Can someone advice me on which girl i should get in a relationship with?

Malaysia
June 18, 2008 2:53pm CST
Girl A : An engineer. Earns 2k per month (i am not sure if monthl salary should be taken into consideration but i'm just putting this info just if it might help ou guys). High school love. First love. Busy with her work. Not so romantic. Loves me. I love her too. Girl B : A teacher. Earns 2k per month. Met her for about 10 minutes and she asked for my number from her friend. Had two lengthy phone messaging sessions. Likes me because i am 'cute'
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18 responses
• Malaysia
19 Jun 08
go for girl A..she knows you well..and you obviously know her..she loves you and you love her..but beware friend, even if you two love each other it doesn't mean that you are meant for each other..but it worth a try.. what puzzled me is, you two love each other but you still considering someone else?? lol..then what is the word 'love' means to you?? good luck for girl A.. mata ne..
• Malaysia
19 Jun 08
well, it seems to me you are writing based on your failed previous relationship so i dont mind your skepticism. When you decide to love a person, it is always a must that you work on the relationship becoz love alone do not last especially if the person does not love you as much as you do. To me, love is a feeling of attraction for a person and i do not think love should be only for one person. It's hard to find a person who loves only one person. I bet you are unable to do that as well. So tell me friend, how do you define love?
@Tianna2 (1274)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Hi, My first question, Do they all know about each other? If the answer is no, then tell each of them about each other, the one that stays with you is the one you should keep. If the answer is yes, then you will just have to decide which one you think you might feel best sharing the rest of your life with. I hope you can make a good decision, as this may affect you for a long time! Hugs, Tianna
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• Malaysia
19 Jun 08
actually they dont but girl A know i like other gurls but she ignores it due to the fact that when i like a gurl i juz go as far as liking her. The others do not have much knowledge on who i like but it doesnt matter because i have no seious relationship with any of them. I am juz trying to decide who i should be in a relationship with.
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@bellaofchaos (11549)
• United States
20 Jun 08
IMO here is what I would do follow your heart not statistic. You say you love the first but yet you have 3 other options, the reason why I point this out is with love, at least when I'm in love there is no other in my eyes. The person I love is the person that I want to spend my free time with and doesn't have me thinking wow that guy is hot and this guy is crushing on me. I see them as cute and sexy because they are but not as a love interest. If you want to be in a relationship find the one that has you totally heart, soul, mind, and body. Not just some random choice based on statistics. You also must remember that you have to be able to be comfortable with the person too. I think if you take a step back open your heart you'll see what your heart wants. Then when you see that go for it. Take care and I hope that all works out. One last note. The best relationships start from really good friendships. Take care.
• Malaysia
23 Jun 08
Hey bellaofchaos, Thanks for your feedback. It's just that everyone have different definition of love. I really think it is possible to love more than one person.
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• United States
23 Jun 08
Yes we can love many people at one our heart is big enough for that but when your looking to date someone there must be someone out there that is the one that you want to be with more than the others. I love my SO, I also love my best friend but the love I have for them is different. I see what your saying that you may be in love with more than one girl, but what I'm trying to say here is there are different levels of love and variations of love and sometimes those variations can blur the lines. but above all there has to be one that you connect with more and feel more comfortable to be yourself with and that is the one that you should be with. Trying to have more than one girlfriend will burn you in the end unless they all agree that the relationship is not monogomous. So chose but chose wisely.
• Malaysia
23 Jun 08
Nah.. i am not trying to have 2 girlfriend. I cant have two girl who i love extremely at once. It has to be one. Now i am loving them at infatuation level. So, you can see where i;m going to.
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• United States
22 Jun 08
if you and girl A love each other i wouldnt waste my time with any of the other girls. Girl B: no becuase you barely know her Girl C: Everything that looks good aint good Girl D: Teen , no you dont want to go to jail now.
• Malaysia
22 Jun 08
Thanks.. it seems all feedback ask me to go for A.. I guess i'll pursue her..
@relundad (2311)
• United States
21 Jun 08
OMG Did I miss something? First off I guess I need to know what part of the world you are in and how old you are? I cant imagine that if money was gonna be your criteria for selecting a mate, I can imagine that 2k per month or 24k per year would tickle your fancy! Now that I got that out of the way. It doesn't seem that you have enough going on with either to know if a relationship is even an option. The best advice I could give was to date or see if you are compatiable with these girls and see if they are interested in taking the relationship to the next level. A relationship requires an agreement of both parties. It seems according to what you said that you basically are attracted to or have had some interest in these 4 girls and either they are not responding or haven't persued a relationship with you. Seems you have jumped way ahead of the game. I would take a step back!
• Malaysia
22 Jun 08
Well, actually i did not include a lot of info here and if I were to tell the whole story than it would be 2 pages long. I am 24. Girl A and Girl B and Girl C have requested to pursue a relationship with me. They are dropping obvious hints to me. I havent done anything so how would I be jumping way ahead of the game. I am juz trying to decide. Thanks for the feedback. :D
@fiarby (105)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
Well, first you have to know what love is...love is such a strong word to say and it has different depth of feeling...you see, we can always say that we love a person but has no real feelings or whatsoever...but just to help you out....love the person that you consider your friend...its better to be friends and lovers you know. GOOD LUCK!
• Malaysia
20 Jun 08
Hurmmm.. i always thought that it's hard to love your friend because we are so used to becoming friends it's gonna be hard for us to adjust to become lovers after being friends for so long. However, thanks for the insight really appreciate it.. :D
• India
20 Jun 08
I think it should be Girl A as in that case only you have written, you love her and she loves you too. But u r the best judge, if u both r compatible understand each other, bring out the best in each other, give each other space, that would be a ideal thing.
• Malaysia
20 Jun 08
Thanks for your opinion
@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
19 Jun 08
Girl C - the student - definitely no Girl D - the waitress - you should try something with her - if you really want to satisfy your fantasy, but she is not for a long term relationship (in my opinion). Girl B - The teacher - she just thinks your cute - no guarantee that things will work out, but you may try Girl A - would be my choice - because you may be surprised to discover that although she does not show it she may have a romantic side deep inside (check out Nancy from the movie Enchanted - she seamed like non - romantic and practical but turned out to e really into romance). Hope my reviews helps, take care !
• Malaysia
19 Jun 08
yeah.. a lot of the respondents here say i should go for girl A.. Actually i feel like that too.. Thanks for making it easy for me to decide
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19 Jun 08
answer quite easy for low iq people.. i chose b
• Malaysia
19 Jun 08
incorrect answer!!
@maquisa (316)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
i maybe shelfish to tel you but you should think of the future,if i were the you i'll rather choose the engineer...who knows you well and you've been together for years,and you can count on her,and with the last description you had said...Loves me and I love her too.I also is an engineer hehehehe....
• Malaysia
19 Jun 08
i agree with ya. Thanks for the reply
@subha12 (18452)
• India
19 Jun 08
go for which you love most. i think you must be someone special.you have got so many girls waiting for you.
• Malaysia
19 Jun 08
I do think the real reason behind this is because when girls reach a certain age they begin to feel desperate for a partner so i am getting more 'oppurtinities' now that i am 24 than say when i am 15.
• Singapore
19 Jun 08
Since you love girl A then go for girl A and stay with her because she loves you and you love her though others are pretty or other reasons, Love, understanding and comfortable are essential issues need to be addressed.
• Malaysia
19 Jun 08
Yeah, i also think she should be the one for me. Thanks for giving me your opinion.
@moraho (234)
• Nepal
19 Jun 08
... one lucky dude ... being loved by girls ... my suggestion is just like the above one ... whoever stays back even after knowing you mischeives ... should be the one right for you ... ... yes the problem be if all of them stays ... hahahah ... u r still lucky if u can handle it well. Good luck dude
• Malaysia
19 Jun 08
i am not yet loved but i am liked by these girls becoz i do not have any serious relationship with any of them. but thanks for the insight.
@kezabelle (2985)
18 Jun 08
Be with the one you love and who will make you happy, only you can make that choice.
• Malaysia
18 Jun 08
LOL... thanks.. the problem is i love all of them...
@Pitgull (1523)
• United States
27 Jun 08
If you're interested in that many people, should you be worried about getting into a relationship with one, while you may be feeling for another? When you're single, that's what you try to figure out. The type of person you want to be with. What will make you happy, and what can you offer to the relationship. If you're thinking about these other women, when you're with one, it will break her heart. It's not fair to be in a relationship with one person, while you're fantasizing about another. I wish you the best of luck, but take your time. If you're honest with them all, then things will work out. Just don't jump into a relationship because you have the option. Do it because you want it. Not just a relationship, but a relationship with that particular person....
@shydeap (22)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
for me its the girl D. like you said your heart jump everytime you see her...go 4 it if that makes you happy!! and there is a thrill and challenge for you to start the move.
@mkh2cb (18)
• United States
23 Jun 08
girl a sounds like ur best bet.
@nikecold (91)
• India
20 Jun 08
None of these buddy, rather a girl who will be sitting next to you when you will be ill, when you would had a hard time, when no one would be there to help you, when there would be any need that will fulfill your need without any problem, and it goes viceversa as well. Money, Status etc. does not matter at all however a girl/boy should be such kind so that they can do anything for each other. So Choose the one which will do these things for you buddy. Bye take care.