Do you follow your own advice?

United States
June 23, 2008 5:23pm CST
Do you give advice to others that you can't follow for yourself? I have the best diet and weight loss advice. I've been on almost every diet on the planet and lost lots of weight and then gained it back. Right now, I'm sort of circling the airport waiting to get back into the groove of my life. I still give out really good diet advice that I learned over the years. But I don't often take my own advice. I have friends who are good about giving out relationship advice but always end up with broken hearts. I guess it's easier to give advice than take it. What do you think? Do you find that it's easier to see other people's problems objectively but are blind sided as to your own problems and feel helpless to handle them?
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• Canada
23 Jun 08
Of course I follow my own advice. What right to I have to give advice that I wouldn't follow, myself? I think it is very important that people give only the advice that they themselves would follow.
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@katsmeow1213 (29044)
• United States
23 Jun 08
It's always difficult to take a step back and look at your own situation from an outsiders point of view, especially when it comes to something like love. When you're with someone you are so blinded by love that you don't see all their faults. I am very good at giving advice, and I do try to follow my advice to an extent. I know what I should do, it's just that doing it isn't always easy. I shouldn't eat that slice of cake I'm thinking about... but it's too tempting to pass up!
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• United States
23 Jun 08
See, that's what I mean! I know all the shoulds and should not's, but sometimes I just don't want to do them. Guess that's what being an adult is all about. Personal choices and decisions. We don't have mom and dad there to help us make the right choices, so we do what we think is right at the time for ourselves and our own children! Thank you for understanding what I meant! Be well. Have a beautiful day.
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@ellie333 (21029)
23 Jun 08
LOL Hi BeautyQueen, I know exactly where you are coming from on this one. I think when we are caught up in something emotional we can't see the logic or the clarity of the situation like others can and vice versa really which is why we do this. Less calories = less weight and then along comes a loaded hotdog eh! We all give advice out at times but when it comes to ourselves don't adhere to it. Ellie :D
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• United States
23 Jun 08
Yep! That's me. I have pretty much given up on diets. They work. But somehow I'm not working them right. Or just not sticking to them. So, I'm focusing more on burning calories with exercise and the weight issue should take care of itself! Thanks for your post. You really get what I was saying and that's cool!
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@ellie333 (21029)
23 Jun 08
Remember though that muscle weighs heavier than fat so don't look at the scales look at the inch loss and general toning if you are burning calories through exercise rather than dieting as such. Ha, ha, that is me giving advice now but the one thing that does work for me is not even having a set of scales I just go by how my clothes fit. Ellie :D
• United States
24 Jun 08
I was worried about the muscle weight. Back when I was doing step aerobics, I gained weight, but my clothes did fit better. I had forgotten about that part. Thanks for the advice.
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Jun 08
If the advice you give is out of your own experience its not that easy to go wrong. This also does not mean that the same thing cannot happen to you through a different set of circumstances. We all have our weaknesses and if you advise somebody one way you can fall in another. People seem to think that if you give advice you're infallable. Thats not true. The best advice on losing weight was given to my uncle by a doctor. Eat all you want and exercise. I do that. I walk all over town everyday in my work and then eat whatever I like, take vitamins and watch my drinking. I do have a bit of a stomach, I'm not fat, I'm 57 years old and have no old age diseases. Good Luck !
@gemini_rose (16194)
25 Jun 08
I alway seem to be able to help others out with advice and what not but not myself! I never see anything in my own life until it is way too late. It is easier to give advice and not to take it, I am totally blind to what goes on under my own nose.
• United States
26 Jun 08
Same here!
@gemini_rose (16194)
26 Jun 08
Thanx for BR xx
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
24 Jun 08
I do the same thing. I have been on all kinds of diets myself and I try to tell others how I have lost weight before. I am also a pretty good listener when my friends need someone to talk to. I admit though that some of the advice I have given I haven't fallen through with it myself either. So I understand what you mean.
• United States
24 Jun 08
It's like I know all the right things to do, cause I've read all the books and watched all the Oprah weight loss shows, but somehow right now, I'm just not into it. I know that one morning I will wake up and feel differently. It works that way for me. Till then, I struggle on!
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
24 Jun 08
I understand that feeling.
@poohgal (6848)
• Singapore
24 Jun 08
Haha.. It's really common for human beings to Preach what they DO NOT do. I am kind of guilty of that too. I always tell my parents not to eat food that are too sweet or salty as it's not good for health. However, sometimes I will still buy potato chips and chocolates home to eat.
• United States
26 Jun 08
• United States
24 Jun 08
I try to, but sometimes it is easier said than done. I think it is easier to see other's people's problems objectively than our own. Things are always more clear when you are standing on the outside and don't have an emotional stake in the matter. For the most part I can step outside my own problems and look at them. But, hey, I'm human so there are times when it's just not as easy as it should be.
• United States
24 Jun 08
Objectivity! That's the word for it. I can often see other people's situations so clearly. But not my own.
@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
24 Jun 08
Advice is so much easier to give then act on. I'm always giving my friends advice but only take my own maybe 1% of the time. Sometimes it's just so much easier and "safer" to do things the way you know won't work than to risk the chance and do the work it takes to try something a new way. I'm also really bad at taking advice from others. I'm always the one that has to say to my friends "OMG you were so right!"
• United States
24 Jun 08
Isn't it the truth!
@TheCarter (370)
• United States
23 Jun 08
All the time. It seems to be some kind of curse. I spend all my time helping people fix their lives and in return watch my life stay the same. I have made three millionaires in passing! I'm close but not quite there yet. Maybe next year. I made their year a few back though. You just have to believe that life judges and then reciprocates. Apparently the penalty for not listening to your own advice is ridicule. What do you think?
• United States
24 Jun 08
Yeesh! I can hear the snickers and giggles now! I feel like Obama when he unveiled his new Presidential seal.
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
25 Jun 08
It is easier to give the Advise and also I always believe what works for one Person does not mean it will work for others or yourself I think most People are blind to their own as it is every Day Life and we do not realize part of the time until it is to late that there is a Problem It is always easier to look from the outside to the Inside but never easy to look from inside to inside
• India
24 Jun 08
I will advice my self because i am practical thinking person and the advicing my self getting me good result which i thinks everything practically
@Elixiress (3893)
24 Jun 08
I sometimes follow my own advice, whereas sometimes I do not. I think that although my advice is good that my emotions gets in the way. It is easier to tell someone to do something when you are not involved, because you have a whole picture of the situation, whereas with your own situation, you are blinded by emotion so sometimes you do not follow the advice that you would give in that situation. Recently, a simular thing has happened to me and I have talked myself out of what I would advice myself to do if it was someone else based on someone else's advice on the principle that "they can see the whole picture".
• Philippines
24 Jun 08
Usually I try to follow my own advice but its just so hard to do. Everytime I give advice to someone, there is something inside my head that tells me on how I can this advices to someone else but cannot actually do it or implement it in my life. I guess people are really like that, good at giving advice on others but not on their own selves. I think it is easier to give advice to others since you do not have personal connection on their problem and that when you look at other's problem and analyze it, you can easily and clearly see the solution for you see it in a very ideal and non-personal way. However when it comes to yourself, it all becomes complicated and no matter how simple things may really seem and how much the answer and the solution to a problem is obvious, you just find reasons not to do those.
@dianagnes (1088)
• Singapore
24 Jun 08
Not really as i dont give advices that much since i need more advices and im not good at advicing peoples.I do have gave diet advices that i never make use of so its as good as never follow my own advice.Im trying not to give advices to those who i think are better than me as i feel its worth nothing.My advices mostly goes to my juniors,those whom i know,and things that makes me feel confident of and think that it might help,i will throw those short and simple advices of mine.Im bad at giving advices..so anyone could give me advices of how to give a good advice? hehehe! ;)
@KrauseHome (35517)
• United States
24 Jun 08
Actually, I think most people as a whole can give good advice, but when it comes to following it, they are usually the worst and have to seek others. As for me, it depends on what it is. As for loosing weight, that is one thing I have also tried to do from time to time. I know aome of the main things that could help, are what I eat, and the last couple of days I have been back to eating things I know are Bad. So how do we change this? If we learn to heed the advice we give to others first I would think, so people could not often point this back out to us.
@bagumbayan (2707)
• Philippines
24 Jun 08
Like you do I am a good adviser but not s good follower. I know what is right and proper, I know how to do things the right way, but sometimes I folow the different road, just for the heck of doing it sometimes and just not be be good a times.
• Philippines
24 Jun 08
yes i always give advice but i myself cant follow my own advice when i encounter that kind of situation...and i myself cant understand my own feelings coz' i cant beleive that i can give advices to other people but i cant even help myself...
@nupats (3564)
• India
24 Jun 08
i know abt such grt diet charts and i can also vouch tht they work if followed but u know i m so fond of eating tht i cannot imagine following those diets for long..so when someone asks i always tell them the diet charts tht i have but i find it tough to follow...it may benefit someone else...i do workout regularly though but cant diet..othr than this wt i advice abt life is wt i follow in my life...i have very basic fundas in life simple life no complications..
• United States
24 Jun 08
I think you are right. I think you need to take your advice like the rest of us. We all need to listen more of doing all the talking.