Do you evaluate the love by gifts?

@teka44 (3425)
Brazil
June 19, 2008 6:01pm CST
I wonder how the people evaluate the love from their partners or bf/gf. I have noticed that many people evaluate the love according the gifts. If the gifts are worthy it means that the love is big. If the gifts are cheap it means that he/she doesn't feel any love. It is right? evaluate love by gifts?
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8 responses
• United States
20 Jun 08
I don't evaluate by the price of the gift, I think about the gestures they put forth in the relationship. Sure, gifts are nice, but they don't have to be pricey. It's the thought that counts. If they see something that they know I'd like, but it may be cheap but they know I'd like it, who cares? They stopped and thought about me for a brief moment which means they thought of me. That alone is a sweet gesture, it shows that they care.
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@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
20 Jun 08
Yes, yes and yes. You say all and say well. Many people are so materialist and care about things only. I think that it is so sad. Thanks for reply my post.
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• United States
20 Jun 08
A while back, for one of my birthdays, my cousin gave me a picture of me and him and I was around 10 or 12 and he was 4 or 5. OMG when I saw it I started laughing it was so cute. It was a picture of me holding him on Santa's lap. Now waas the best gift.
@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
23 Jun 08
Yes, little things can make us happies.
@nikecold (91)
• India
20 Jun 08
Not at all, it is really rubbish (sorry if i am hurting), we cannot evaluate the love with with gifts at all, Love is happiness, sharing good and bad things, sharing good and bad times, sharing best and worst events, actually love is (for me) everything, by which a person can see life very closely, keenly, can understand what life is and it is because of love, that a person can judge each and everything. So don't ever evaluate love with gifts, as gift for a love is to be honest with your partner to your love. Best of luck.
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• United States
20 Jun 08
You have a point, and if you, yourself don't like buy a gift to show your love for the person that you like, That's fine. I'm sure your gift is your love, trust ans respect that you give each other. but don't forget not everyone things the same why you do. We all have different way of showing our love to the person we love. Some show it buy the other an expensive gift, and this make the person feel good about themself. Others, will buy something less expensive. If someone gave me something from the 99 cent store,like paper, pens, pens I be happy. I enjoy getting things like that. It's not evaluating the love with the gift. I love my husband and when I give him something for his birthday I'm not evaluating his love. And I know he doesn't think that I'm doing that either.
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@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
20 Jun 08
Hi, thanks for reply. Thanks for share your point of view. You feel this way and it is OK but you need to explain it for your partner because each one have his opinions and maybe your parter will like to receive something that show that you remember him/her. It isn't the price of gift it is the attention you show.
• Pakistan
20 Jun 08
no dear its not right that how much gift is worthy infect love demands time that we should give to our partners or loved ones,gift is also a time bundle(we spent our time for making money and work hard for money then we bye a gift.it means that is not a gift its time)now due to speedy life we can not give much time to our loved ones but can give time in the form of gifts and thats no matter how much worthy or costly a gift is.it shows only love. and we should take care of it may be i could not explain as your desire hope you will understand what i want to say
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@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
20 Jun 08
Hi my dear friend. Yes I understand your point and it is a good point. All gifts demand the time to earn the money to buy it and this time represent the love you feel. Thanks to share with us and for reply. Have a nice day my dear friend.
@moondancer (7434)
• United States
20 Jun 08
I don't evaluate someone love for me by they gifts they buy me. It's the way they treat me as a person. Respect me as I respect them. The gifts depend on the money available to purchase gifts. If someone, my husband always bought me cheap things and not something nice once in awhile I would wonder. Because he can afford to buy me something nice. I likewise buy him nice things. But I don't measure his love for me with this. Just how much he respects me and wants to give to me. You have to take their character into consideration to. Are they a person that buys everyone cheap things or just you. Now this I would worry about if others got nice things and you didn't. Personally if someone takes the time to do somethig for me that is worth more than any gift store bought, although it is nice to get gifts sometimes. There are things I'd like to have. Things I probably wouldn't buy for myself but would love and except as a gift.
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@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
20 Jun 08
Hi moondancer. You are right. Some persons don't care about looking for a nice thing to give as a gift, they only buy something. It not means that the person doesn't love someone. The actions and respect count the most. Thanks for reply my post moondancer.
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@jesus777 (664)
• Bermuda
19 Jun 08
i don't think this is the right perception of love love should not be judged by things it should be judged by the love that is inside its the thought that counts im not saying gifts are bad im just saying the love scale should not be guaged by gift but by the love people have inside one for another~!!!!!!
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@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
20 Jun 08
Hi jesus, thanks for reply my post. Yes you are right and I agree.
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@vimaal (3365)
• India
21 Jun 08
hi teka how are you.ya i believe you. Gifts shows the feeling of love.A person who give gift to another person means reallly he/she got happy in his/her whole life..
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@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
23 Jun 08
Hi my friend, thanks for your reply in my post.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
20 Jun 08
I don't evaluate people by the worth of the gifts that they give me. I am happy for the thought itself. Now that people are very busy, the fact that you remember me is enough. Buying gifts is extra special because you spend some time to go out, choose and buy the gift. Its basically the thoughtfulness of a person that matters. Take care =)
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@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
23 Jun 08
Hi leateagee, you are right. The attention count very much. Thanks for reply me.
@kaleegirl45 (1474)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Hi teka44 I don't think so, for my birthday my husband will always ask me what I want. i always tell him to surprise me. He has gotten me expensive gift, which i tell him that he should have done that. Flowers would just find. I'll him a hug, kiss him tell him happy birthday and he is happy with that. I'm the same way. For our annivasary we'll have a good dinner, and we take off to Laughlin. The our big gift to each other. Maybe someone else may think different.
@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
20 Jun 08
Hi Kaleegirl, thanks for reply. I agree with you that gifts means nothing when the couple have the real love.
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