Is it harder to raise boys or girls?

@ersmommy1 (12600)
United States
June 17, 2008 12:26pm CST
Boys may not listen as well as girls because their hearing isn't as good from birth Girls are rigged to be people-oriented, while boys are more action-oriented Girls tend to grow up less confident and more insecure than boys Boys are harder to raise early on, but girls become more difficult as preteen What is your opinion?
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
19 Jun 08
In my own opinion girls just seem easier to raise then boys, but when it comes to rasing them I guess it would all depend on how and where they were raised. It has been said that boys are harder to potty train and are sometimes more dependent then girls who seem to want o do everything themselves at a certain age. Talking from experience(seeing my family grow and my sibling children grow) I can vouch for the preteen thing. I used to keep my niece month at a time till 12 years of age then she just totoally changed and now we rarely get to spend time together. I have found that is the wya with my nephew also since he became a teen.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
30 Jun 08
Hey thanks for the best response I really appreciate it alot.
@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
17 Jun 08
I only have a 2 year old daughter & a boy on the way but from what i've seen with my nieces & nephews i would tend to disagree - just based on that though! Especially with the hearing thing, as young babies, i've never noticed any difference with the hearing between my nieced & nephews - i'd have thought they were about equal there. My nieces are 5 & 3 (twins) but they NEVER listen, you can tell them something & they will give you such cheek & attitute, they also swear & ignore you so in that sense i'd have thought otherwise. My nephews are younger but they listen, they're both sweet little boys & will always do as they're told. The oldest niece i have is the worst for not listening, being rude or ignorant & to be honest, i don't think her brother will be the same. You don't get any chatting back or anything from them either. My little girl is going through her terrible 2's stage but i guess i'll have to wait & see what our son will be like when he's at this age too.
• United States
18 Jun 08
I'm sure both your little sweethearts will turn out just fine! These things have a way of working themselves out. When my daughter started going through the terrible twos, I wondered where my little girl had gone. She was always hysterical. I think it was because she had certain wants and could not express them yet fully with words. So, there was a great frustration level for her. We just tried to keep her super busy and physically active all day long so that she could be tired enough to sleep. Her body was going through amazing growth spurts. So she would be super fussy and argumentative during the terrible twos if she didn't get some extra fruit or healthy snacks during the day. It all worked out! She's a very happy and well adjusted child now. Best of luck on your upcoming baby, Be well. Good luck to all.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Oh wow I disagree with all of that! Or at least thats not how it is with my kids anyway...My son was the difficult preteen, my daughter was tougher to raise as a little one, both are confident BUT have their insecurities in some areas, my son is more of a ppl person and my daughter more of a loner BUT in spite of that she is very liked by everyone she meets...and both my kids are action packed LOL
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
17 Jun 08
here is the link from the article I read. Makes me think the writer may not have children. http://www.cnn.com/2008/HEALTH/family/06/17/harder.to.raise/index.html
• United States
24 Jun 08
I feel that neither is easier than the other, for the facts that you mentioned. Sure, boys are action oriented and they don't listen as well when they're young, but you have to deal with a little woman with plenty of attitude when your daughter hits puberty. Both are challenging, just at different times.
• Philippines
18 Jun 08
I think boys are harder to raise than girls but not all.. There could be a higher percentage of boys harder to raise than girls. Boys tend to be so hyperactive and stubborn while girls are less. I have a 21month old son and I can totally say its hard to raise him but I love it.. I love playing with him, sleeping with him, walking with him. Its just that i've seen so many baby girls and they are more quiet and more behave than my little baby boy. But still, its case to case basis.
• United States
18 Jun 08
I think all children are different and the challenges of raising them are unique. However, I can't entirely dismiss the idea that boys and girls are different. Certainly, I think my girl is a lot more social than I would expect a boy to be. I could be wrong, thought, and I'd hate to stereotype a child.
• United States
17 Jun 08
I have raised 5 boys. It has been 28years of scrapes, broken bones, sports and cars and a few girlfriends. In addition to that I raise 2 girls. It has only been 6 years of attitudes, back talk, and bad hair days.. I think girl are harder to raise. They seem a lot more stubborn, more manipulative and a lot more moody. I love them all but to me boys are just a lot easier.
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I have to disagree. The hearing thing is such a myth it isn't even funny, lol. I have two girls and one boy. All three are people-oriented although my second girl is a bit shy. My oldest and my boy are what you would call action-oriented. As to who is harder to raise. I have yet to see a difference although many people with boys tend to excuse their bad behavior with the old 'boys will be boys'. I also get asked to admit now that I have a boy that it is much harder to raise him. Sorry, I can't. I don't see a difference at all. I can see how girls can be a problem when they are teenagers and the monthly cycle kicks in. The hormone fluctuations even get to us adults, lol. My kids are not old enough for that yet anyway. Maybe I will change my opinion at that point. But thus far, I don't see a difference and I don't think the outcome should be different either. Girls will only be less confident and insecure if you raise them to be that way. Same for the boys. They will only be macho, if you raise them that way.
@spalladino (17924)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Hmmmm, I have a grown son, a grown step-son and five grandsons and they all have fine hearing, they just choose to pretend their deaf when they don't want to listen. My three daughters had the same situation specific hearing problems growing up so I don't agree that girls hear better than boys. As far as preteen behavior goes, I had problems with my son but also with my daughters to some degree, some more than the others, so I think that's just the nature of the developmental stage. Preteens and teens test their boundaries, they're supposed to. I think they're both equally hard (or not) to raise. It depends on the individual child and the specific child/parent relationship.
• United States
17 Jun 08
I think it harder to raise a girl at preteen or higher. Goin to be drama through out the all series. Now boys are hard sometimes or maybe more. But i think girl will be the hardest.