Grandmothers

Is this her first grandchild? It was SOOO hard for me to switch from being the mom to being the grandmother when my daughter had her first child. I forced myself to say "You might want to" instead of "do this" and they were living with me so that made it even harder. I don't think your boyfriend's mother is intentionally disrespecting you, she's just used to doing things her way and, if you don't go over there very often, she's not getting the benefit of seeing you in the role of Mom to your baby. Try to be patient with her and keep telling her what she needs to know. Eventually she will settle down...hopefully.

My Mother is very similar to this, the worst part is that my mother insists on routine visits - every other Wednesday. If your mother in law insists on ignoring you, then just let her know that you understand she raised kids of her own but you'd appreciate it if she'd only do things the way you'd like them done, since it is your child & every child is different so the mother is the one who knows best. Perhaps you should get your boyfriend to say something to her - since she obviously doesn't listen when you say things. If she still refuses to listen then just tell her you wont be visiting any more until she can learn to respect & do things the way you want them done as it is your child & you are the one that is responsible for how your child is raised. I hope it all works out for you & Grandmothers can make life difficult - but just because they have raised kids of their own, things have changed over the years & it doesn't mean they know what's best for ALL kids.

Aww, that's a shame. She probably feels as if you are young and don't know anything about babies. I'm a grandmother and I try to stay out of things with my children about raising them. That's one of the nice things about being a grandma, I get to just love them and play with them. I try to honor all their wishes like making sure I read to them and brush their teeth before bed. It's for the best and I have to remember that I'm not the mother. If I were you, I wouldn't go there anymore then. Just let your boyfriend take the baby for short visits. She will probably eventually ask why you don't go anymore and that will be your chance or your boyfriends chance to tell her the truth. She will be hurt but that's too bad, she needs to learn her place and learn to respect you.