Would you dare to get romantically involved w/ somebody who is already involved?

@angelamp (241)
Philippines
June 30, 2008 10:52pm CST
I am just wondering if anybody here would dare to get involved with somebody who is already involved? If you like a person so much, would you go through great heights and lengths just to have a "relationship" with that person even though if you know that he/she already has a girlfriend/boyfriend? I find it absurd and really tricky but I am curious how other people think of such a situation?
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I don't believe in that. I hate seeing men and women going on with another man or woman outside of their own marriage or relationship. Relationships are sanctified, and one should not cheat on another for they are only cheating themselves. I am sure I will get a lot of ridicule for this belief, but love is a very powerful thing and should not be taken for granted. Have a Great day.
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• Australia
1 Jul 08
Oh how true - [i]one should not cheat on one another for they are only cheating themselves[/i] - well said! I guess that people who have low self worth get involved in situations like this, it is sad actually.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
2 Jul 08
I think that a bit of people do do this because they have low self worth, and it is very sad to see this. I am sure there are other reasons, but I would think the worst would be to get back at your bf or gf for cheating on you. It is just plain stupid.
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@angelamp (241)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
yes... just plain STUPID!!! :D
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@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I think it is just plain wrong to get involved with someone if you are already devoted to another,you should never cheat on your partner,because all it does is hurt them,and hurt yourself whether you realize or admit it.
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• Australia
1 Jul 08
I wouldnt do it and i wouldnt want anybody to do it to me. I have been hurt before and now im recently married,it would not be worth the pain and heartache of going through it all. For me,four people not just one would be hurt. what ever happened to being moral and monogamous?
@angelamp (241)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
well said :D
• Philippines
1 Jul 08
How about those in a really lonely relationship? What about those people stuck in an unhappy boring relationship that has no way out? I got into a relationship with someone who had a gf because he was not happy, he didn't love the girl anymore and has no way out. I took the risk, waited for 3 months until he broke it off with her finally, and then he is currently my bf for 2 years now. Yes, it is cheating. I do not deny it. But it is also saving the one that i love from utter unhappiness and despair. And i do not regret doing so.(^^,)
@angelamp (241)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
well this is a "free" world vermillion... :D
• Australia
1 Jul 08
I would never play second fiddle in someones life - that is, be their second choice. That just does not suit me. I wouldn't do that to someone else so why should I have to live that way. When your soul mate comes along you will know because they will make you feel like you are the most important thing in the world and that is exactly what you deserve. I think that it is just as much fault of the person getting involved in a 'three-way' relationship as it is the person actually taking on the 'extra person'. When this sort of thing happens it shows a lack of respect for self. Morally no one should ever get into this situation. Emotionally, cheating is abusive not only to yourself but the other people involved. I would not degrade myself, I have a much higher respect for myself. I could not carry on a friendship with someone in this sort of relationship either. Hrmm, sorry to sound harsh, I guess I feel strongly about this subject!
@angelamp (241)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
To me you don't sound harsh...you are free to express your own opinion :D anyway,you are right in almost all if not all of the points you made. It really is degrading...but why do other people do such things? some people don't get contented with what they have eh? i myself wouldn't want such a situation in my life. :D
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
24 Apr 09
Would you dare to get involved? No I wouldn't waste my time or theirs...... It would be a waste of energy b/c if they already have someone they are not going to want to leave that person for you, esp. if they are sexually satisfied.
@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
I think i would go for it only if i think that i deserve her more than her current boyfriend. There are times when you the see the person you love and she is unhappy with her relationship. I think it's a lot of wasted feelings since you feel that you can give her the happiness she deserves. We have to be cautious though because stealing someone is a serious matter.
@chaiizky (101)
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
it's definitely a no-no for the society and it's bad to hurt other people but we all have have different orientations and there could be a lot of other factors which would make you go for a person who is already involved with someone else. why would you limit yourself, right? i've always been the one who says "follow your heart" regardless if you're wrong in the end, at least you tried it. you had the time of your life. tomorrow you can die.