Love or Let Go?

United States
June 16, 2008 4:30pm CST
I'm going to sound like a sixteen year old in about three seconds, but I promise I'm truly 26. But since I was sixteen years old I've been in awe/crushing on this guy I went to school with. Originally he was from Texas, but found his way into our school in WV. But anyway, he works somewhere that I frequent a lot, and I've gotten to know him somewhat, he has amazing characteristics, he's funny, intelligent, caring, generous...and TALL :) Which I love, since I'm desperately short at 5'2 :( I'm always trying to overcompensate by having a tall man around, but anyway, there's been moments between us where the air just seems to crackle with heat. I don't know if I should act on it physically, which I know he probably wouldn't mind...but I'm also toying with the idea of asking him out for something that's more...durable I guess. Because I want to know him as much as I possibly can, but I'm afraid he'll just pat me on the head and say "Your a sweet girl (Insert My Name) but I just don't see you like that" And that could possibly crush me entirely. If anyone has any suggestions could they suggest them?
5 responses
@sk66rc (4264)
• United States
16 Jun 08
Weather you should go for it or not depends on what you're willing to live with... Would you rather go on "wondering" what could have been or "knowing" it for sure? We all take chances in our lives... There's a saying, - Good things may "come" to those who wait but best things are "gotten" by those who go after them!!! -
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• United States
16 Jun 08
I say 'go for it'! If you've been hankering on him for that long, it's time to take action and move forward. If things don't end up with you two together, you'll be able to close that chapter of your life without any regrets and move on to develop new relationships. I'll be wishing you luck!
@fwidman (11519)
• United States
16 Jun 08
This is a problem alright. If you go for it and he pats you on the head, you will be crushed. But, if you don't go for it, you'll spend your life wondering what would have happened. I say, GO FOR IT! You really have nothing to lose except for maybe getting rejected, but that's part of life, rejection. As for your height, most tall guys prefer short women. My mother was four foot ten and all three of her husbands (and later guys she just dated) were all very tall :)
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• United States
16 Jun 08
If you never take the chance, you will never know. Can you live with the regret of not taking the risk of losing your heart? If I were you, I would ask him if he'd like to get together for a movie or a pizza or a walk on the beach. If you feel the heat between you, he most likely does as well. I am assuming he is single, but you may want to ask him first if there is anyone special in his life. Taking a chance is my advice, but do so with a little protection for yourself as well. Good luck and go get him girl!
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Its your life, you should do what you want. You should at least try for this person. I would be one to really recommend going for something "durable" as you put it, but in reality you have to go for what you want. Maybe try asking him out to something social but casual. It shouldn't be too much, and you'll get some time together. You can try to nurture the relationship that way and perhaps avoid the "friend" rejection (or it could magnify it). Either way, the relationship in the now has to evolve and you do have a lot of say in how it evolves. Best of luck to you.