Annoying / Complaining Neighbors

United States
June 20, 2008 1:55pm CST
We have 2 older people living downstairs from us and they are driving me nuts. The lady that use to live there (for the 4 years) was great! Now these two seem to have a problem with everything. My boyfriend always helps them carry in stuff, takes in their mail, takes out the garbage...normal stuff. I dont know what they expect, we are a young couple. They complain that we have loud music (we dont we're like an old couple ourselves in bed by 11 during the week). Yes, we have friends over but nothing crazy. We do leave the TV on for the dog but I dont get it. She complains that people ring her bell when were not home for packages being delievered? I told her I appreciate that she signs for them but she doesnt have to and Im sorry it inconviences her busy day????? I am writing this bc I just checked UPS and seen that she signed for a package for me that was delievered today and know there is gonna be drama. I spoke to the landlord and he says not to worry he knows they are just complainers... I DONT GET IT... What am I gonna do? One of these days either my boyfriend or I are going to end up in an arguement with them? Do you have annoying neighbors? How do you handle their complaining over nothing? Any advice?
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13 responses
• United States
20 Jun 08
I really can't stand people like that but the neighbors that live downstairs from us are worse than yours. I really get so mad especially because everytime that they complain my mother has high blood pressure and she gets sick. It makes her get nervous and stuff. So we have lived in this building for like more than a decade and they have only lived here for like four years. So my mother rents a room to this really cool black guy who has lived with us for like two years already and is like a part of the family. Now they say that he is always making noises with is music and stuff and I agree that he does put his music on but he doesn't put it so loud as to bother anyone. And then when there is a leak they come upstairs and are angry and they tell us like we are the plumbers and are supposed to go downstairs and fix it for them. There are times when the problem isn't even in our apartment and they still knock our door like we are the landlord or something. Now my mother has been nice to them like you and your boyfriend. The last time that they came upstairs I told my mother to not even talk to them. It get's tiring for someone to keep doing that and just for attention. If you know that you are not doing anything wrong then don't worry about it and just don't pay attention. The landlord know what is going on so it's not like he's going to listen to them and evict you or something. So relax and don't give it to much attention.
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• United States
20 Jun 08
So you feel my pain! These people suck... see you are like me we were there first you know what your moving into I want to tell her, move out of an apartment and buy a house if you want people to follow YOUR rules! Its just annoying ! Tell your mom the same thing bc she shouldnt get stressed over people just being constant complainers
• United States
20 Jun 08
Yeah I know we were here first. Me an my mom are like the only people and this other family too that have lived here in this building for so long. And they just come out of nowhere like they own the building. I don't like to start problems but sometimes I just feel like going up to them and cursing them out. I'm 19 and they are like probably 30 or forty something, I know I should respect my elders but I really can't help it. And if they do complain again to us I am going to get my attitude with them. I don't like to start problems but it gets on my nerves.
@risris24 (712)
• United States
20 Jun 08
When I moved in my apartment I had a neighbor who lived directly underneath me and she seemed to complain about the noise of the tv keeping her up at night and the sound of footsteps as we walked around the apartment. Now, first of all, if the tv is so loud, how are we sleeping through it, 2nd of all, I pay rent just like she does and I will be damned if she tells me I have limitations as far as walking goes. Yes we do have to respect our neighbors, that is the "neighborly" thing to do, but only to a degree. I say you can try to speak to her and let her know that it has gotten back to you that she complained to the landlord and tell her that you are sorry for any inconvienence but the woman before her never had any complaints. You try your best to limit the noise but honestly, you and your boyfriend have a right to live too, afterall you do pay rent!
• United States
20 Jun 08
Thank you! I try... LET ME LIVE...LOL!!!!
@kenzie45230 (3563)
• United States
21 Jun 08
Have you ever lived downstairs of anyone? It really is a different experience. You DO hear everything. Perhaps you and your boyfriend would benefit from taking turns being in their apartment, and having the other one do "normal" things like walk across the floor, turn on the music to the level you listen, turn on TV. You might be surprised at what they are forced to put up with.
• United States
21 Jun 08
No I do understand because when I was at home with my Mom I was in the basement. But I lived with my family. We are both paying rent here~ I am considerate because I know they are older, I try to be nice! They are acting like they are my parents. Im sorry you go to bed at 6pm, I dont! She doesnt have to take my garbage out and make comments because its not on her schedule. I've lived here for 5 years and dont plan on leaving for a few more and can successfully take out my own garbage! Botom line they are annoying! I am living my life for the amount of money that I pay!! I will try to be considerate but I dont see them changing!
@KrauseHome (33218)
• United States
20 Jun 08
I live in a Condo we are buying, or actually right now, have on the market for Sale. We live next to a neighbor that always seems to be complaining about something, and usually it is just to hear herself talk I think. I quit putting notes for her to sign for my UPS, and now usually try to find a time to be home when they deliver from now on, or go to the nearest UPS and pick them up myself. It is a lot easier this way for us. But our neighbor can be quite annoying without ever realizing just how bad she is. The worst part of it, was the last time when we had someone come and look at our condo, she had the nerve to tell the lady looking at it, by the way I would be your neighbor, as I live next door. So, yes, some people could be classified as some of the worst neighbors to ever have.
• United States
21 Jun 08
OK, she sounds worse than the nuts I have living down stairs from me... I think its because they are in the 70s and we are in our late 20's and they think were bad but i dont go to bed at 6....lol... good luck wish you luck with getting out of there!
• United States
20 Jun 08
Ignore them. Complainers are generally complaining for the attention. If your landlord knows the issues and agrees that you are doing nothing wrong, let them complain. Chances are, if the complaining does not get the required result, they will stop complaining. You can also try chatting with them to find out what you can do to ease their obvious frustrations. Maybe it will ease the situation. You may also want to try talking to your UPS guy and asking him not to deliver your packages to the neighbors if you are not home. It is generally the same guy on your route, unless he is on vacation, so this may help. If it becomes unbearable, ask your landlord to speak with them. Perhaps he can ease the situation just a bit.
• United States
20 Jun 08
Thanks! My friend is making labels for the door bells for me for obvious reasons! Im going to try and talk too maybe it will help!
@metschica25 (5409)
• United States
21 Jun 08
The first time I moved out of my families house my fiance and me rented a double .The people next to us had no respect for us at all . They blasted the music at all hrs of the day ,had their kids running all in our yard and it was just out of control, the worse was the long fights they had into the night . I remember over christmas they actually put all their decorations all over our house. Months went on and they still had the xmas stuff up and it was in my yard. I had it with them and took it all down and put it back in their yard .As soon as they got home they put it all back up .That was it I had a nice talk with them and them went a little mean.they said they were here first and the couple before us let the kids play in the yard and use the house for decoration .I told them nicely they better start to respect me or i was gonna get the landlord involved and even tell on them for having a dog .Well,little by little they stopped being such a pain.I suppose they saw that i wasnt gonna let them walk all over me. I have no idea why you are going thru this all and it just doesnt seem unfair.some people are just known to complain and dont like to do anything for anyone.even if it is siging something.Many older people are like this and give it time for them to adjust .Maybe if you get lucky they will move out . My fiance and me fianally bought a house and had the sweetest older lady living next to us .She would bake for us ,invite us to sit on her porch ,and just was very quiet. Now she moved in with her kids and they just rented out the house .The couple has been moving in for the past few weeks and have been very loud with music and ties their dogs up to a pole .I hope that they are not too bad .It just seems maybe they play the music loud so they can hear when they are moving and they dont have a fence yet for the dogs. Just hard when you have new neighbors and were used to peace and quiet and no trouble.Hopefully,everything will work out for you .I know it must be stressful.so best of luck.
@joyouskay (113)
21 Jun 08
A few years back we bought a condo- during our first week, we spent one afternoon hanging our pictures. As we were doing it, the neighbor above us had her and her children bang on the floors and the walls. For hours... One of our other neighbors said the lady had gone around the building that day and told the other neighbors there was going to be trouble because we were so noisy. Don't you think someone would realize that if someone else had just moved in, they might have some things to hang that require a use of the hammer? Anyway, for the entire 2 years we lived there, the lady's kids would do that same banging every so often. It was just stupid...
@rrdj71 (696)
• United States
21 Jun 08
Reminds me so much of the movie with Drew Barrymore and Ben Stiller called DUPLEX. You should see it. LOL BTW I used to have this lady that took it upon herself to ruin my life and I eventually had to move out. She would come around and water my plants that I had already watered every day before I went to work and she eventually drowned and killed them and then I found out she had a key to my apt. and was coming in and helping herself to my food more that once she finally fessed up one day and that is when I moved out!!
• India
21 Jun 08
See, having problems with neighbors are universal. Remember , you can take only such measure what will not disturb your peace of mind. One them , is just hold the enemy closer. Go to your neighbor, ask how they are or try give them occasional smile, though may not respond it. But finally they will take a note and stop bothering you.
• United States
21 Jun 08
Lesson number one. NEVER get to know your neighbors. Make friends elsewhere. Sure, if you see them, say a quick HI and leave right away wothout talking or wave? Otherwise, be polite but NOT friends with them. It causes "boundary" issues later. I wave to neighbors if I see them. But then if they are annoying or rude, I would have no issues letting them know it or to set rules. I have friends, but NOT in the neighborhood. If there's a bad storm and they would need help, they know they could come and I would help. Otherwise..FENCES or floor partitions make GREAT neighbors. Stay seperate from them and you'll be better off. As for the packages, tell ehr NOT to sign and you'll get the little yellow paper later and go to the place and get them. YOUR packages are not her concern. (Set your boundries and sitck with them! But never argue. Cut it all short and stay WAY seperate from them.)
@d0d313 (66)
• United States
21 Jun 08
wouldent be better to sell that things as fast as posile and move as fare away as ucan or just tell them somthing about the nocie and if u cant move try being reinds witht them
21 Jun 08
actually i dont i have irritating neighbours but i can advice that u should avoid them
@celticeagle (113972)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Jun 08
Well, I feel your pain. I thinik unless you move you must take whatever they want to throw at you. Some old people are just grumpy. Did you see the movie? Grumpy Old men. Funny. Maybe you should send them a copy.