Boyfriend throws his Grandmothers remains (ashes) all over the room.

United States
June 16, 2008 6:10pm CST
My boyfriend is upset at is mother who is 64 years old. She met a man on the internet from spain, she says she is in Love as he is in love with her also. Thats not the problem, she has been sending this man money, the first time it was $1080.00 wired to his bank, we are not sure how much more, but we took our computer back from her and in the Im's archive it shows that he has been asking since they met and the last one was for $6000.00. The man from spain is saying he is going to marry her and all that good stuff. So, my boyfriend has been trying to talk to her but she say's he just doesn't want her to be happy, or have a life. My boyfriend said thats not it at all, she could go out and meet someone here at church or anywhere but the internet. His mom also is saying this because he took the computer back and now she is unable to chat via yahoo. She bought a web cam and we found some really nasty picture also. But really he is more worried now because she is taking from her retirement, stocks you name it she is doing it. Now her bank account is overdrawn from overdrafts amounting to $800 or more. He told her he just thinks she is making the wrong choices in handling her money. Then the other night, my boyfriend pulls down his grandma's ashes and asked her why is she giving someone all her money and not taking her mother back home to spread her ashes like she was suppose to do when she got some money saved. Well, he said he would take care of it and opened the bag and threw them everywhere in the room. Said her mother would be so disappointed in her. But I think she would be in both of them. I've been in this relationship for 4 years now and I'm not sure what I should do now.
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@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
16 Jun 08
While I can certainly understand your boyfriends concerns regarding his mother's behavior...as I really feel that she is being taken here...I do not understand how he could do such a thing to his grandmother's remains... If I were him...I would probably make a police report and if he feels that his mother will continue to put herself into debt...then possible a hearing to see if she is capable of taking care of herself is in order... I have to agree with you about his grandmother being disappointed in both of them... I can understand how easily a person could become infatuiated with another...even over the internet...but to send him money like that causes me to be concerned...if this man's intentions were honorable...he would never allow her to send him money like that...or that is my opinion... Sorry, Hun...and I hope it all works out for you... Tina
• United States
16 Jun 08
Thank you, but I forgot my little detail. This man say's he is a Oil Dealer. Don't you think he would be sending her a plane ticket or something like that instead of saying this is an investment to make them both money? Hmmm
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• United States
16 Jun 08
Yes, it does sound like a scam to me...and if he has your boyfriend's mother and a couple of other woman sending him $1000+ at a time then he is making a really good living... Sad really that people will prey on the lonely in the world in such a manner! Tina
• United States
19 Jun 08
I don't unsterdand all the circumstances- I have seen this all the time on the news, that the elderly get taken advantage of because they are easy targets and don't have family to help them make choices- Many of them are too old to go back to work and start over again- It is her money and she earned it, but proceed with caution- At least she has someone to watch out for her- As far as spilling the ashes maybe he was trying to get a point accross, they were arguing or he needs anger management-- I have seen people get mad over less than that---I have seen a woman go bulistic over a pair of pants being put a shelf where toweles are placed after her frined did the laundry-- That was UGLY- All I can say is to support him-- Maybe this situation between him and is mother is really affection him- Tak Care
• Canada
17 Jun 08
oh my... i hate scammers, but the ashes thing was too far