your father has an extra marital affair... what is your action?

Philippines
June 23, 2008 6:14am CST
At first, it was a hurtful experience in my part... after knowing that my father has an extramarital affair... that i ignore whatever i heard and try to set my mind that my father still loves my mother very much and it was only a hersey... that was very painful for me as his child because it did show that she fooled my beloved mother... now, that issue is still alive and i havent to talk to my father regarding that matter... because i am afraid to confront him nor i am afraid of the truth... i just set my mind and be ready on whatever happens to my parents. Time will tell and only god knows...
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@gemini_rose (16193)
23 Jun 08
I am sorry that you are in this position, for your Mother it would have been hurtful and painful but for you as the child it is also hard. Loving both parents yet knowing one was seriously hurt must be really hard. I think that you should try and talk to him about it, if it is something that plays on your mind then you should fetch it out into the open. These feelings can turn into resentment and so are best fetched out into the open.
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• Philippines
23 Jun 08
thanks for the advise... sometimes your ideas was struck in my mind to settle down with my father regarding that issue... but i have no courage to open that to him... i'll just wait for him to have an apology for what he did and tell the truth... right now... i am just concern of my mother's hapiness... because they are getting old... and i'll just pray for it...
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@gemini_rose (16193)
23 Jun 08
If I know anything about men, it is that he may never apologise to you for it, but I hope that he does for you.
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@anujain75 (1069)
• India
26 Jun 08
Well My father loves my mother very much and do not do this type of shameful action after having young children.I think if mother will know it then she will live separately along with us.Even I will accompany my mother. Before leaving him I will make him understand to come out from the relationship and manage my mom also to live with my father if he agree to leave his illicit relationship.Because I need both my father and mother together.
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
Unfaithful  - Being hurt with unfaithful partner is never easy.
Hello my friend c",) I know it is never easy on your part knowing all this... I'm sorry you have experienced this kind of pain along with your family specially your mom. Hard to see her in pain too. As for your question i can never say what will i do since i'm lucky to have both my parents that are faithful in their vows of marraige and that they love us very much. I would say that you should be there for your mom, and don't hate your dad. I know its easier said than done, but maybe someday he would realize what he did. Include them both in your prayers, for your dad to realize his mistakes and come to apologize to you and your mom... and for your mom, for strenght to stay strong for you and the family. I'll be praying for your family too dear, Take care and giveyour mom a hug for me c",)