Is it easy for you to make new friends?

United States
June 17, 2008 9:24am CST
Its not too too hard for me to make new friends because im very friendly but i have lived here for 3 years now and dont have many friends. I have people i can hang with or whatever but maybe 2 i can call good friends. I sometimes worry about what people will think of me when i start acting goofy like i used to where i lived before. I still dresss the same way but i wonder sometimes what people think about the way i dress. Yes i am 28 almost 29 years old and i can wear size 8 or 9 in kids cloths. im pretty thin, i just had my daughter march 26th and 2 weeks later i was back down to 96lbs. 95 is my normal weight so its hard for me to find cloths that fit right. All in all its easy to make new friends its just i have a little issue with being shy at times and i think that limits me to making alot more. Do you have the same problem?
11 responses
• India
18 Jun 08
It is not difficult for me to make new friends, because i am naturally a friendly person and i can easily mingle with the people. Since i am in a marketing field, it is very easy for me to approach and talk to the new people. www.way2winonline.com
• United States
18 Jun 08
im a friendly person after i get thru the shyness. even when im shy im still friendly.
@shilpa_p (198)
• India
18 Jun 08
Its difficult as in,i do tend to take my time.I can't just start talking to people as soon as i meet them.I will say hi and then won't talk much till i approve of them.I know its a little arrogant but i've had too many bad experiences before and that keeps me from completely giving in,if you know what i mean.Some of my friends used to think i was a snob till they got to know me and found out thats just how i am and i don't mean to be rude i'm just making sure before getting into company that i'll have a problem with.I've just had it with back stabbing and hypocrisy so i've put my foot down.
• United States
18 Jun 08
Yea very true.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
18 Jun 08
no, not that much easy. I am introvert. also i am some who love to check people before making friends. so its not easy always.i also judge people. i do not atlk myself to unknown people.
• United States
18 Jun 08
I dont really judge people. i like to compare people tho and thats not a good thing i guess.
@ibsnet (1268)
• India
18 Jun 08
I am bit reserved in making friends. Because in today's world friendship are mostly selfish in nature. One good friend should come in help when you want and same should you expect from your friend. But it rarely happens. So I only make friend whom I believe to be
• United States
18 Jun 08
yea thats true.
@gemini_rose (16264)
18 Jun 08
I have never found it hard to make friends, I am a little shy at first but it does not take me long to warm to someone if I like them. I have no friends where I live though, simply because the way they are is a lot different to me. They like to spend lots of time with each other talking and drinking coffee all day, I don't as I like to spend time on my own when my family is out.
• United States
18 Jun 08
it doesnt take me long to warm up after i get to know the person.
@cuteshe (126)
• Thailand
18 Jun 08
Not for me, I am really shy and quiet especially in front of a stranger. I don't initiate the conversation unless in circumstances that is really needed. However, once you get to know me, you will find out that I'm a carefree person, who enjoys life. My trust should be earned first however, for me to divulge my innermost secrets to you.Not very good,eh? But that is my personality...
• United States
18 Jun 08
i can start a conversation but sometimes its short sometimse i just feel odd like they dont really wanna chat.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I sometimes worry about what people will think of me when i start acting goofy like i used to where i lived before LOL boy oh boy let me tell ya I get some SERIOUSLY wild looks at times when I start acting all silly and whatnot which is very much my way....I'm a funloving, entertaining, carefree kinda woman who even in my late 30s still dyes her hair wild colours, listens to punk music, runs around with the kids like a crazy fool and acts like a teenager.....Back in Canada where I'm from ppl either didnt care (ones that didnt know me) or they knew me and were use to it...Over here in the U.S though, LOL ppl REALLY don't get me....Truth be told though, in all honest I could care less....I live in a semi country setting and am surrounded by a considerably older crowd of mostly farmers..yes I DO NOT fit in here and thats ok...because if a person doesnt like me for something trivial like my lust for life then quite frankly I dont need them in my life in the first place ya know.. From the sounds of it, your being shy is definately a factor but so is your not following the masses and acting like a mindless drone....Ppl dont take to that, to ppl who are free thinking and NOT stiff ya know....I would jsut keep being you and everytime a person that loves your character and accepts you for you then you've made a new friend...and once you get past the being shy thing you'll make even more friends.. Make sense? (sorry I'm trying to do three things at once right now and one of them is talking to my daughter and her guidance counselor over speaker phone LOL)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Thank you, yes that did help some :)
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Maybe when the baby and the younger boy are a little older you can get out more and then you will be able to make new friends. It's hard meeting people when you're a stay at home mom but, as the little ones get older, you'll have more opportunities to interact with parents who have young children, too.
• United States
18 Jun 08
Yea thats true, I meet parents at the ball field during ball season but its not like any of us keep in touch.. atleast till next ball season lol
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
hi jen! I don't have the same problem, i find it easy to meet new people and be their friend but at times i felt shy also. I just assert my myself without being aggresive:)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Yea im not too good in the being aggresive side. lol
@cncoke (439)
• China
18 Jun 08
I think I am a goofy and friendly woman.So it is easy to make friends with others.I am easy to approach because of my magnanimous and homor.When others have the different opions,I always obey them without saying anything.
• United States
18 Jun 08
Up north i could hang out with people and just randomly dance to the music in my head lol for some reason i havent opened myself up to do that here yet.
• Canada
17 Jun 08
I have a problem with making new friends very much so. I am a very shy person, and all my friends have basically come to me. I envy all those out there who can make friends easily. I am currently working on my problem, and hope you can get over your shyness too!
• United States
18 Jun 08
I know alot of people but there is only one i can really hang out with. im also not used to the "open invitation" kinda thing they have down here. im used to being invited to someones out. im not used to the "just drop by whenever" kinda thing.