My Girlfriend Keeps Comparing to my Ex Girfriend!!!
June 21, 2008 11:40am CST
I am surely going crazy!! I was busy at work today and guess what stupid sms my girlfriend send me? Infact she asked me the password of my email. I gave it to her. She checked my old emails...the ones my ex girlfriend send to me more than 2 years ago. Ok..this is not a problem. Now she start getting jealous looking at these mails. Ok that's too is not a problem. But now she is asking me why I used to mail my ex so often and i don't mail her that same much!?! She say that the mails i send to my ex two years ago are more beautiful and romantic! She think that i don't love her more than I loveD my ex!! When the fact is that I meet her almost everyday... This really irritate me now. I am tired after two hard day of work with lots of tension and she find to talk this nonsense with me! Why don't she understand that I really love her more than anyone? What should I do to show her my love? I am trying my best to show her that I love her a lot...give her all my time when I can...be with her and make lots of love tease to her...but still she keep doubting that I don't love her the same much i used to love my ex. The truth is that i don't love her the same much that I did to love my ex...but infact I love her EVEN MUCH MORE than i used to love my ex. I am sure she will be around reading this post her...so I just wanna tell you Yusha I love you a lot!!! I Love you more than i ever loved anyone else!!!
21 Jun 08
I think you should just keep assuring her that you love her if you say you are doing your best to show it to her. The fact that you are asking for an advice means that she really mean the world for you. Tell her things that you do to her that you don't do to your ex before. Tell her what changes that occurred to you when you and your girlfriend got together. Tell her things that will make her feel loved. You are a very sweet to do such thing (post this discussion) If your girlfriend reads this, I know that she will know she is truly blessed to have you as a boyfriend. I hope that you two will be o.k. I hope the best for both of you.
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22 Jun 08
Good. So now all you have to do is wait till she reads this on mylot. Or you can tell her every thing that you've written here at mylot. But other than that i'm sure she loves you and if she really loves you she will never leave you, just because you have send your ex a view lovely mails. If she leaves you then she is the wrong person for you. Am I right or am I right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
22 Jun 08
I love this post. =) I mean this is the first time I hear it from a guy's point of view, that you don't love her as much as you used to love your ex but that you love her even more. I've been feeling the same way she's feeling over this guy I'm in love with. Recently things have soured between us because of how jealous I was with him spending time with his friends. It's not too late. You have to convince her you do love her more. To do that, here's a tip: actions speak louder than words. Do more, prove it more by actions and not just by saying the words.
• United States
22 Jun 08
Sometimes in relationships you are going to have to put up with a little bit of crazy or annoying behavior for the one you love. I would say you are probably right that your girlfriend is being a little unreasonable, but if you really love her then it's not a big deal. One day not too far from now you will probably end up being unreasonable about something and may not even realize it. If your girlfriend loves you as much as you love her then she will be understanding just like you were. The ability to get through these times is part of the test of whether or not you belong together. If you really can't put up with it then maybe she isn't the right one for you.
21 Jun 08
at the beginning of my relationship with my now husband i was very jealous of his ex's all i could ever think of was if he loved her more then me how he treated her etc he had to just keep reasuring me and doing things that proved he loved me! it took about 2years before i got these thoughts out of my head! you just have to be patient with her keep telling her how much you love her and do romantic and different things to prove you love her! be patient and talk to her!!! women think alot and worry about things alot more then men! just remember these feelings of hers wont go away over nigth! i wish you all the best and hope that you 2 are together forever! i hope she reads this as this proves you love her loads! good luck!
• United States
9 Jul 08
One problem that women have is forgetting that different people display how they feel in different ways. She's looking at the fact that you e-mailed her all the time and said all the lovey dovey stuff, and that makes her think "Has he ever said that to me? What makes her more special than me if he e-mailed her so ofter" not even thinking of: maybe she was more of a computer person...maybe you guys didn't see eachother as much and used e-mails to enhance your communication...There are a million reasons for us to think another woman could, would be, or is more imprtant than us. You just have to remind her that you don't have to e-mail her novels everyday to show you love her. You work long hours and still make time for her. You still take her out and watever else you do....perhans your ex just liked having something there to read over and over and say "Wow...he is so sweet". I'd say just ask her what you could do to convey your love for her in ANY way. Hint: You can make the most random thing VERY sweet....I use to date a guy that gave me a box. Everytime he came over (even when I wasn't home) he'd put a million slips of paper in it, and on each, it had a new reason for him to love me, or why he loved me already. "The way you kiss me on my forehead when I'm sleeping" "The way your hair smells when you get out of the shower" "The way you speak so highly of me to anyone willing to listen" stuff like that, and I metled everytime I read one.....little means alot, so in everything you do, find a way to relate it to her, and let her know about it.
1 Jul 08
ima girl.And i know how she feels,i once did this thing like her..yea..i read d mails.i felt jealous ofcourse..Coz i really do love him,.i care more bout him that's why we had some arguments that time..But then he felt sorry then try to ask for forgiving him..So..he decided to take away all things from d past!that was d best thing he did for me..Just to show that its me he really cares about..
24 Jun 08
Hi kurtavish, it's right you're often with her and the fact that she can't read any romantic words or messages from you in her mailbox has generated this controversy. i'll suggesting that meeting her often and she's content, you could email some romantic poems to her or give her some romantic poems cards that when you're not with her but she could take and remember you true love for her. i think for most ladies, they always want to look around anytime and find something about their love, clutch on it or kiss it. then they feel your love despite your absence at that moment. she wants you to catch her imagination all the time even when you're not around at a time with her. good luck.
24 Jun 08
Jealousy rears it ugly head. When you are far from someone you tends to write to that persons every day. This your girlfriend should understand. She should also understand that she is the one getting all the attention and loving so why should she jealous after someone who was the item two years ago. She needs to understand that she is the present and who was in the past should be leave there. Love is a mysterious feelings and sometimes you tends to think that the person in the pass was your true love but then the heavens open and send you an angel. This angel is the one you love and cherish. The one in the past was just a baby and now you are bless with an angel. Until she see herself as that Angel then she will understand that she is the only love in your life and that will not change. There is a song done by Taurus Riley a Reggae artist from Jamaica. The title is SHE IS ROYAL. See if you can buy it and play it for her. All the best. Kerry
23 Jun 08
She's a girl, who gets jealous, who wants to be loved like everyone else and loves you so much to want every love you could give her and even the love you gave to your ex. It's not that its a bad thing, but when it is too much to the point of complicating the relationship, making you fight and end up with misunderstandings, then yeah, it's a big problem. Talk to her. Listen to what she has to say about how she feels. Then tell kiss her and tell her that she is different from your ex. That you want to love her differently and even more!(^^,)
• United States
22 Jun 08
You are such a good boyfriend, your girlfriend is very lucky to have you. My advice would be this, every once in awhile send her a text or an email saying I love you, I miss you, and I'm thinking of you. Very simple to the point if you do that once in awhile, I know you are very busy during the day but if you take a few minutes and send her something short and sweet she will feel appreciated.
22 Jun 08
Your girlfriend is probably just feeling insecure. Girls are like that...they feel sentimental, jealous and wants to be reassured, especially if their boyfriends have an ex, and as long as the ex is around, they feel uneasy at times and threatened perhaps, even if the boyfriend keeps doing things to show that she is the person he loves. I guess you just have to be as sincere as you can be, and to keep doing things to show that you love and cherish her. This will be a test of the strength and depth of your relationship with her. If despite all your sincerity and acts of love you show, she still shows her insecure side, then you may over time have to really re-appraise this relationship to determine if she is really suitable for you. This kind of insecure and jealous feelings can persist over a long time and cause problems in a permanent relationship over the longer term.
22 Jun 08
I think its one of those periods wherein girls tend to be sentimental, insecure and suffer from very low esteem. Its not really a lifetime illness. It often comes and goes. Just be more patient and understanding. Since you loved her so much I know you will. I think what you need is to do is to constantly reassure her how much you loved her. Explain to her the context of the email. I know past is past but for your gf, it is not really that past. Ask her how come she started to act that way. Ask if there was a reason for her to believe that you love your ex more than her. Sometimes people around the both of you may influence ones thinking. And lastly, tell her you both need to give each other trust. Tell her that if you are still in love with your ex then you would not have given her the password knowing that you still kept emails from your ex.
22 Jun 08
Wow! That's cute. I sure hope your girlfriend read this post Well, I'm sure she reads this since she must checks on your posts. Maybe your girlfriend has some insecurities kurtavish, maybe she thinks that your ex is more beautiful or more this and more that than her. You should try to convince her that she is more than your ex.