people who judge kids, really anger me!!!!!!!!!!

United States
June 25, 2008 4:35pm CST
I have two teenage boys. They both have long hair. My oldest has dark curly beautiful hair. My youngest has blond hair. When my youngest son is 13 now. When he was around nine years old he saw a TV show about kids with cancer. He felt so bad for him that he asked if he could grow his hair out to donate it to help other kids. I told him that would be a wonderful thing to do. He has cut his hair once and now we are growing it again to donate again. I am very proud of him for doing this. My problem is people judge them all the time. The assume they are bad kids that get into trouble and or head banging pot heads. It really angers me that adults can judge innocent kids this way. I am proud of my son he deals with it well. He does not mind when people tell me what a beautiful daughter I have. Would you judge a boy just because his hair is long?
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@sylvia13 (1851)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
26 Jun 08
Gee, people can be so mean! It is not the long hair that counts, but what your boys are doing for people who are not as lucky as they are! People can be judgemental, without even knowing the whole story! You can feel very proud of those kids of yours!
@sylvia13 (1851)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
27 Jun 08
Well, yesterday I said that you should be proud of your kids and today I would like to tell your kids that they should be proud of their mother! Thanks for answering my comment and you have inspired me!
@avidwhit (1492)
• Mexico
26 Jun 08
Oersonally I'd not judge them. When I was kid my father and all his friends where Hippis. Some did smoke pot but not all, and from experience better a pot head than a drunk. All of his friends where proffesional people. Whats on the outside is not always a refection of whats on the inside, Bueaty is only skin deep but ugliness goes clear to the bone. Some of the best friends I have had have dreadlocks or long hair but not all. Personally Its to hot here for long hair but in the mountains where I lived before it was nice for the added warmth. Better not to judge these types of things I feel.:)
• United States
26 Jun 08
I like that , beauty is only skin deep, but ugliness goes clear to the bone. I am going to tell that to my boys. Very original.
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@avidwhit (1492)
• Mexico
26 Jun 08
Please do and let them know they are not alone and maybe some of the judgement is envy and jellousy. take care!
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
30 Jun 08
No and let me tell you something else. My older daughter has very short hair, it's as short as her brother's, which is about an inch long. For the past 5 years (she is now 18), I have had to contend with stupid people who at first glance think she is a boy! She is a girl! For people to judge your boys with long hair is stupid, and for people to judge girls with very short hair is stupid. It would do us all a lot of good to start paying a little more attention, not to just surface things but find out a little more about a person before sticking your foot right into your mouth.
• United States
30 Jun 08
Well said! I am glad this happens to girls to. no offense to your daughter. People should look a little close before opening there mouths.
• Canada
26 Jun 08
I'm going to go for a different point of view. I don't judge people period and anyone who does doesn't know themselves very well. anyway, I think if they keep their appearance clean...ignorant people wouldn't judge them. I assumed they were any race other than African American just because of the fact that she stated that people mistake them for girls which kind of sounds like they have hair in their faces, but anyway I think they should still get a trim and line up no matter what race they are just because of good grooming and the hair will be healthier for whomever receives it.
@Laydee83 (275)
• Atlanta, Georgia
25 Jun 08
I come from a very mixed area and believe that judging if for losers. This is just like a teenager getting a tattoo or maybe a lip piercing, etc. - all approved and allowed by their parents. I feel what your boys are doing is very sweet. And for him at age 9 to come and ask if he can donate his hair shows your parenting skills are A+. I'm sorry that society sucks and that everyone feels the need to point the finger except at themselves who are sinning my judging. I am NOT brining religion into this but the only one that can judge us is the man upstairs. Other than that...you guys are doing very well at ignoring the whispers and pointing. Best of luck to you and your family. If only more families could do good deeds.
• United States
26 Jun 08
You are right god is the only person who can judge anyone and theses losers will answer to him.
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
30 Jun 08
I'm a product of the 70's and I love long hair on men...in fact I've only dated one man ever that had short hair. It amazed me back then how people could judge people for things like that but it amazes me even more so now. In answer to your question...No , I would not judge a kid for the length of their hair. My youngest daughter is 14 and she brought home a friend of hers whose hair was all spiked up and different colors. Odd looking...oh yes but i will tell you, he was the sweetest kid. Sounds as if you have raised some good kids. The judgements of others speak more of them than they do your boys.
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
26 Jun 08
Everybody seems to have an inclination to judge children. They never think back to when they were the same way and did worse things. Most of the time they should really mind their own business. Its a case of the splinter you see and the log in your own eyes. When I see a kid misbehave I automatically blame the parents. Children are not usually the ones really responsible for their behaviour. When I was young and had long hair my father used to say I was a Beatle. I didn't mind. I liked the Beatles.
@deebomb (15322)
• United States
26 Jun 08
When I was a kid way back in the day the boys were judged by their hair cut too. It wasn't long hair. It Was what was called ducktails. The boys that had them were the so called bad boys. Then later the boys were sporting longer hair when Elvis Presley became popular. When the Beatles were popular it was even longer. I don't judge any one by the way they wear their hair as long as it is clean. You can be very proud of your boys. It is wonderful that your son is wanting to give his hair for other kids with cancer.
@paroloza (140)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Don't let those people anger you! The only thing that should make you angry and sad were if your boys would be faulty, and even then you better should look how to help them. Other people's opinion speak only of other people's mind. The Bible says: To the pure, everything is pure. As neither intellect nor morality of a person are expressed through hairstyle, those beautiful long hairs should only go off for the noble purpose you mention. Cheers!