One step forward
By taface412
@taface412 (3175)
United States
June 16, 2008 6:15pm CST
Okay so I signed up with one of those online singles things for my area...one thing I notcied right off the bat as I was searching for potential victims, um I mean dates, is quite a majority are older than me by a decade and most have children (young and old).
Well, I have nothing against single fathers, but it got me to thinking I do not currently have children and even though I know you do not choose who you fall in love with and I would never shun someone because of their past....but is it wrong fo rme to filter through to possibly find someone who does not have children?
My logic behind this is, say I meet someone either on or off line....I want to experience having a child with someone who has not alreayd experienced with one or more other women. Is there something wrong with that? Am I being too picky? Because so many men out there have children with women who they either did not marry or it did not work out.
Like I said I just started checking this out and I do not even know if I will meet anyone in real life...as I do not deliberately set myself up for disastrous situations. I have met some decent people online before and I have met some crazies before.
So I am going to check this out and let you guys know how this will pan out....and feel free to give me advice if you have done this and survived.
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6 responses
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Taface you have every right to sort through the possibilities for dates to what ever suits your life style the best...Isn't that what makes these types of websites to great? I am looking forward to seeing how you make out!
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
17 Jun 08
maybe look for the younger girls or career girls, because they are usually to busy with their careers to have kids. so u both can have ur first kid together...
@taface412 (3175)
• United States
17 Jun 08
okay I am a girl....hehe....but I get your point....but I definitely don't want a young one...too much drama and the ones who have kids have too much baby mama drama.....
thanks for responding.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
Hey, everyone has their own prefernces with things that interests them. Its not wrong at all. Your merely making considerations for those who still don't have children of their own in any manner that they acquired them.
And you already accept the fact that you cannot choose who you may fall in love with. Your just being open to possibilities. 
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I have never done this. I always like to meet people in person. Frankly, I would be a little afraid to go out with someone online...
@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
17 Jun 08
There's nothing wrong with being picky about who you victimize, I mean date. I mean its your life and its better to be picky before meeting someone then it is to feel like your leading someone on after you met them. After all, not everyone is cut out to join a ready made family.
I know in my case, I still enjoying being single but I am fully aware that I'm not getting any younger and as years go by, I start becomeing less picky about who I date.
Hugs, Tianna
@baleleng2008 (917)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Well taface goodluck and hopefully you can find the right one for you.You know if you find the one you truly love sometimes you can't say you don't like him bcoz he have kids.I think its okay if the guy already have kids.It's like buy one take one...lol!just kidding!Back home when you are over 30 mostly the single guy there don't want you anymore wether you are single or have kids.Im glad here in the state mostly it doesn't matter if you have kids or not.
