How and when do I tel my girl I cheated 2years ago?

@DreBoi (79)
United States
June 16, 2008 11:52pm CST
I cheated on my girl a wile back when we 1st got together. I was young.(So I say) But I now find myself were I just can't let her know what happen a long time ago between me and this girl becauce I'm look for the right time to let her know so she can understand. What do I do now cause I really wish I would have let her know then so I wouldn't have to feel so bad about it know, beacuse I love her. What do I do?
4 responses
@rpegan (598)
• United States
17 Jun 08
There's never going to be a right time or an easy time. You did something wrong, and it's going to hurt her no matter when you tell her. That's not to say that you shouldn't tell her, but it will hurt no matter what. That being said, you need to tell her in private at a time when her schedule's clear. You don't need to tell her that you cheated and then expect her to go to work or go about her daily business.
@DreBoi (79)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Yea, you are very right about that one. I just really have no way to even put it out there for her. But good look out bout when I tell her cause i would have never thought about that.
@rpegan (598)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I've received bad news right before classes or before work or before big dinners, and it's never a pretty sight. Just be sincere in your apologies. Like I said, it'll hurt no matter what, but don't try to play it cool. That is likely to make her angry and defensive.
@DreBoi (79)
• United States
17 Jun 08
yea ight ima do that...soon...really don't knwo when soon gonna be, but soon.lol
• United States
17 Jun 08
If you really love her and you don't want to spoil your relationship don't even tell her. If you were going to tell her you should have right after you did it. 2 years is a long time to just bring that up.
@DreBoi (79)
• United States
17 Jun 08
but if she finds out then that would really just mess me up for real then she will never take me back.
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
27 Nov 08
it is good of you to want to be honest with her. and let her know before you tell her how much you love her and you dont want to loose her.tell her you have to be honest with her because you do love her.and then tell her as gentley as you can. i do think you are rite by being honest.
@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
IF you prefer to tell her the truth tell it to her as soon as you feel comfortable saying it to her. Don't wait too much time to tell her. It does not change anything if you tell it her now or 10 yrs from now. SHe will still feel betryed and be hurt. Just be honest and true.