Friends and techies

@sharone74 (4839)
United States
June 22, 2008 7:10am CST
Everyone has had a time in their life wished that they had a computer or internet guru to dump their complex computing needs on whenever they got out of their own skill level. Unfortunately I am in the uncomfortable spot of both finding myself in the role of person who needs their own guru and a role as the "guru" for all of my tight, cheap, dorkey friends, whom I ask not to ask me to fix their computers or components., yet whenever something happens to their system or it won't boot up or come on they all call me "freaked out" and begging for my help but I am currently enrolled in Collegiate computing course, which are harder than many of you can imagine I a almost certain that around my house and storage I have at least one functioning or non functioning piece of hardware off off every friends computer that owns one. Finally the day has come along that this is a good thing. My boyfriends really good friend K, when I had a system crash due to me downloading something stupid onto it and I could not get my com to boot, she gave me one and then the other of her previous computers because she had just bought a new one and the two former ones were neither of them fast enough or new enough to sell them or whatnot. The hard drive and operating system that I have on this my newest refurbished computer is from her machines. So anyway, about two to three months ago she had a catasrophic system crash. Unbeknownst to me until yesterday that she still had not managed to right that situation due to a temporary downturn in her financial fortunes. She has just been going without her computer tis long because she didn't want to ask me to fix it for free or for cheap for her cause she "couldn't afford to pay much." HELLO! I wanted to smack her right in the back of the head when she told me that. Without her gracious and timely aide in November I would have had to drop my classes from the online degree program I am studying online. That is really an example of integrity and respect, because she knows that it drives me up the wall how other friends of mine will bring me their computers or better yet make me come and get them and fix them. She goes without her system for months because she is concerned that she cannot offer me anything to fix it for her when in my opinion she is the only one of my friends who should know that she need only ask and I shall happily do it for her, nor would I acceot her cash if she offered it. I feel like I owe her. However people that owe me to this day for computer repair parts or labor who have not even attempted to pay me what they owe me, these people treat me like I owe them something just because they need my technical expertise., I always try to explain to them that I am not going to school so that I can work for free when I get done. The normally ignore my complaints!
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@ferdzNK (3214)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
Maybe she had thought that you're so busy with your studies, its not the money I guess. I'm sure she knows that you'll do it anyway if you had the time. She is a very good friend in deed. This is the irony of life if we could only offer our time to those who needed them most more than those who really just take advantage of it. Your doing great Sharone and good luck to your studies and your hobby(the more you fix things the more you'll learn, you'll find these very useful someday).
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
23 Jun 08
Hey ferdzNK my friend, totally agree with you
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
23 Jun 08
Oh and yes, I would want to add: friends are friends, business is business. Don't let them take advantage of you, don't sell youself cheap. A worker should be worthy of his/her wages. If they are true friends, they should be paying. If you are gracious to help those who are really in need, then it's called doing them a favour. As for those "__" ( fill in the blanks ), just shoo them away, ask them to go find a "professional" since you don't have the time to entertain them, haha
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@mythreya (90)
• India
22 Jun 08
I feel pity for your friend.u should keep a small workshop to repair and service computers.so that u can get decent income also ur friends will not ask u for repairs bcoz u will busy with your repairs.I suggest u to hzve z heart to heart talk with your friend.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
27 Jun 08
That happens with situations like this. At least she can think of her position and doesn't want to impose on you. Unfortunately you get the other side of the coin, people taking gross advantage of you. I can relate to that, in real life and its even shown itself on mylot. Sharone, at the very least you've not been thrown away by anyone in this situation (can't say the same for myself). As for the freeloaders, you have to be firm with them. Its the only way they'll learn. If they refuse to take you seriously or even hear you out, then thats it. They are your friends and you may strain the relationship, but if they can respect you on this, then you should withdraw from it. Ah yes, best of luck with your schooling Sharone.