Relationships???

@Margajoe (4721)
Germany
June 25, 2008 12:27pm CST
Hi, What would you say is a good relationship? Must you get married to have a good relationship? What happens in a relationship after 3 to 7 years? Why does the relationship usually change? What makes a relationship,a good solid one? Thanks, Take care, Margajoe.
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@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
28 Jun 08
I think to have a good relationship there should be love, trust,and communications.. In every relationship whether a relationship as a friend, family, boy-girl relationship, etc. there always need to have trust, communications and love. I think without this, the relationship won't work well... Trust is important in a relationship because if you trust your friend, and love ones then jealousy and insecurity might not feel because you trust that person.. You know that he/she would not hurt you and he/she accepts you for what you are.. Communications is also important because through communications there would be no misunderstanding.. You always need to talk with your love one and especially with your problems.. Trough communications it can help you solve your problem well.. And lastly, Love is very much important in a relationship because if there is no love then there would be no relationship. You cannot have a good friends, good lovers, and you cannot have a happy family if there is no love... Love must always be present in every relationship because it will help the person to be happy and contented to be with someone they love... I think the reasons why some of relationship changed as years goes by it is because the trust, communications and love might not already present in the relationship.. There must be lacking.. There must be a problem that they don't want to talk to or to solve to.. I am in a relationship right now, me and my boyfriend had been together almost 3 years and 7 months.. honestly speaking, our relationship had changed as years goes by.. It changes not into something bad but in something good.. The more our relationship had grown and this is because we have a good communication with each other if we are in the situation right now as a long distance relationship.. We keep in touch every now and then so that there will no misunderstanding... I trust him and he trust me, so there are no thinking of anything not good with each other.. And most of all our love for each other won't fade even though we are not seeing for almost 3 months.. I am happy in our relationship even he is so far from me because I know someday we will be together like before...
@Margajoe (4721)
• Germany
28 Jun 08
Hi Kissie, Thank-you for your comment. I really liked it. But, what is it you call Love? Is that the trust and communication? Thanks, Take care,Margajoe.
@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
26 Jun 08
Hi Margajoe, You don't need to be married to have a good relationship. To have such a relationship, people must be happy in each others company. As someone once said, it's not what you do, but who you do it with that counts. Blessings.
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@Margajoe (4721)
• Germany
27 Jun 08
Hi Pose, Thanks for your comment. So, if your happy in someones company, would that be real love? It's not what you do, but who you do it with that counts. I like that sentence. Take care, Margajoe
26 Jun 08
I think a good relationship is one that is based off of TRUST and friendship. I think a good relationship involves a lot of giving and a bit less taking. I have been in a relationship for 3 years now, and we are planning on getting married... just not right now. Marriage is always a great thing, but it never hurts to wait. We know we want to be together forever, and we will be regardless of if we have rings and take vows. Relationships change because people change. At first, your relationships are fresh, exciting, and lovey dovey... then you get comfortable in love and they may become a little less exciting and lovey dovey, but that's when you work on them. Being comfortable in love is way better than the freshness and excitement at the beginning of a relationship. Honesty, trust, and communication are true signs of any SOLID relationship.
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@Margajoe (4721)
• Germany
26 Jun 08
Hi, Thanks for your comment. yes, I agree with you. But, what is friendship really? No, it does not hurt to wait to get married. But, I am not against marriage. I just don't understand why lots of married people are not happy. And get divorced. I do however feel it right to get married, when you want to have a family. For the children it is a more comfortable feeling. I think anyway. Take care, Margajoe
@chitchat (179)
• United States
25 Jun 08
A good relationship is one where both partners are communicating, sharing, compromising, taking an interest in each other and still being able to do things separately. I don't believe that marriage is going to turn your relationship into a good one. You either have a good relationship or a bad one. Being married doesn't mean that you'll have a good relationship. After 3-7 years, you either grow apart or grow together as individuals or as a couple. Which one it is depends on the couple and their cirumstances. Relationships change b/c people change. People grow up. People want different things.
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@Margajoe (4721)
• Germany
26 Jun 08
Hi, Thanks for your comment. I do agree. But, is it not sad that people can grow apart? I mean , what is Love? When it can just go away. First these two people are happy together and then they change. Could it be that they don't understand each other anymore? Don't do enough things together? Why is it when people separate, they (normally) don't stay friends. There relationship turns into hate. Why? Take care , Margajoe
• India
25 Jun 08
I would say Friendship is the Best relationship in this world. Even our souse is our Best friend and we spend most of our life with friends. Yes we have to get married in order to have a good life and good relationship. The person may gets disappointed or frustrated or tired of this relation within 7 years and he wants something new and someone else. This relationship usually changes due to misunderstandings and less concentration and negligence. The Trust and Faith are like two legs of a person called Relationship. These are the Important things in making a solid relationship. Have a nice day :)
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@Margajoe (4721)
• Germany
26 Jun 08
Hi! Thanks for your comment. Why do we have to get married in order to have a good life and good relationship? Is that not possible without a marriage certificate? In the early years , people were considered married when they had SX. They did not get a piece of paper. What is the use of getting married when you don't want children together? When most people get married, they divorce couple years or even months later. Take care, Margajoe