Okay should I Confront

United States
June 25, 2008 7:26pm CST
Should i confront a guy that i have been living with for 2 months about what he has been saying about me???? This is what he has been saying about me: He could digest his food better if i wasn't at the dinner table and that he rather run a mile than hear me talk... He also has been plotting to get rid of my dog teddy bear talking about about killing him with antifreeze or just opening the fence and letting him run away... This guy is a jerk so should i confront him about his problem with me and my dog???
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@loujac3 (1188)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Yesterday you talked about your husband and one of his old girlfriends that was harrassing you. This isn't your husband who is talking this way is it? If it is an additional roommate then it sounds like he needs to leave. Anyone that would intentionally do harm to an animal is evil. He needs to be set straight about his attitude. Good luck!
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• United States
26 Jun 08
your right its not my husband talking all this stuff it another room mate
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• Barbados
26 Jun 08
If you have only been together for two months and he is saying this behind your back, then he is not the one for you , a relationship is built on trust. as for if to confront him , the day you begin to stay silent is the day your life ends.
• United States
26 Jun 08
this is not my husband.... My husband keeps telling me to ignore him and this guy should be moving out in a week thank god
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Your kidding right? You wonder if you should confront him? Sure, go ahead - THEN RUN! This man isn't playing with a full deck. Anyone who could talk about killing someone's pet will often resort to more serious abuse later. I guess I just don't understand why you would stay in household like this?
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• United States
26 Jun 08
I pretty much have to till i found a apartment... Which i am looking for but this guy is also leaving in a couple days...
• United States
26 Jun 08
If this is who I think it is, then just let it be. Don't confront him cause he's just being a jerk. Also, he'll be leaving soon. People who say bad things about people are just unhappy with themselves. Don't stoop to his level. Hope this helps.
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• United States
26 Jun 08
thank you gurl... And it who you think it is lol... ERR but i wanna say something so bad its killing me.... I can't believe he was plotting to get rid of my dog i will kill someone for my dog shoot that muther f-ing in between his eyes.. Sorry i'm just so mad about this that all this has been said while i was here in the house... I'm scared to even live this guy
@buldwgz (1483)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Of course you should confront him about it. Just ask him, but dont be violent or come across as angry. Find out if there is anything you can do to help the situation. We all get on each others nerves at times, no need to make it worse, but you definitley should confront him.
• United States
27 Jun 08
Thank you for you advice... This guy isn't my husband, but my husband is telling me i need to ignore him cause he will be gone in a week
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@buldwgz (1483)
• United States
28 Jun 08
Sounds like your husband may be right too, but I would still confront him. LOL.
• United States
29 Jun 08
I still wanna confront him too...
@jeanena (1616)
• Bucklin, Kansas
26 Jun 08
Have you spoken to the people that you are staying with about this guys comments? Keep your little Teddy Bear with you as much as you can .Is this guy a woman hater or just a total A$$hole? Maybe you should make some cookies just for him Chocolate exlax variety , cause dang he sounds like he is full of IT. Seriously talk to your hosts about it and if he is leaving then there wont be much more gained by confrontation.
• United States
26 Jun 08
This guy is supposedly leaving in like a week... So that will be good
• United States
26 Jun 08
THe owners of the house were the ones that told me about this...
• Turkey
26 Jun 08
I don't know because this guy sounds like a real quack. If I were you I would perhaps give him notice that you will be looking for another place and start looking. You don't want or need to be living with an unstable person. If he should ask you why you want to move out, I would tell him what you have been hearing but try to do it in a non argumentive tone because he sounds a little off and you don't want to prevoke him. However, I would move out of there ASAP if I were you...
• United States
26 Jun 08
This is not his house thank god... Its another couples and soon this guy will be moving out in about 5 days i think..
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• Turkey
26 Jun 08
Oh thank goodness, that's great news!
@munhozmib (3853)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
26 Jun 08
Hello! Why in the hell are you living with somebody like that? You must confront him, but do not be agressive. Speak calmly, and let him get his anger. I think that, more than just saying, you should leave where you are right now. You don't need him to live, just go get your life and forget him! Let him cook his own food and let him run his miles, since you won't be there to talk to him. By the way, how do you know that he is talking those things about you? Rumors are everywhere, so be careful! And EXTREMELY careful, I mean. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
• United States
22 Jul 08
I didn't conront him and he said that all that as a lie and that he didn't say that stuff about me which i think is crap i think he is lying to me.. Which he has moved out of the house and everything is going great now with out him... I don't have to be scared in my own house anymore..
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@munhozmib (3853)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
31 Jul 08
I am glad that you can now have peace at your own home. Really, I am glad for you. You just got rid of a big problem.
@vanities (11387)
• Davao, Philippines
26 Jun 08
you must i guess...and ask him to confirm all what you had heared about against you...when you say living together ..is that mean as a partner or just a room mate or something..
• United States
26 Jun 08
As a room mate i'm married and i rent a room from another couple and he is another room mate
• United States
26 Jun 08
I knew it was him. He's said stuff about me but hehind my back to my hubby. I wasn't happy, but my hubby told me to let it go. He's leaving soon and you'll probably never see him again. No need to stress it.
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@rane0328 (129)
• United States
30 Jun 08
ok first question is why in the world r u still living with him?????? I mean that just don't seem right in its self. But yeah if i were you i would comfront him b/c ten to one what u r saying he said is all hear say and might not actually b tru. so calmly ask him what the deal is b/c if u blow up at him for this and he never really said it then he will probebly be pretty offended that u took the other persons word before asking him about it?
• United States
30 Jun 08
This is a room mate. THank god he will be leaving in a couple of days
• United States
28 Jun 08
He's your room mate, I'm thinking? I hope he's not your guy. Anyway, about the bad mouther. Dump his sorry butt to the curb. Tell him to get another apartment. Find some reason to throw him out. You deserve a nicer room mate. That's my thoughts on the subject. Be well! Best of luck.
• United States
29 Jun 08
So yeah hes not my husband... He just a room mate... And he will be gone in a few days thank god...
@bevvy22 (279)
• United States
28 Jun 08
This gut sounds like a real a*&$*@#. I would pack my stuff and just leave while he's at work or asleep. It sounds as though maybe he's dropping these rude hints for you to leave him and make you look like you couldn't handle the relationship. I'd leave sure as hell. Good luck.
• United States
28 Jun 08
THank god this guy isn't my husband, My husband tells me to ignore him because he will be going in a week... This guy has no relation to me, He just another room mate.
@elmiko (6640)
• United States
27 Jun 08
Oh my, what an intolerable he is. We have 1 dog and 5 cats and I must admit at times I get very annoyed but still love there company. I wonder what causes him to be so miserable. Ric Flairs quote always gives me comfort which states "If you don't like it learn to love it because its the greatest thing going today". I try to do this instead of saying oh you remember the times those were pretty good times.
• United States
27 Jun 08
My husband is tellin me to ignore him cause in a week he will be gone... He going to move out in a week...
@Hatley (164471)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 08
pixiedustforyou why are you living with this jerk? what earthly good could you get from this neanderthal?Confront him hell girl, you take off with Teddy Bear and let the' jerk go get his jollies from some other poorgirl who doesnt 'know what she is in for.You said it, he is a jerk so why are you living with him? get out and find a guy who likes you and would love to eat with you at the dinner table and loves your dog TeddyBear. good luck and God bless.
• United States
27 Jun 08
Thank god i'm not married to this guy. but my husband says that i just need to ignore him cause he about ot move out a week... Thank god...
@zhuuraan (967)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Take your dog and leave. This guy sounds like he has some serious problems and you don't need to keep hanging around him. He sounds like a total sicko and you really don't need to be stressed out by living with a guy like that. Find somewhere else to go, find another roommate or do something and don't tell him your new address. Don't give him any way of finding you. I would stay as far away from a person like this as possible. Don't confront him or it might make the situation worse. Just try to get away and never see him again.
• United States
26 Jun 08
this guy will be moving out in a week thank god.. My husband i are lookingfor an apartment as soon as we find one we will be out of here
@chitchat (179)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Definitely. And you should really stop living with him, either kick him out or leave yourself. He clearly doesn't deserve you and he needs to not be in your life anymore. I don't know you, but I do know that no one should be treated like that. You can and will do better than him. Confront him, leave him, then move on to better things.
• United States
26 Jun 08
This guy is not my boyfriend or husband.. My husband says to leave it alone... I think my husband and I are going to move out but the problem is finding an apartments.. Until than i think this guy is going to move out in a week or so.. Thank god
26 Jun 08
yes confront him for one thats is so rude! and thats animal abuse to do that!
• United States
26 Jun 08
I think it is too... he very rude all he wants to do is talk about himself and his achievements and how better than everone he is.
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
26 Jun 08
If hes posing threats against your dog you either must take action or move out. I mean its one thing for roomates not to get along, but thats going way to fair I believe. Id talk to him first, see what his motives for saying those things were. You might have heard a wrong story or something, give him the benefit of the doubt. But if what he said was true and he is a danger to your dog, Im pretty sure you wouldnt want to live with him anymore. Move out or kick him out.
• United States
26 Jun 08
hes supposably moving out in a week or so, I think i my dog and I wil be fine after he moves out. Thank God and thank you for you advice
@bubbles89 (122)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Hi Pixie, I would confront him. For several reasons. The first one is the way he views you. I know we all say things we don't mean especially out of anger. So maybe you should just clarify and make sure if it was just something that was said in the midst of frustration. Next, your dog. That would worry me. Does he not like animals or is it just this particular animal. Also, was this done during a fight? Finally, after you've gotten everything squared away and your questions ansered maybe you should move on? I've always said that I would rather be unhappy by myself than be with someone and be unhappy. Just something to ponder. Have a great day and God bless:0)
• United States
26 Jun 08
This was not said in a the heat of a fight.. He just doesn't like me dog becuase hes small... He doesn't think me dog is a dog cause he is small.. Bu whatever my dog has been with e in thick and Thin hes been there for me in the worst part of my life... So you can't just get rid of a dog like that
@focjop20 (233)
• Puerto Rico
26 Jun 08
If this is the same guy, as before the one who like to be spanked, tie down, and others subtmisions things; forget about him his not good for anything.
• United States
27 Jun 08
No this is one of my room mates. we have 5 people in this house including me... there are two couple and than him... Well my husband wants me to ignore him because he will be gone in a week