Would you add a relative you never talk to as a friend on myspace?

@SomeCowgirl (32271)
United States
June 17, 2008 10:38pm CST
I pose this question as recently I have been thinking about when I requested one of my cousins as a friend and how she did not accept the request. I know that we are not close as none of my cousins are close to me. I still thought that I would add them as a gesture to either be nice or just to have them as a friend. They declined the request, and it did hurt me. Would you add a relative you never talk to or that you were not friends with as friend on myspace?
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@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
19 Jun 08
I would not like to do it, but i would as a sign of respect. I think you shouldn't feel offended, it's not worth it. Take care !
@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
19 Jun 08
You are right that I shouldn't get offended. I was when they did decline, but now I do not care. It is also a sign of respect to do so, but my cousins must not of seen it that way. My only thing is, should I invite them to my wedding seeing as we are not close?
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@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
20 Jun 08
If you want a really big wedding - than yes you should - but if it's something more normal ( i don't know, let's say for example 50 guests) you should not invite them, but better invite some friends whom you would really enjoy to see.
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
20 Jun 08
I agree with what you say, except, my friends have recently dissed me because I decided to move in with my fiance, and they feel as if I left them... eh, that's there perogative. Thanks for the advice. Have a Great day.
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@richiem (3647)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
Yes I would. I think it wouldn't hurt if I would add them as a friend. When I add them as a friend it doesn't mean we really have to be close and we really have to send messages and comments. the fact that I know them is i think already a reason to add them as my friend. In your case, you were declined. Maybe your cousin declined the request because they have something private in their profile that they don't want to share to other who are not his close friends.
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Yes, it would be a nice gesture even if you are not close to have him or her on your friend's list. One of my cousins profile is not private , and then the other who is did not add me. They each have one another on their friend's list and a few other relatives in the family so that theory seems not to fit. Thanks for responding, Have a Great day.
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@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I know that it had to hurt a little baby and I am sorry that your cousin denied your friends request,and I can honestly say that I would not add anyone in my family who I do not at least talk to,to my myspace friend list,because I do not want to have a list full of people who I do not talk too,or not not talk to me.
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I understand what you mean, because you don't want anyone to see something that they could talk to other people about. Like the incident with your aunt, although we can't blame that on her. We did deceive, I just wish that they would have come to us directly.
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• United States
22 Jun 08
Yeah I agree,it was a bit deceiving,but it was not her fault,and I wish my uncle had called us directly instead of calling my grandmother,because then it would have been solved easier,I love you,and Happy Posting.
2 Jul 08
I accepted a request from a girl I hadn't talked to since the 2nd grade so yes I probably would. I would only deny someone I really didn't like.
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
2 Jul 08
Well I am glad that you would accept someone unless you dislike them. I only accept people I know and only the one's I can get along with, as well. Have a Great day.
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@dmcollie (218)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Definitely, I would accept any cousin. I have lots of them and not close to one. The only cousins I'm close to are my Husbands.
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
19 Jun 08
well I am glad that you would despite not being close to them, I know that it would help to be able to talk to them and maybe find out more about them so that you can become close to (or do you mean "close" as in distance wise?) Welcome To Mylot, I am sure that you will enjoy it here. I hope that you Have a Great day and Night.
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@emarie (5455)
• United States
19 Jun 08
I would, I mean, as long as I know they're related to me. I have a lot of cousins and most of them aren't close to me. The ones I'm close to I have on my myspace, and I probably have more that I don't even know. If I do find them, they may not know who I am. Same with my classmates to. Dunno maybe thats the case. in myspace you don't always have to use your real name and some people may not know from the picture. I would just try again and this time leave a message and your real name so they know who you are.
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
19 Jun 08
It's been over a year since I tried to add them, and they knew who I was. The picture of me was clear. I know what you mean though, but for me, I know they knew who I was.
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• United States
18 Jun 08
nope espacialy if they are noisey. im very picky about my page only because family iwll be family and they loooove to gossip and see who you have on your page and what pictures you have in you albums.. it may not be the same with you. you shouldnt let it bother you maybe they have something they dont want you to see lol. family can be funny at times...
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
18 Jun 08
I can understand that, I know how that can be actually. It hurt me at the time, but now I feel like it's their perogative. Thanks for your response.
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• United States
18 Jun 08
Definitely. Even if I've never talked to them or saw them before in my life I would still add them. There's no reason not to in my opinion.
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Thank you for your response.
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• United States
6 Jul 08
Nope..in fact, I don't add relatives at all, unless it's one of my kids or my husband. My husband and one son don't go to My Space, so..? but I have one son and my daughter on and it's fine! Otherwise..I do not let any relatives on. It is my private space and I do not need the hassles.