Mom's 58. My new step dad is 24. *bleah

United States
June 17, 2008 9:27pm CST
No, I didn't go to the funeral. My mom married a really young guy with two little kids. She was a terrible mother who was always messing around. I don't know what to do about it. To make matters worse, my situation with my dad is volatile and horrible. She told him I was not his biological child a few years ago, and now there is such a huge mess in that family I want to scream. What do you do when your family is horrible?
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• United States
18 Jun 08
I go home and visit to be polite for a day here and there every couple of months. I stay away from my mother because she is like yours and I am tired of being her. I Have other parent like people in my life that I look up to an ask for advice.
• United States
18 Jun 08
I don't have anybody at home any more.
@ZephyrSun (7385)
• United States
18 Jun 08
hmm..wow I usually do not say anything about age differences but I don't know how your mom at that age would want to have little children around that didn't go home to their parents when she was done playing/visiting with them. When my family does act like idiots I just stay away from them, but being an adult (which I am not sure if you are on your own or not) it really makes it easier. Have you had a DNA test done with the man that you have thought was your biological father? I think that would be very important to do if he has not taken the news well. I really hope that things work out for you. Best of luck!
• Canada
18 Jun 08
I'm twenty-six and my husband is sixty-two!! Believe me, our families had their problems trying to wrap their heads around that one. haha It sounds like your problems are worse than the age difference, or that the age difference is the least o your worries. Age isn't a problem here, I don't think. When your family is horrible or weird, just thank God that YOU turned out normal in the midst of all that.
• United States
18 Jun 08
Well, I just feel alienated from all of them. My mom is spiteful and ... well she's evil. Sorry there is no other way to describe half the things she has done. She gets credit in my name and my credit is ruined, she stole from me a lot, and now this marriage to this young guy - I'm not sure what to think anymore. She told me herself that she told dad I wasn't his so that he would get off her back and stop treating me like I was the pick of the litter. Now I don't have anybody in Illinois.
@rsa101 (15467)
• Quezon City, Philippines
20 Jun 08
Well there are things that are out of our own control. There are things that what we could do are just to accept the realities in life. Now that she is gone you are left alone in this world feeling you are a victim of these circumstances. What can you do but move on and start you own life that you wanted it to be. There are only two ways you can do to make things right for you learn from your past and promise yourself that you would not go to the same path your mother had to do in her life and be happy no matter what past you have will not matter if you will not dwell in that space anymore.