Habits with friends
June 20, 2008 11:31pm CST
Have you ever found yourself still doing or saying the same things that your friends had, and yet you haven't talked to them in a long time? Have you ever tried to force yourself to not talk or act in that manner as your friendship ended on bad grounds? Right now I feel like a little teenager trying to stop myself from saying things and acting in ways that my ex friends have. My biggest thing was Spanish. I learned a little bit of Spanish but now am trying to break myself of the habit because not only did the person who taught me it disrespect me but also because I no longer need the Spanish language. I feel like a little kid, however, because I am trying to stop myself from speaking Spanish, and I feel it's only because the person who taught me it was my best friend. I called her and tried to talk to her about a manner I will not discuss here, but she did not call me back even though she seemed okay with it. I gave her a week and then called again and told her I felt we needed to end our friendship - still no call. So, my question is : Have you ever detoxed or expunged yourself from speaking in the manner that a once good friend did?
• United States
21 Jun 08
I have never really picked up anything from my friends, especially the ones that are no longer my friends anymore,and yeah I know one of the reasons you learned Spanish was because of your best friend,and also because of where you worked,but now that you live in the country,with me,and there are not many people around here who speak Spanish,so I can understand why you are trying to stop,and it was not right the way she did,you called her,and she let you off the phone too easily,and she did not call you back after a week,and even though you basically told her the friendship is over,she still has not called back,so indoubtfully she has a problem,and apparently she is too much of a coward to tell you,but it is her loss not yours,cause you always helped her whether is be with money or advice,and she is treating you like this ,I am not trying to get off topic,but we can not forget your other friend,who you have helped with money,and she is being really childish and flinging insults like a poo flinging monkey,and she needs to grow up,and act her age,instead of acting like a pissed of twelve year old,she also needs to admit she was wrong,and that the situation was caused by her actions,and what she has said,and that you are in no part to blame for anything,and if she can not accept that you want to be in the country,that that is your heritage,your roots,and the way you were meant to be then who needs her,but hopefully one day she will wake up and smell the coffee beans,and wonder what she did and why she did it,but by then it will be too late and she will have done ruined a good friendship ,and I am sure she will regret it,and as the saying goes with friends or ex friends like that who needs enemies.
• United States
21 Jun 08
Yes I know that we like to rant a lot about these people. I agree with all of the points that you made, baby, but realize that I do not need them and that they do not deserve the time of day to dwell on them and the way they acted. Sure our friendship should not have gone down the drain like that but I Truly found out who my friends are