Should I stay of should I go

@p1kef1sh (45642)
July 2, 2008 10:02am CST
A couple of months ago I gave myLot a breather and went elsewhere. I left as a protest about something and came back after a respectable period. However, whilst away I started a blog. Nothing too fancy, but a few people found it and came and chatted to me every so often. Then I came back to myLot and everything reverted to normal. I still have the blog however. But it is much neglected. I visit occasionally, but have written little of consequence for some time. I am not happy about this. But I don't really have time for both. My dilemma is: do I stay on myLot and continue maintaining my blog when I remember. Alternatively, should I reverse the trend and concentrate on the blog, visiting myLot occasionally? I'd be grateful for any thoughts that you might have.
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@nannacroc (4049)
2 Jul 08
Please stay here. I couldn't work out how to read your webble. Yes, I know I'm a bit dim and you should have known that anyway.
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@p1kef1sh (45642)
2 Jul 08
Are you calling me dim Nanna. Remember that anything that you are I am too! My webble is easy when you know how. But it's the knowing that's the problem.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18121)
• United States
29 Jul 08
Well P1ke we would miss you sooo much if you only visited Mylot occasionally.. But I would say to you, do what makes you feel the happiest, do you feel bettter blogging or posting at Mylot? Of course if you left us to long here to twiddle our thumbs we would have to get goodie to give you a few lashes with her brush..just like you like it.
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@p1kef1sh (45642)
29 Jul 08
I'd miss everyone here too. My blog is suffering from a lack of attention though. The thought of Goodie coming after me is a strangely compelling one. LOL.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18121)
• United States
30 Jul 08
Well we would have to do somehting to get you to come back..lol Life is just so much more interesting when your around..lol You bring life to Mylot.
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@mummymo (23709)
4 Jul 08
I will be absolutely desolate if you go anywhere young man and even although I love your blogs I think you should concentrate on mylot and continue with them just the way you have been! I meant to tell you I have been reading your blogs but can't remember my password so haven't left any comments! Hugs xxx
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@p1kef1sh (45642)
4 Jul 08
I didn't think that anyone went anywhere near my blogs Mummymo. I hope that whatever you read there was OK. You shouldn't have to use a password. They are all enabled to allow anonymous comments.
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@mummymo (23709)
4 Jul 08
Well I do and i love reading them! I didn't think of being anonymous as I have a user name but perhaps next time I could just use the anonymous thing and tell you it is me! Darn my memory! lol xxx
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@novataylor (6572)
• United States
2 Jul 08
You're needed here. That's clear from the responses I've read above. Your blog is wonderful, and I love it, and I think you should continue it, but the Lot is different. It's got that interaction, that socialization thing, ya know? You need that. And we need you. And I need you here. So there's your answer. But how about you set aside a time to write in the blog? Like others have said, but maybe only 3 days a week or something. You can get it set. Hey, I know. Why not do your blog on the days you work a the cathedral? You'll have that schedule, so you can use the same one for blogging. That way, you've got a set time each week, before you go to the cathedral, to write in your blog. Ack, I don't know, but it's not a terrible idea anyway. I just know I want you here.
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@xsquid (111)
• Indonesia
3 Jul 08
hi, I'm thinking why don't you just arrange the your time?? like spend 1-2 hours on myLot , and spend another 1 hour on your blog every day? I think an hour to update blog is enough, unless your gonna write a 10 pages diary every day lol ^^
• India
6 Jul 08
When you come back to mylot you need to continue your work with mylot, while maintianing your blog you can spend some time here too, we are very happy to see here, we hope the same in future too.
@p1kef1sh (45642)
6 Jul 08
Thank you Twistershot.
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@gabs8513 (48764)
• United Kingdom
4 Jul 08
P1ke I am like you I have Gissi's Website and I have not been there for a while I also belong to another 2 Social Sites so I just split my time as I can between them lol Gissi's Web needs attending to again and I will be doing it in the next 2 weeks I hope you do not come away from here as I would miss you
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@p1kef1sh (45642)
4 Jul 08
I think that I have found a compromise Gabs. I shall be here and there for the foreseeable future. Hope that you are feeling a lot better.
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@dorypanda (1584)
4 Jul 08
Well, as you may know I do have a blog, it's 'Dorywold', which is the world I live in most of the time. :) My blog's just ramblings and me talking about my day etc, kind of a diary but a bit more interesting than that. I enjoy 'doryworld' because I've got friends there, the friends there are free to chat as much as they want, which unfortunately MyLot doesn't seem to like, so it's wonderful to just be able to chat away and ramble and stuff. I pop to MyLot sometimes, but sometimes I forget to do it, I prefer the blog for peopleyness, but MyLot because I can earn on here. I suppose it's a matter of do you want to chat more or do you want to earn more.
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@p1kef1sh (45642)
4 Jul 08
I don't really have any friends on my blog Dory. I just write what I want and if people come along that's fine, but I'm not too bothered either way. I have some good friends here and I would miss them if I left. As for earnings. I make a little. But I wouldn't want to depend on it for my mortgage payment!
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@successlog (3172)
• China
3 Jul 08
hello my dear friend, you should not go.i think you should make a schedule for your wokr.I think there is a lot of free time we do both on mylot or write your blog.I suggest your hold both.you are my friend, i will miss you if you leave..just conside it well.you can do it well.
@p1kef1sh (45642)
3 Jul 08
I think that I have worked our what I need to do now. Thank you for your support Successlog.
• United States
3 Jul 08
well i havent had anything good to blog about lately so i havent.. that and i was really active in a community that had no security on who could and could not look into your blog so since i knew anyone could look at it i never blogged about personal things so i got out of the habit of doing it altogether!! im gonna start it back up but im not gonna do one here.. i already have places on myspace and livejournal and are friends only and etc so that i know exactly who is viewing it and etc since i dont want certain people accessing certain things.. but im weird. i can be totally open with things that most people arent but on regular things i am more secretive but that just comes from having several stalkers in my past.. i guess you could either try to do both and separate your time or do certain things on certain days or search for a place that offers both better
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@sid556 (31006)
• United States
3 Jul 08
i think but i don't know but i think i know what you mean....I write...its my passion. I tend to neglect it because well, it is not as entertaining as mylot is. there isnt as much feedback and it is often long in coming. here, you write and the responses are for the most part instantanious. I'll never be a famous writer and so the other stuff i do...i do when im into it and dont stress over it anymore. I do what i feel like doing when I feel like it. some days i just cant get into here or there and i just let it go. sometimes i let my other writing sites go for weeks and it seems right...its no big deal....i just go with what seems right at the time.
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@p1kef1sh (45642)
3 Jul 08
I think thats a very healthy way to look at it Sid. I have come up with a solution I think. Like you I enjoy my writing. As for me being a good writer. No chance!
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@ruby222 (4848)
2 Jul 08
A choice that only you can make Piky,sometimes you can just have a little too much of someting and tire yourself of it,but you do a grand job posting away here on Mylot,and im sure the majority would totally agree with me.But it may be a good idea to try a different forum now and again and branch out,or incorporate another into your routine.But as you point out there are only so amy hours in a day and there just isnt time for everything !!..just sit quietly and think ...what is it that YOU want to do??what YOU want out of life??...the answer will come ....
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@p1kef1sh (45642)
2 Jul 08
Indeed it is my choice Ruby. I'm not talking about leaving myLot, just easing up a lot. It's all about timing.
@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
30 Jul 08
You must decide where you heart is at this time being, you needn't give up one of them permanently you just don't have the time for both at this time. I see no harm in putting little effort in one of the two and more in the other, that way you don't have to let go of either one of them. You could make a pro and con list and see which one has the most pro's or the least bad cons (sometimes you write down one con but this can be a pretty important one to you and outrule 5 others). Good luck deciding!
@p1kef1sh (45642)
30 Jul 08
I am always amaze by people that can do several networking sites, and run a home and job and raise their children. I spend too much time here as it is and struggle to fit my blog in too. My blog is where I "write", here I play. Right now I have no confidence in my writing anyway so I might as well play. But eventually I shall struggle back and maybe disappear from here for a day or two. I have that list i my head. You can see where the pros lie mostly because I am here more often than not.
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@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
30 Jul 08
LOL, as long as you still have fun it's ok. Make sure you don't get overworked with everything and stay healthy and happy. See you around and have a great day!
@p1kef1sh (45642)
30 Jul 08
Thank you.
@ellie333 (21029)
2 Jul 08
I am totally biased here as I am not good with computers and have mastered myLot but even though have been into blog can't understand how it all works so I'd rather you stay here, perhaps do a daily story here for discussion, but that is only because I don't understand blogs and also because I would miss you very very muchly if you weren't here. Ellie :D
@p1kef1sh (45642)
2 Jul 08
I have no intention of leaving myLot yet Ellie. Although that day will come I am certain. I am just trying to work out how I can continue with the blog, which was my refuge when I staged my protest and was something that I enjoyed. I'd miss too many people here to up and go. When I do go, i won't be posting a discussion about it. I'll just go. But you'll know. I've got your e mail address.
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@ellie333 (21029)
2 Jul 08
I agree 100% with katiedouble, you must do whatever makes you happy and thanks for letting me know when you do. I'll be taking some time out soon too I think soon but likewise will email you and let you know. Ellie :D
• United States
3 Jul 08
Pikey, I have this same dilemma. When I am not online it means I am busy with work, and then when I get back to mylot I am so far behind that by the time I get caught up, I am busy with work again. That leaves my blog which is something I really want to build on just out there hanging and flapping in the wind... I have thought about this and I do believe I am going to for right now concentrate on updating my blog one day a week. Make it a priority at least once a week, at least for an hour or so. By the way where is that pub story? I am not sure I ever caught on to where you were writing that.
@p1kef1sh (45642)
3 Jul 08
I am coming to exactly the same conclusion Angel. I have three blogs running now! I'll send you the link. If I spend a day or so a week blogging, and the rest of the time here, then that might be the balance that I am seeking.
• United States
3 Jul 08
Right now, I'm in a place where money is at the top of my list of things I need the most. Spend more time on the site that brings forth the most cash each month for regular visitation. I'm sorry for whatever happened to you in the past. I've heard that people make more money from blogging. Being a student, I can't do much of anything. I wish you luck.
@p1kef1sh (45642)
3 Jul 08
Whilst I don't do this especially for the money now, I can well understand how useful the income can be. My protest was about the way someone else was treated by a former member here, I was so angry that I left the site for a couple of weeks. Good luck to you.
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
it depens on you which one is your priority and where are you happy and gives much interest to you. I think its the satisfaction thing that you should choose what is going to be prioritize... but, if you can entertain both at a time, i think you should continue both... that it is a different kind of community and being with the two communitites i think you can share and learn new ideas and though at the same you will gain lot of dozens of friends from the two...
@p1kef1sh (45642)
3 Jul 08
I have found a compromise that I hope will work. Thank you for responding.
@paid2write (5202)
3 Jul 08
I started my blog just before I joined myLot and it was my intention to blog every day and to develop my blog. However since joining myLot I usually blog once or twice a week and I post at myLot every day. I must say I enjoy myLot more than I do blogging, but I am getting new myLot referrals from my blog and many myLotters visit my blog, so it works both ways. I think you should keep up with both. If you can write on your blog once or twice a week, put your blog link on your myLot profile and write about myLot on your blog, you could benefit by doing both.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
3 Jul 08
As much as I have enjoyed responding to your discussions here on Mylot, I think that it is only fair to tell you that I think you should do whatever you think is best.
@p1kef1sh (45642)
3 Jul 08
Thank you Rozie. I think I have worked out an acceptable compromise.
@vanities (11343)
• Davao, Philippines
3 Jul 08
i guess you can do whatever you think is more convenient for you on this regard...but if you wish to be active here and at the same time on bloggings then you have to manage your time to be available to each site..what about your personal thing? i mean the time when you go out with your wife , do some shopping or work in the process..can you really handle that??
@p1kef1sh (45642)
3 Jul 08
It's all about balance Vanities. I think I have worked this out now so that I can give both places time.
• United States
2 Jul 08
Well, I see you dilemma and I understand. I believe you should visit your myLot occasionally; you will still be able to respond to the comments people leave but not as often. This way you will still be able to still concentrate on your blog. I hope my short paragraph was able to help you.
@p1kef1sh (45642)
2 Jul 08
Yes thank you. That was helpful. I am formulating something that will give me time to do both.