Question about helping people on Friends list.

@lilaclady (28270)
Australia
June 20, 2008 7:06pm CST
I just had a lot of my reponsors deleted so I am just trying to find out if it is against the Guidelines to help someone on ones friends list. Is going through their discussions and responding to any discussions with no replies against the guidelines, I have always done this thinking it is what the Friends list is all about to help each other, maybe I am wrong.... Anyone know if this is wrong....
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18 responses
@fwidman (11519)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I don't think what you are doing is wrong. It may just be that the entire discussion was deleted and your comments along with them. It has already happened to me a few times.
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
21 Jun 08
no this was quite a few discussions, I just went through the list and answered quite a few that had no responses but I still answered then as a discussion as they were very interesting...
@fwidman (11519)
• United States
21 Jun 08
That is strange then. I have no idea what happened.
@kerriannc (4282)
• Jamaica
21 Jun 08
Hello lilaclady, it is not about your friend but what has been written. I have been caught up in some of your discussions that was deleted but hush, such is life. Just when you are writing take a glance on the guidelines sometimes and see if you are in the boundary. All the best. kerry
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
21 Jun 08
I still don't understand, I will admit I like to go through friends lists to help them out, I thought maybe it was of the politics factor but I have seen other duiscussions on the same thing...I didn't think any of the discussions were against the guidelines...I am willing to go by the guidelines but if this practice is wrong I would like to know other than that i can't see the point in have a friends list if you can't help them..
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@Hatley (152615)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jun 08
lilaclady I really think if you had responses deleted it was because the discussion to which you responded was itseld against the mylot rules and was deleted. so your responses' alolng with all the others of mylotters would also be deleted,you did nothing wrong yourself but you were unfortunate in posting to someone whose whole discussin was deleted.next time check to see if the discussion breaks mylot rules as a lot of discussions from newbies do break the rules and us older mylotters refuse to lose our points.
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
22 Jun 08
I am preety good at sticking with the guidelines, some were political but nothing else and I think all opinions should be allowed in a forum so I don't think it was that...and it wasn't very strong political opinions either..
@ellie333 (21029)
21 Jun 08
Hi Lilaclady, I personally don't see this as wrong. When I accept a friend of they me I always look through their previous discussions to see if any there are that I can respond to, I think it is lovely of you to want to help a friend like this. I sometimes have to delete notifications from email as my inbox gets to full and can't alwasy find the discussion on discussions my friends have started so will go into their profile to do this too. I say keep doing what you are doing. Ellie :D
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
21 Jun 08
Well I have always liked doing i, for me it was like doing more not just getting the point for myself and the quarter for my referer but one or two for the person I was trying to help to me I felt I was making it all worthwhile, but I don't want to do anything to cause deletions...
@makingpots (11928)
• United States
21 Jun 08
Good question/discussion, lilaclady. I do not see anything in the Guidelines that says it is wrong. I find it hard to understand why they would have a link in the discussion box to 'discussions with no responses' if they were going to penalize us for responding to them.
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
21 Jun 08
yeh maybe it was for another reason, good point about the link..thanks.
• Indonesia
21 Jun 08
I never see any guidelines on this and I don't think it's a wrong thing to do? I mean, it's no different than answering to any discussions right. Sorry you got your responses deleted lilaclady. You might want to ask mylot about this.
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
21 Jun 08
Thank you little white one...I feel more sorry for the person I was trying to help they all got deleted as well, so they lose the points, it doesn't really matter much to me but they may have needed those points...
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I never heard of such a thing...maybe it depends what the discussions were about more than it being a discussion with no responses..I mean ALL discussions that are written start out with no responses.
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
21 Jun 08
yeh I thought of that pye but I checked to see if any other topics similar were still up and they were, I mean if we are not supposed to look for friends unresponded discussions that is cool but I liked helping people who have had long time discussions with no responses...but if you not supposed to do it then fair enough, but I looked at it that I just helping someone get points...
@kiran1978 (4138)
• Australia
21 Jun 08
There is nothing wrong with responding to discussions with no responses. I have read the guidelines a few times now and never remember seeing anything in there about this. So not sure why your responses were deleted. It seems mylot is becoming really strict these days I have had discussions and are responses deleted too.
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@cream97 (29175)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I am not sure.. But I answer discussions with no responses from time to time.. So, to me this is not really wrong.. It is just all depending on how myLot sees it..
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• United States
1 Jul 08
I think many of us have done that. We go through the list looking for zero responses and then do a big favor for a friend. I don't see anything wrong with it. Not sure why the responses would have been deleted.
@kwenge (2492)
• Kenya
27 Jun 08
I dont think you are violating any rule by answering to discussions with no responses and mostly for people in your friends list. I also respond that way and nothing of the kind has ever happened to me. Maybe the most discussions you respond, the owners or someone else violated the rules like maybe posting links on it or some other violation. Am sorry for what happened to you/discussions you responded to.
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
27 Jun 08
Perhaps this is why some of my responses disappear. Well it could also be my outspokenness on my part (better known as ogre/bully/mean/monsterism according to some other mylotters -_-) I'm betting Lilaclady, that it was someone going "!" farming. What I mean is, someone just hitting ! just to hit it and get responses deleted. Seems rather easy from what I've seen. But if you are right Lila, imagine what that really means for the place. We shouldn't help our friends, what kind of message is that? Even worse than that, what about people not on the friends list? I help lots of people that aren't "buddy listed". Is there a ban on that? Seriously the whole issue of reporting should be overhauled. Its too easy to get discussions and responses deleted, especially ones that don't violate any terms... but were just responses a person didn't like or didn't agree with, or in this case, perhaps they were jealous of it.
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
23 Jun 08
Hello lilaclady, I am not too sure whether it is against the rules here. I helped a few before whenever they asked for help. I think that is what a friend is for... I witnessed many discussions being deleted for going against the guidelines but logically thinking, I still couldn't find what was the reason behind the discussion being deleted. Maybe MyLot has the right answer for it and at this level, I just don't care anymore to know the reason. I have been searching and searching and yet to find the answer.
@Gollywog (1093)
21 Jun 08
Thats what friends are for? Maybe their post was not within the guide lines who knows strange things happen here?
@jer31558 (3684)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I don't see anything wrong with helping them. I don't recall reading anything about it being against the rules either. I think that I would do the same thing in your situation.
@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I don't think it is wrong at all. I think maybe some of your friends discussions got deleted or something. I have lost points over time also because I have responded to some discussions that eventually been deleted. We have to be so careful what we respond to these days at Mylot.
@moondancer (7434)
• United States
21 Jun 08
I have no idea if this is wrong. I go to the discussions without responses all the time. As I think this will help the people there no matter who they are. I just hope I have a post for them in reply to their discussion. As for going into just my friend list and doing this and is it wrong. I don't see where it would be. But hen I don't know. I think as long as you are posting to something that you can relate to or have something to say to what they posted it should not matter tat they are your friends.
@richiem (3647)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
I don't think there is something wrong with helping your friends in your list. I have also been doing that for some time now and I don't have any response deleted yet. Or maybe I have some deleted responses that I didn't noticed. But I don't think it would be deleted just because you response because you want to help your friends. There should be another reason.