you are feeling and going through. For those that have lost your loved one, it is hard and just find someone to be with. Tell them you don't want to talk if you don't want to. But find someone to be there for you to vent and bring you back from the grief. Again, I will offer help for anyone in these situations. We are united against the fight. One day, we will win!
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@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
16 Jun 08
I wish i didn't but my aunt Sarah wich destoryed my daughter sarah seeing it was her god mother my grandmother milya who i thought was one of the strongest woman in the world an i pray i am like her , an my hubby's grandfather bennie I also know many more an think this is agreat idea where were u a few months ago when I was taking care of my grannie I took care of her for 6 years till she finnaly passed she was my hubby's grannie an i was the only one taking care of her cause none could as they said handle it but I don't know if you know what I mean I needed someone to talk to an when I would try to talk to them they didn't want to hear it they said they wanted to rember her the way she was sad thing was she was still with us but they actted like she was gone already thank you for letting me vent an i really miss you granny an please pm me if you need to vent sadly been there
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@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I agree with you taking care of her the last 6 years I got to know her better an got to say goodbye
• United States
17 Jun 08
That is the only fortunate thing about it. Being able to say good bye. I would have been much worse off, we all would have for my grams and dad if we had to deal with a heart attack or some other abrupt way of going. My thoughts remain with you. And I will continue to pray for you and yours.
@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Thank you its nice to know there is somewhere I can go to talk an someone will listen i thought i was alone when I was taking care of grannie
• United States
17 Jun 08
I have a list: mom, my grandmother (official cause was pneumonia, but she had cancer EVERYWHERE), my dad's cousin Jeanie (she beat it but it came back, causing severe depression and for her to take her life supposedly). Cancer has affected my life in such a way that I pray that there will be a cure MORE than I pray for a cure of the disease I'm afflicted with (multiple sclerosis). And you're right, we're going to win!
• United States
21 Jun 08
Yes, that is a sad thing indeed. I hope they do find a cure. And you are right, getting pregnant just to get cured is no reason to have a kid.
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• United States
21 Jun 08
I'm thinking that the cure might be in the protective antibodies that women have to help protect the unborn child, but as yet, research is slow going (they want to find a pill or nasal spray to help slow progression down), since there's so many laws about experimenting. I'd just like to see a cure one day!
• United States
22 Jun 08
The laws are essentially good though, because without them, experimentations of that nature could harm someone pretty seriously. Unless they have something else, like cancer, I cannot see a reason for someone to risk themselves like that. However innocent it all seems on paper, what actually happens in the lab is what I worry about.
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• Turkey
17 Jun 08
Yes, my aunt Inez suffered with it a lot latter in her lifetime and it finally got her in her sixties. Her last few weeks were hard and she was only a shell of her former self. Cancer is an awful thing, I hate it!
• United States
18 Jun 08
I hate it too. I wish I could do more to help combat it. One day I hope to be a nurse in oncology. Or if I can miraculously get the money for med school, a doctor of oncology.
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• Turkey
19 Jun 08
Wow, I think that's a great goal and I really hope you get to do that!
@SheliaLee (2738)
• United States
17 Jun 08
It is so sweet of you to post this discussion and to be williing to give support. I lost my stepfather to cancer in 1993, my father-in-law in 2001 and an uncle last summer. My uncle was my dad's baby brother and it hurt us all so deeply. There is only one of my brother's left out of his whole family. God Bless you for your kindheartedness and sweet attitude!!!
• United States
17 Jun 08
You never expect someone younger than you to go before you do. Even if it was a long time coming. It still doesn't feel right. So I get that feeling. I am blessed because of God and His teachings through my own familial deaths that I can provide an outlet. :D
@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I lost my Grandmother to lung cancer. She was determined to live until she saw my oldest daughter born and she kept her word. I named my daughter after her. I tell my daughter about her Great-grandmother often and how hard she fought to live long enough to see her born and the pride in her eyes when I told her that I was naming my daughter after her. She was a wonderful lady. The world is less bright without her in it.
• India
19 Jun 08
My aunt was affected by cancer. She expired 7 years ago. She became weak gradually. she became thin, weak and very patientic. Its very sad to see her in that condition. She felt the same for some weeks and left her last breadth.
• United States
20 Jun 08
I understand all of that. I saw a lot of it the last few years.
• United States
18 Jun 08
yea,unfortunetly,i do. both my grandfathers..my step-grandfather,my dad,my uncle,one of my aunts,and cousin. too many people.it's an awful thing to have to witness,very humbling.
• United States
20 Jun 08
It definitely gets you to thinking about life and how things really are.
@Wizzywig (7859)
18 Jun 08
Yes, far too many. My wonderful dad, my grandad, uncle Arthur, Uncle Peter, Auntie Barbara, Auntie June, Auntie Jenny and my college friend Deb. My thoughts are with all those who are suffering whether they are the patient or the relative.
• United States
20 Jun 08
My thoughts and prayers are with them too. And you have had far too many losses.
@toddsarm (766)
• Canada
17 Jun 08
yes my mom
• United States
19 Jun 08
Very sorry to hear it.
@dianagnes (1088)
• Singapore
17 Jun 08
Its my late aunt.May she rest in Peace.
• United States
19 Jun 08
I am sure she is.
• Singapore
17 Jun 08
my galfren's aunt passed away three days ago...
• United States
19 Jun 08
Wow, I'm sorry to hear that.
@fec139 (803)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I watched my mom die of cancer. It's such a horrific disease!!
• United States
19 Jun 08
It is, I am sorry for your loss. It is hard to lose our moms.
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
17 Jun 08
My grandmother passed in 1991 from cancer. It was the year she retired. I always feel bad that she didn't have a chance to enjoy herself after working so hard.
• United States
19 Jun 08
Wow, that is sad. The disease caused my grandma to have to retire earlier than she wanted to, but she got to enjoy a good many years of her retirement.
@tintinn (277)
17 Jun 08
Yes, my grandma and my friend from my primary school that I used to study. To me, it was really sad seeing or knowing someone die because of cancer.
• United States
18 Jun 08
Yes it is sad.
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
17 Jun 08
My aunt but I was really young and didn't know much of what was going on.
• United States
18 Jun 08
I am sorry.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
17 Jun 08
my mom was diagnosed having cancer in january last year. she had gone an operation, what the doctors called, open-close. when they opened, they found out that it cannot be cured or slow down the spreading. so the doctor closed and mom had given another 6 months to live. i am far from her as i work in another place. it's a far place that i have to take an hour through plane. or almost 20 hours through ship. and that would need another 8 hours via land trip. so that would be a bit expensive visiting her. but i spent some few days and leave from work so i can take care of her while she was in the hospital. in august last year, she was confined again in the hospital. i spent another some times with her, in her last days. she passed away last september.
• United States
18 Jun 08
Yeah, six months seems to be the standard once they open a person up. I am sorry for your loss.
@nikecold (91)
• India
17 Jun 08
Hi, Yes my Mom was sufering with this disease known as Cancer. I lost my Mom in 8th OCt 2000, its been a long time now, I was not too much connected with my mum but unfortunately it is ture when you loose your loved ones, how you feel adn you will be the unfortunate person that when she was alive you were not too close to her offcourse i was loving her a lot, but was kind of Un-Matured person at that time, but time teaches me a lot and showed me how much you should care your loved ones and what happens when you loose your loved ones, believe me it really hurts and that too badly. And it is my request to all those person whoso will read this small paragraph, to be close to your dear ones and loved ones and that too in their old ages as they are like kids at that time. So do this..@@@ Best of luck God Bless you all.
@SViswan (12072)
• India
17 Jun 08
I lost one of my favourite uncles in 2000 a few months after I was married. I was pregnant at the time and couldn't travel...and didn't get to see him. We knew that he didn't have much time with us and we were glad he was here when I got married. He was like my dad to me...and it was a major shock to me when he was diagnosed with cancer and it was too late to help him. I still can't believe he's no more and it's a conscious effort on my part not to talk to my aunt like he is with us.
• United States
18 Jun 08
I know how that is. For the longest time, it was hard not to pass the streets where my grandma and dad lived and not want to turn down them to go visit. Takes awhile to get used to the idea they truly are not there anymore.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Yes, many relatives, my grandmother, my aunt and her daughter, my 2 uncles, they were all on my father's side of the family. My mother currently is a cancer surviver, she is the first on her side of the family. She was diagnoised 9 years ago. Pray for her, my prayers are out there for anyone who is suffering from this disease.
• United States
18 Jun 08
I prayed and will continue to pray for her.
• United States
17 Jun 08
I lost my daddy 4 yrs ago to cancer..was one of the hardest things in the world to watch the man who had always been the strongest most invincible man in my life go through this..~wipes tears away~
• United States
18 Jun 08
I know. It is terribly hard.